Tu lis presque dans mes pensées Michelle. On n'invente pas cette réalité elle existe.
«Je pense sincèremt que plusieur ne désire que trouver une femme pour sortir du pays mais je les comprend et ne les condamne pas. Combien de femme ici essaient de se trouver un homme avec de l'argent?? pour se sortir de .....»
«Parcontre je ne suis pas certaine que si ils sortent de Cuba ils seront gagnant. puisque à la longue il seront comme nous. »
Oui, effectivement ils seront comme nous qui courront trop souvent après notre queue. Dans mon travail d'intervenante auprès de nouveaux arrivants, il m'arrive souvent de m'attrister de voir de jeunes personnes qui immigrent non pas pour des motifs de persécution politique mais pour chercher une terre plus fertile que la leur. Alors, ils quittent l'Île Maurice, l'Inde, la Tunésie pour se retrouver dans un tout petit appartement souvent minable dans un quartier de béton. On dirait alors des poissons colorés qui ont sauté hors de l'eau.
Je pense à tout ça quand je pense à Jorge. Je l'informe graduellement des pours et des contres d'une société démocratique. Je souhaite qu'il prenne conscience que sont eau est Cuba, qu'il devra toujours garder pour son pays et ses valeurs une grande place dans son coeur et dans sa vie et y retourner le plus souvent possible, si un jour il décide de partir.
moi je me reveille en pensant a lui, et je m endors en y revant...la musique de notre temps passer ensemble me hante continuellement................et j'ai mal par moment...mal d'être ici seule, sans lui, dans un pays de glace et de neige, je déblaye ma voiture en pleurant depuis 2 semaines...
C'est une belle aventure en tous cas...on dirait que je vis dans l'irreel depuis que je suis tombé pour lui...je reves de ses traits si doux, de son sourire si parfait, de son odeur........
Je vais finir par trouvé un moyen....et j espere que vous aussi les amoureuses et amoureux
Ah ah, les filles, voici un avis masculin qui arrive (ironman). Demandez-lui de vous éclairer de sa lanterne, y'a pas mieux qu'un avis masculin dans des histoires de filles amoureuses.
je pense que les homme d'ici aurais bien aventage a aprendre de ces hommes hyper respectueux et candide. ont dirait qu'ils ne savent pas ce qu'est la méchancé gratuite, et qu'a la limite il sont eux même peut-être un peu naîf mais tellement beau dans cette naiveté. Il n'expédie pas une conversation parce qu'elle est un peu difficile. et prennent le temps (parcequ'il ont une patience légendaire) de règler le probleme avant de passer à autre chose.
Tout a fait d accord, ici les hommes n'ont rien en commun avec les hommes cubains, et ils sont beaucoup a apprendre d'eux!!Les femmes sont incroyablement respectées par les cubains....et surtout par Fidel, leur premier ministre, et ce n'est pas l'avis d'un seul homme qui me fera changer d'idée, et pourtant il y a pleins d'hommes qui sont amoureux de Cubaines...j en connais meme deux qui vivent la bas illegalement pour etre avec elles...haaa l'amour!
Et si les hommes d'ici savaient danser aussi!!!😉Sans rancune les mecs!!!
Reste que les personnes les plus douces, romantiques, charmantes et genereuses que j ai connu dans ma vie etaient tous cubains...ils ont la douceur et la chaleur du soleil dans leur peau, dans leur coeur, et dans leurs yeux
Si l'on excepte le rejet de l'autre-identique il n'en reste pas moins un bel éloge à la différence sur ce message!
Sans rien ôter à ce que vous dites "les amoureuses" (moi, c'est d'un homme que je tombe amoureuse, pas d'un ensemble de caractéristiques propres à un groupe d'hommes!) il est vrai que la musique d'une langue étrangère, l'exotisme et l'incompréhension relative ne peuvent qu'ajouter au fantasme qui préside nécessairement à toute attirance amoureuse...
