Franco-Togolese marriage
FR

Translated into English.

Original post
OC
Hi everyone,

My husband and I have just gone through this stage of a Franco-Togolese marriage—he’s Togolese, and I’m French. Given how complicated things can get with the administration, I thought I’d leave this post here. If you’d like advice or want to learn from our experience, don’t hesitate to ask...

Good luck to all of you in the same situation!!
manue
SO Sofy87 ·
Hi, My boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married in Togo in 2012, but I can’t find any good sites that can tell me about the different steps to take and the documents we need to provide... Could you help me out???? Thanks in advance! Sophie
NE Nemo1001 Globetrotter ·
the consulate for the French part?
SO Sofy87 ·
Sorry, but I didn’t find anything on the consulate’s website...
OC Occeola Regular ·
hi, send me your email in a private message, so we can chat, and I’ll tell you how it went for us. See you soon

Manue
manue
GG Ggpepette ·
Hi Sophie,

If you haven't made any progress with your paperwork yet, I might be able to help.

You should start by requesting a file from the French consulate in Lomé. You can write to them or go there in person (if you're planning to visit soon). They'll tell you it takes 6 months, and that's TRUE. Even though I managed to wrap everything up in less than 6 months, it was tough, risky, and required an in-person trip—otherwise, it wouldn't have been possible. If you're both sure you want to get married, submit your request as soon as possible.

The consulate staff isn't always the friendliest, so you'll have to stay on top of things at every step.

Also, keep in mind that there are quite a few documents required from both future spouses, and some can take a while to obtain for our Togolese friends.

I have all the details if you want to exchange emails.

See you,
Géraldine
SH Shouye ·
hi, I’d love to get in touch with you to get all the info about a Franco-Togolese wedding. I’ll leave my email address so we can connect. Best, Perrine
GG Ggpepette ·
Hi Perrine,

I don’t see your email address and I’ve just started using VoyageForum.com. I’d be happy to help, but I don’t know where to find your email address. Sorry! 😮

Cheers, Géraldine
Géraldine
SH Shouye ·
thanks for taking the time! my email is guichouille@hotmail.fr thanks!
AF Affivi ·
Hi there, While researching for some information about a wedding in Togo, I came across your post, and I really appreciate you sharing your experience and offering some advice. I’d love it if you could give me some tips, but most importantly, I’d like to know what documents are required for the consulate. If you’re open to chatting, here’s my email address: affivi@hotmail.fr. Thanks in advance for your reply.
BU Buzzette ·
Hi there, Just a quick message because I’m also planning to get married in Togo. I went to the Togolese consulate at Christmas, but they were only open for emergencies and told me to come back after January 13th, which is tricky for me since I had to return to France. As a result, I couldn’t get any info. I want to gather all the documents before going back to that office and submitting a complete file...

I see I’m not the only one reaching out to you, so if it’s possible, could you share the steps and documents needed for the process?

Hope to hear from you soon
GG Ggpepette ·
Hi,

Same here—send me your email address, and I’d be happy to help as much as I can.

Bye, Géraldine
Géraldine
BU Buzzette ·
Good evening, thank you for getting back to me... my email is: buzzette12@gmail.com. So here’s my idea if it’s possible and doable: we’d like to get married in August... Since I drew a blank at the consulate during the Christmas holidays, I’d like to know all the documents needed to complete that famous file to submit to the consulate to get the "capacité à mariage" (or something like that), and either go submit it in February since I’ve got a short week off (though it might be a bit tight time-wise) or during the Easter holidays. But I’m hoping it’ll all be sorted by August because my family really wants to be close to me and doesn’t want to mobilize everyone in Togo for nothing... though I’m well aware that once again, we’ll be at the mercy of administrative responses...

That’s it! Hope to hear from you soon, and I wish you both a life filled with happiness... Céline
GO Godwin ·
That’s really kind of you! I’m Togolese, and my girlfriend is a divorced French woman—we split up 6 months ago. We’re planning for her to join me here as soon as I have the means so we can get married and I can join her to live together.

I don’t know any details yet, and neither does she. Give me some advice and share your experiences so everything goes smoothly for us too. Thanks!