Ainsi vos Canadiens décriés sur ton messages revêtent pour moi le charme dont ils manquent à vos yeux! 😉
En tous cas, continuez... moi, c'est la suite des feuilletons que j'aime lire sur cette discussion...
Loin de moi l'idée d'optenir un mutisme de ta part avec ma réponse . Je ne prend peut-être pas un ordre me disant de me ''réveiller', mais une opinion même si je ne l'aime pas sera toujours bienvenue.😉
Salut les filles ! Voici un avis un avis féminin : J'ai travaillé deux ans dans des centres de villégiature aux Bahamas, en République Dominicaine, j'ai travaillé aussi avec des cubains là-bas. Les filles une façade... Sont entraînés dans l'art de la "drague" depuis qu'ils ont 10 ans ! Ils semblent peut-être être les meilleurs hommes au monde, sauf que leur baratin est répété à chaque femme touriste qu'ils rencontrent. Le but c'est de leur faire croire qu'elles sont précieuses, qu'elles se croient en amour et d'obtenir des cadeaux et le top du top : un visa ! J'suis désolée les filles mais j'en ai trop vu... Trop vu de filles comme vous se faire avoir. Mais si vous voulez profitez-en car c'est vrai qu'ils peuvent être bons mais ne les prenez pas au sérieux...
Précision : Bien que j'apprécie l'ensemble des caractéristiques de ce peuple, je ne suis pas tombée amoureuse de la culture mais bien de l'homme avec qui j'ai partagé des moments agréables. Ce ne sont pas tout les cubains qui me font vibrer...heureusement ! L'homme que j'ai rencontré là-bas m'a d'abord touché par l'intégrité qu'il dégageait...oui oui l'intégrité. J'étais avec trois amis, deux gars et une fille, dont un couple qui partageaient aussi mon sentiment. Et nous n'en sommes pas à notre premier voyage, ni à notre première rencontre d'étrangers.
Merci Cacaouette pour ce témoiniage qui, pour ma part, restera dans ma mémoire comme une petite lumière rouge au cas ou mais qui ne m'empèchera pas de vivre a fond ce que j'ai envie de vivre de toute façon. Hey ben je fait des rimes maintenant loll😛
Et comme le dit Catalyna c'est un échange. au pire je me fait un autre beaux voyage au soleil, sans parler de la compagnie de mon bel homme, des gens que je vais rencontrer ect.
J'ai une amie chez qui je vais au US de temps a autre et je peux vous dire que si je demeure chez elle c'est certain que je lui paie un souper au resto ( au minimum) pour la remercier et comme elle est habituer à la grande classe croyez-moi ça minotte assez vite et en US en plus. Alors faire plaisir à ma chum ou à un homme avec qui je peu développer une relation et avoir du plaisir pour moi je ne vois pas le problème.
... On pourrait comparer avec "arnaque d'un beau parleur, toutes nationalités confondues"...
Tous ces témoignages me font immédiatement penser à d'autres mésaventures amoureuses vécues par plusieurs d'entre nous, victimes d'un séduisant garçon qui vous déclare que vous êtes la plus merveilleuse rencontre de sa vie ! Et qui vous laissera tomber une fois obtenu ce qu'il désirait ! Vous êtes restées meurtries, le coeur en lambeaux, déçues et désormais sur vos gardes quand un autre prince charmant croisera votre route... Que ce soit à Cuba, au Togo, au Maroc... ou en France !
Wow les filles, enfin je me sens moins stupide... Je me sentais vraiment trop conne de m'être attachée à un go et là quand je lis tout ca, je me sens moins seule. La seule chose c'est que moi c'était en République Dominicaine. Je suis vraiment melée... J'y retourne en mai pour voir si mes impressions (bonnes et mauvaises) sont vraies. Je trouve ca bizarre par exemple que ce soit seulement (ou presque) des histoires avec des cubains qui apparaissent ici...
Est ce qu'il y a d'autre fille qui comme moi se sont laissé charmées par un beau p'tit dominicain???
Salut apitchoum..peut etre devrait tu faire un petit voyage a Cuba!!!Non sans niaiser je connais aussi deux filles qui sont en Rep Dom presentement chez leur chums dominicains, je te donnerais des nouvelles a leur retour...elles ont eu peur avant de partir car elle s n avaine tpas boucké d hotel...et dans leur maison, il n'y avai pas l'eau cahude et autres détails quelles trouvaient fort important...
Hi everyone, could someone help me out? I can’t find a solution because I need to get married in France with my partner, who is Cambodian. Her birth village refuses to provide a certificate of custom—they just won’t do it. I contacted the Cambodian embassy in France, and they told me that her village’s town hall should just give her a document stating they can’t issue it, signed and stamped. So, my partner went back and asked again in writing, but they still refused. At this point, I don’t know what to do, especially since my partner has to come to France in September to get married at the town hall, and they’re asking for the same thing. Can anyone help?
Best regards.
My husband and I have just gone through this stage of a Franco-Togolese marriage—he’s Togolese, and I’m French.
Given how complicated things can get with the administration, I thought I’d leave this post here. If you’d like advice or want to learn from our experience, don’t hesitate to ask...
Hi, it's Joyce—I’ve got a little issue. I’d like to know if you need a passport to start the CCAM process at the French Embassy in Yaoundé, or if it’s better to do it when registering the birth. Thanks!
Hello,
my Indian fiancé and I are getting married in France in a few weeks. Like many couples before us, we had extreme difficulties finding out the steps to follow in India to obtain the necessary documents for our marriage. We received no useful information from the Indian Embassy in Paris. It took us hours of research on traveler forums to gather scattered information and piece together the puzzle. I decided to summarize here the steps that allowed my fiancé to obtain the required papers, so other couples can struggle a little less than we did in the future.
I hope this post helps!
Context reminder: the list of documents required for a non-EU national to marry in France (see also www.service-public.fr):
Certificate of Custom: This is an explanation in French of the rules governing marriage eligibility in your country of origin. I read that some countries include proof that the applicant is indeed eligible. This is not the case for India.
Single-status certificate/marital capacity certificate. This is simply proof that you are eligible to marry under the laws of your country of origin.
Birth certificate.
All these documents must be less than 6 months old at the date of the banns publication.
The birth certificate and the single-status certificate must be apostilled. This procedure is linked to the international Hague Convention, of which both France and India are members. The apostille is a kind of stamp affixed to an official document by the authorities of the country where it was issued, giving it legal value in a third country.
How we obtained these documents:
The certificate of custom is very easy to obtain if you already live in France. You just need to go to the Indian Embassy in Paris with the required documents and pay the fees. We received it by mail the next day. The instructions on the Indian Embassy in Paris website are very clear (spring 2019). See also the VFS Global website (the company to which the embassy outsources consular activities).
Obtaining the single-status certificate was much more complicated. In France, a birth certificate is enough to prove whether you are married or not, as annotations are added for every major life event. In contrast, the Indian administration, although it can prove that someone is already married, is unable to prove that someone is still single. The only way to resolve this is to produce an affidavit. It took several trials and errors before we succeeded, as the administrators we dealt with generally did not know the procedure. Here’s what finally worked:
Prepare the affidavit on 100-rupee bond paper (first party: signatory; second party: Sub-Divisional Magistrate) at the Sub-Divisional Magistrate’s office in your place of birth. See Model No. 1 below. It must be signed by you and the Sub-Divisional Magistrate. For my fiancé, the latter only agreed to sign after presenting a certificate from the Tahsildar of his birth Taluk stating that he knew my fiancé was still single. If you don’t know the Tahsildar well, it might be useful to first request such a certificate from the "village accountant" before approaching the Tahsildar. We don’t know if the process would be the same in other districts than my fiancé’s.