Jacques
La vie réserve beaucoup de surprise aussi agréables que désagréables.Mais je sais à présent grace à ma définition de la vie que malglé tout ce qui peut nous arriver, elle mérite d'être vécu.
YV Yves93 ·
Hi there, I’m French and live in Paris. My girlfriend is in Togo—I spent 2 years there with her, and coming back to France was really tough for both of us. I’m planning to go back to Togo, but which month would be best? I’d love some info on the steps we need to take for our wedding, especially how to get the certificate from the consulate. Is it super complicated? What documents do I need to provide? If I go back to France a month after submitting everything, can my girlfriend pick up the certificate? I work, so I can’t wait 6 months.

Also, where does my girlfriend get the residence certificate?Certificate of single status customary certificate?
GG Ggpepette ·
Hi Yves,

To get married in Togo, the French spouse must first request a file from the French consulate in Lomé. This request can be made by mail. You should then allow at least 6 months from the date the file is submitted. After the consulate reviews the file, any investigation, and any interview for you in France and/or your partner in Togo, as well as the publication of the banns at the town hall where you live, the consulate can issue the certificate of capacity to marry. You are the ONLY one who can pick up this document at the consulate, but you can do so a few days before the wedding—no problem. There’s also a file to complete at the Togolese town hall where you plan to get married, no later than one month before the wedding.

For certificates of single status, custom, and residence, your partner should contact her birth prefecture.

Hope this information is helpful.
Géraldine
AD Adjoke ·
Hi,

I find this forum really rich in information, and I want to thank you all for offering your help and experience. I’m Togolese, and my partner is French. My partner would like us to get married in France, but I’d like to know if it’s not more complicated than in Togo, since it’s difficult to get a visa there. Also, if we consider getting married in Togo, how should we go about it? Thanks for your help. Here’s my email: emeraude.sam@gmail.com.

Thanks a lot.
AK Akouvilajoie ·
Hello, I’d also love to get all the information about a Franco-Togolese wedding. I’m Togolese and my boyfriend is French. We’d like to get married but we’re not sure how it all works. I’ll leave my email address for any possible replies: akouvi@live.fr. Best regards, Akouvi
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi, I just got back from a 6-week internship in Togo as part of my studies, and I met someone there. We’ve fallen head over heels for each other and want to get married, but I’ll admit I’m a little discouraged by all the comments about how hard it is for Togolese people to get a French visa. The problem is I still have a little over a year of school left, so I can’t go there right now, and I was hoping he could come here instead... I’m French, and my boyfriend has dual Togolese/Malian nationality. Could you give us some advice on the steps we can take to get married, please?
PA Paag ·
Hi, I also want to marry a Togolese man. Did you succeed? Could you share your journey and give me some tips? Thanks. Françoise.
AG Agnès228 ·
Hi Manue,

I know this message is a bit old, but I hope you can still reply. I’m French and I’ll be moving to Togo soon to join my fiancé, who is Togolese. He applied for a tourist visa to spend Christmas in France with my family so they could meet him, but his application was denied. Since my family can’t travel there anytime soon, we want to speed up our wedding so he can come and meet them. He went to the French consulate in Lomé today to get information about marriage, but they refused to see him. If you receive this message, I’d love to benefit from your experience and knowledge on the subject. We’re hoping to get married at the consulate so our union will be recognized by the French state.

Thanks in advance for your help, and all the best.

Agnès

Hello,

My husband and I have just gone through this step of a Franco-Togolese marriage—he’s Togolese and I’m French. Given how nothing is easy with the administration, I’m leaving this post here, and if you’d like advice or want to benefit from our experience, don’t hesitate...

Good luck to everyone in the same situation!!
Agnès
SA Sadetcath ·
Hi, I’m in the same situation with a Franco-Togolese wedding, and I’m struggling to understand all the administrative documents I find online. If you could share your experience, I’d really appreciate it. Thanks!

catherine.beauger@wanadoo.fr
sadetcath
PA Paag ·
Hi. Are you thinking of getting married at the consulate?
SA Sadetcath ·
Hello, and thank you so much for replying! Yes, I’m thinking of going through the consulate, but from everything I’ve read, it’s getting riskier and more complicated to reach the goal. Your insights would be a huge help. I’ll share my personal email if you prefer: catherine.beauger@wanadoo.fr. Thanks again for the help, have a great day
sadetcath
NO Nounou81 ·
Hello everyone,

Sorry for disappearing from the discussion for so long! I’ve been married to my Togolese fiancé since August 13, 2015, and we’ve been parents since October 10, 2016. For those who have questions, I’d be happy to answer!

I can already tell you that the French consulate in Lomé doesn’t perform marriages! You have to go through a local marriage ceremony (only at the town hall, not the prefecture), after obtaining a *Certificat de capacité à mariage* (Certificate of Capacity to Marry) from the consulate for the French national. This process, which is pretty much mandatory if you later want to register your marriage in the consular civil registry, takes between 3 and 6 months if your file is complete. Also, the consulate doesn’t receive unmarried Togolese partners of French citizens except for visa applications (tourist visas are systematically refused, by the way!). On top of that, I strongly recommend applying for this *Certificat de capacité à mariage* (CCM) from France via diplomatic pouch (this is well explained on the consulate’s website under “services for French citizens” – “marriage”). In fact, when applications are submitted directly at the consulate (even by the French national), files mysteriously disappear without a trace... (this is from personal experience—I’m not just spreading rumors).

Anyway, if I can help, I’d be happy to! !
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi there!

Sorry for the late reply! I posted an update in the discussion thread—you can look it up. But I can confirm that I’ve been married to my Togolese partner for over a year now! It wasn’t without its challenges, but today we look back on all those adventures with a smile. It was worth it—we’re so happy. He’s been living in France with me for a year now, and we’re the proud parents of a beautiful mixed-race little girl!

If you need any advice, don’t hesitate!
AG Agnès228 ·
Thanks, Aurore, for all this info, and congratulations to you and your husband on your little girl! My partner and I also know it’s worth it, and we won’t let the bureaucracy discourage us, but what a nightmare—it’s crazy how much time it takes and the obstacles they throw in our way! I’ll follow your advice and try to get that CCAM quickly. Did you manage to get your marriage registered in the French records? If so, how long did it take, please? For the certificate of custom, was your husband able to get it quickly? Which administration do you have to request it from? Thanks again for your story, and all the best! ;-)
Agnès
NO Nounou81 ·
Thanks Aurore for all this info, and congratulations to you and your husband on your little girl! My partner and I also know it’s worth it, and we won’t let the bureaucracy discourage us, but what a nightmare—it’s insane how much time it takes and the obstacles they throw in our way! I’ll follow your advice and try to get that CCAM quickly. Did you manage to have your marriage transcribed in the French registers? If so, how long did it take, please? For the certificate of custom, was your husband able to get it quickly? Which administration do you have to request it from? Thanks again for your testimony and all the best ;-)

Yes, we had our marriage transcribed in the consular civil registry—it took less than 3 months. This was because we had requested and obtained the Certificate of Capacity to Marry before our wedding, which makes the transcription process much easier. Of course, we acted as quickly as possible, and our file was complete. Now our marriage is recognized by the French state, and we have a French family record book where we were able to register our little girl! And once the transcription is done, you’ve got the golden ticket—your husband can go to the French consulate with his visa application for the spouse of a French citizen without an appointment!! After that, if the file is complete and all documents are valid, the visa is granted without any issues. My husband got his in 1 week after submitting the application! So, unfortunately, it’s the only way for your husband to come live in France with you... As for the certificate of custom, I think you need to contact the village chief where your fiancé lives. If he lives in Lomé, you should see the neighborhood chief. There you go, happy to help, and good luck to you both 😉
PA Paag ·
Hi there. We’re still waiting for our marriage certificate. You said your husband got his long-stay visa without making an appointment? I thought you had to buy a card and call. Françoise.
AG Agnès228 ·
Thanks again, and it’s really reassuring to hear that everything went well for you two. From what you’re saying, it "just" takes having all the documents in order and being patient for it to work out.

For the record, my fiancé and I have decided to build our life in Togo, and I’ll be joining him soon. All these steps we’re going through right now are just for a short stay so he and my family can finally meet and get to know each other...