Attestation at the Regional Commissioner’s (RC) office. The Ministry of External Affairs will only apostille documents that have been attested this way. In our case, we found clear information about the procedure on the Regional Commissioner’s website (required documents, cost, bond paper value). The RC asked us to justify why my fiancé needed a single-status certificate. Such certificates are usually requested by people wishing to join the army, in which case the RC receives a request letter. I asked the mayor of my village to sign such a letter (see Model No. 2, which I wrote myself). I come from a very small town, which was lucky here, as the mayor knows both of us personally and immediately agreed to do it. I have no idea if it would be as easy in a larger town. Once the document was submitted to the RC, it was sent back to the administrator who issued it for authentication. This back-and-forth should not take more than 25 days, but it may be useful to follow the progress of the procedure by calling or visiting the offices of both administrations regularly.
Send the attested documents to the Ministry of External Affairs (MEA) for apostille. In 2019, the Indian MEA only accepts apostille requests through private operators, whose list is available on the MEA website.
The birth certificate, once obtained from the municipality of your place of birth, follows the same procedure as the single-status certificate: attestation by the Regional Commissioner, then apostille at the Ministry of External Affairs.
Note: The Indian Embassy in Paris offers to issue a birth certificate. We recommend NOT GOING THROUGH THEM. The procedure is expensive, and they simply copy the information available on your passport. We seriously doubt the validity of such a document for marriage.
A few tips:
Obtaining these documents in India will require a lot of time, patience, and creativity! For us, more than 4 months passed between the moment my fiancé signed his single-status certificate and the day we had it apostilled in hand. In the meantime, there were dozens of phone calls and visits to various local administrations, a lot of brainstorming, and money wasted on canceled flights due to the monsoon.
If you have contacts in the local administration, don’t hesitate to use them. Also, if possible, closely monitor the progress of the procedures by calling or visiting the offices regularly, as mistakes are very common.
I recommend only requesting the certificate of custom once you’re close to having the other documents in hand, as it’s expensive, its issuance is very quick (at least if you both live in France; otherwise, I don’t know), and it’s only valid for 6 months.
All the steps for the birth certificate and the single-status certificate must be done in person, which can be complicated if you already live outside India. Some companies offer to handle it for you if you’re willing to pay. My fiancé bypassed the problem by designating his brother as an "Authorised representative" (a step taken at the notary of his birth Taluk). Once the single-status certificate was established in person, my fiancé’s brother was able to take over and complete the rest of the steps on his behalf. Finally, we asked the service provider handling the apostille to send the documents to our address in France via DHL (we don’t trust the postal service, as we’ve had mail stuck at customs for several weeks before).
My fiancé first tried to establish his single-status certificate at the notary of his birth Taluk. It didn’t work because the Regional Commissioner categorically refused to attest it. Indeed, it is generally forbidden to make any modifications to a document signed by a notary.
Once the birth certificate and the single-status certificate arrive in France, you must have them translated by a sworn translator registered with the Court of Appeal in your area. You can find the list on your Court of Appeal’s website. There are no sworn translators for all Indian languages! So, check beforehand if one exists for the language in which your certificates will be issued, or ensure they are issued in English.
Model No. 1 - Single-status certificate, affidavit
I, (name of applicant), son of (name of father) and (name of mother), with permanent address (address in India), solemnly affirm and declare as follows:
1. That I am a citizen of India
2. That I was born in (place of birth) on the (date of birth)
3. That I am holding a valid Indian passport bearing the number (passport number) issued at (place of issue) and valid from (date of issue) to (date of expiry).
4. That I am unmarried (single) and have no living spouse at present either in India or abroad
5. That I am eligible to marry an Indian or a person of any other nationality according to law.
6. That I am of sound health and in mentally fit condition
7. I further state that whatever stated therein is correct to the best of my knowledge.
I am aware that suppression of facts or furnishing false/misleading information is punishable under Indian law, under section 193(2), 199, 200 of the Indian Penal Code.