Just a few more questions about the CCAM: they say it takes 4 months between submitting the file and receiving the certificate. Was it that long for you? Is there a way to get it faster? And can I already submit it from France before going to join my fiancé (to save time)?
Agnès
AG Agnès228 ·
Thanks again, and it’s really reassuring to know everything went well for you both—from what you’re saying, it "just" takes having all the documents in order and being patient for things to work out. For info, my fiancé and I have decided to build our life in Togo, and I’ll be joining him soon. All these steps we’re going through right now are just for a short stay so he and my family can finally meet and get to know each other... Just a couple more questions about the CCAM—they say it takes 4 months between submitting the file and getting the certificate. Was it that long for you? Is there a way to get it faster? And can I already submit it from France before going to join my fiancé (to save time)?

Sorry, I’m taking back my last question about the possibility of doing it from France (I’m a bit overwhelmed by all this and forgot your answer in a previous message, Aurore). Thanks again
Agnès
NO Nounou81 ·
Sorry for the late reply—I don’t have much time to myself with my baby! The 4-month timeline is just an estimate; it can take less time depending on how long it takes to verify your documents and publish the banns at the town hall (in France). For us, they initially said it would take 8 months, but we got it done in 2 and a half! That said, you’re right to want to send your file from France and then go there—it’s definitely the best (if not the only) solution! You’ll need to send your CCM application file from France via registered mail with acknowledgment of receipt to the French Embassy in Lomé through the diplomatic pouch. The address is on the French Consulate in Lomé’s website, under the "services for French citizens" section—marriage. There you go! Also, don’t forget about the timeline for the wedding in Togo—you generally need to allow 45 days between submitting the marriage file (which includes the CCM!) to the town hall and the scheduled wedding date... If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate!
BL Blupinho ·
Hello,

I hope you don’t mind me joining your conversation—I’m also about to marry my Togolese fiancée in May in Lomé.

We sent the CCAM request in December, and the process is underway. Our file is also complete on the Togolese civil registry side; we’re just waiting for that all-important approval from the embassy. Timing-wise, it should work out!

Where we’re unsure is about the documents needed for the marriage transcription: - Copy of the marriage contract signed before the wedding or a certificate issued by a notary - Copy of the declaration of applicable law for the matrimonial regime or a certificate issued by a notary

We’ve decided not to have a marriage contract, so does that mean we need to get a certificate from a notary? As for the declaration of applicable law for the matrimonial regime, I have no idea what that is, and I can’t find any firsthand accounts online...

Could you tell me more about this? I’m a little worried about wasting time because of an incomplete file... Also, could you let me know how long it took for you to get this transcription done? I’d love for my future wife to come to France as early as July, but I’m starting to get nervous...

Thanks so much for your help!
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi there,

I understand your concern—I had the same! But no worries, those documents aren’t essential, and not providing them can’t prevent or even delay the transcription of your marriage. I didn’t have them either. The transcription of our wedding took about a month and a half, and even then, we were missing one document (my spouse’s civil status record—nothing to do with a marriage contract or a designation of applicable law). For your info (I checked with a notary): the law applicable to your marriage will be that of the country where you’ll live together (France if it’s in France, Togo if it’s in Togo), even if you get married in Togo. Plus, the mayor will read you the French civil code during the civil ceremony! Also, if you want to establish a marriage contract, you can only do so with a Togolese notary in Togo, because notaries in France aren’t authorized in the case of a marriage celebrated in a foreign country. And it’s not possible to sign the contract after the marriage, so... You can relax about that!

Good luck to you both!

Hello,

I hope you don’t mind me jumping into your conversation—I’m also about to marry my Togolese fiancée in May in Lomé.

The CCAM request was sent in December, and the process is underway. Our file is also complete at the Togolese civil registry; all that’s missing is the famous embassy approval... timing-wise, it should be fine!

The part we’re unsure about is the documents needed for the marriage transcription: - copy of the marriage contract signed before the wedding or a certificate issued by a notary - copy of the designation of applicable law for the matrimonial regime or a certificate issued by a notary

We’ve decided to skip a marriage contract, so does that mean we need to get a certificate from a notary? As for the designation of applicable law for the matrimonial regime, I have no idea what that is, and I can’t find any firsthand accounts online...