Solemnly declared at (place of signature) on (date of signature).
(your signature) (the subdivisional magistrate’s signature)
Model No. 2 – Request letter from the French mayor to the Indian Regional Commissioner
Dear Sir/Madam,
(English version below)
I, the undersigned (Mayor’s name), Mayor of the Commune of xxx, department of xxx, France, certify as follows.
Firstly, that
Mr./Ms. (Name of the Indian future spouse), citizen of India, passport No. xxx, issued in xxx on xxx, valid until xxx, residing at (address), INDIA,
and
Ms./Mr. (Name of the French future spouse), citizen of France, passport No. xxx, residing at (address), FRANCE,
have requested that I solemnize their marriage in my Commune under French law.
Secondly,
that French law requires me to request from Mr./Ms. (Name of the Indian future spouse) a certificate attesting to their single status.
Issued for all legal purposes.
(Place, date, stamp, and signature of the mayor)
Note:
Prepared on the town hall’s letterhead, directly in both French AND English to avoid needing a translator.
Hi there, please could you tell me how to arrange a marriage interview at the embassy? My fiancé has already been interviewed. Thanks to anyone who can help me out!
hi everyone,
I’m new to this site. Here’s my issue: I just got married in Cameroon to my wife, and I’m waiting for our family record book. After that, I’m trying to figure out what I need to do to apply for her visa. But I’d like her to apply for visas for her children at the same time so they can come with her—is that possible?! Do we need to get passports for her children, or is just the visa application enough? They’re 8 and 15 years old. Thanks!
Otherwise, I’d have to apply for family reunification, but she’d have to stay in France for 18 months before she can apply for her children’s visas—that’s way too long!!!
If anyone can give me some advice or help with this complicated situation, I’d really appreciate it.
Thanks so much for your help.
Best regards,
Hi, the situation is complicated...
My son would like to marry his girlfriend (married to a Filipino in the Philippines but separated for 14 years), who is from the Philippines... but... what complicates things is that she lives in Switzerland illegally—her visa expired after a divorce from a Swiss national, and she received a deportation order in 2022 but never left.
Just to clarify, she’s been working in Switzerland for 10 years and pays Swiss taxes...
Recently, she reapplied for a work visa to request residency rights so she could marry my son, but they refused, and she’s already received an order to leave the country... What can we do? We don’t know who to turn to
I was interviewed at the town hall of my place of residence on March 7, 2025. My fiancée still hasn’t been interviewed by the consulate. The question is whether I need to schedule an appointment for her interview or wait for the consulate to call. Thanks for your reply
Hi everyone, I need some help, please. My partner wants to send our CCAM file to the embassy in Yaoundé from France. We’re wondering if, with the pandemic, the file will even arrive and how long it’ll take. Would it be better to send it directly to the address in Cameroon? We’d planned to drop it off in March but couldn’t, and my interview is next month (even though I know it’ll probably be postponed). I’d really like the file to be in their hands before my interview date. Please help—what should I do?
Please, I need your expert advice.
I’m Cameroonian, married to a Frenchman of Cameroonian origin.
My husband just received a message saying our marriage certificate has been properly transcribed and that copies will be sent to his local town hall via diplomatic pouch.
I’d like to know the details of what comes next so I can apply for my long-stay visa.
Also, I’m about to get a passport—can I use my ID that still has my maiden name, or do I have to get a new ID with my married name before applying for a passport?
Basically, will getting a passport with my maiden name now cause problems later in the process? I really don’t want to deal with the hassle of getting a new ID right now.
Our best friend, who is Moroccan/French, wants to marry an Algerian woman. They’ve already met, and the first steps have been taken.
It seems like getting married under these circumstances is really complicated—has anyone been in a similar situation and could share some advice on the administrative side or the steps to take?