Could you tell me more about this? I’m a little afraid of wasting time because of an incomplete file... Could you also let me know how long it took to get this transcription done? I’d like my future wife to come to France as early as July, but I’m starting to get a little worried...

Thanks for your help!
AN AnneDola ·
Good evening everyone, I hope you don't mind me jumping into your discussions! I’m currently going through the infamous CCM process myself... My application was submitted in early January. Now we’re facing the interviews. Has anyone else been through this? Do you know if it will affect the processing time? Thanks in advance!
PA Paag ·
Hi. I got married without a CCM in June, and the transcription was done in January. Everything went smoothly. Now we’re preparing the visa.
BL Blupinho ·
Thank you so much, Aurore!!

You really set my mind at ease! It wasn’t exactly easy filling out the CCAM and Lomé civil registry forms, especially living 5,000 km apart... But the transcription process is going to be much simpler. Phew!

I have to say, they really try to scare us in the information sheet and list of documents required: "IMPORTANT: If any of the documents listed above are missing, the application cannot be processed."

One last question: once the transcription is done, do we have to go back to the embassy to pick up the documents, or do they send them directly to our home?

In reply to AnneDola, I’m a bit surprised you had to go through an interview for a Franco-Togolese wedding. I don’t know if it extends the processing time, but what really takes time are the posting periods and the transfer of documents between your town hall in France and the embassy in Lomé. The advantage of the CCAM is that it really shortens the transcription delays afterward.
AN AnneDola ·
Hi, Well, this doesn’t reassure me at all! The consul must not like our file to be asking for interviews... It’s adding even more stress! The CCM process is already long, and gathering all the Togolese documents isn’t easy.

What timeline did you put for the civil wedding in your CCM file? We put 4 months and a few days, but now that seems tight with the interviews they’re asking for...
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi Blupinho,

Once the transcription is done, it’s sent by the embassy to the town hall in your place of residence in France. They’ll contact you when they’ve received it so you can pick it up in person (with an ID, of course!).
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi, yes, you need to buy a card to make a phone appointment to apply for a tourist visa. But when my husband went to his appointment at the embassy (which he booked through this procedure), they told him that as the spouse of a French citizen, he didn’t need to go through this process—he could have shown up directly without an appointment to submit his visa application.

Hi. We’re waiting for our marriage transcription. You said your husband got his long-stay visa without making an appointment? I thought you had to buy a card and call. Françoise.
NO Nounou81 ·
Hi AnneDola, I agree with Blupinho about the slightly "worrying" side of the interviews. I didn’t have to go through one myself, and neither did my husband. That said, maybe it’s not worth being pessimistic—perhaps they just randomly select a few files to call in, so they don’t have to do them all... It’s a possibility.
AN AnneDola ·
Hello! Thanks. Yes, we're staying positive :-) We've got our meet-ups for our auditions scheduled, and the timing looks pretty good. We'll have two months after the auditions, so let's hope everything goes well! Have a great day.
PA Paag ·
Hi, thanks for your reply. We’ve received our family record book, and my husband has a visa appointment at the end of the month. I hope everything goes smoothly. We couldn’t reach them by phone, so we booked the appointment online. Hope you’re doing well.
PA Paag ·
Hi! I’d like to know about the long-stay visa—did they ask you for any other documents, or just what was on the list? My husband doesn’t live in Lomé, so it’d be tough for him to come back, and we’ve already booked our flight tickets. Thanks.
PA Paag ·
Hi. You're lucky if your husband got his visa in a week. Mine has had his application in for 15 days now. We're waiting for the call. Was that how they contacted your husband?
NO Nounou81 ·
No, they didn’t call him—they just told him to come back in a week when he submitted his visa application. He went back a week later and his visa was in his passport, that’s it!
PA Paag ·
Thanks for your message. It’s been almost a month now, and still nothing. We can’t reach them by phone—they don’t answer. They gave us an email address but don’t reply there either. And I’ve got my flight ticket for late April, and we’re supposed to return to France together. We’re so discouraged.
NO Nounou81 ·
Did they keep his passport? That’s really weird, actually... Could it be the upcoming presidential elections that are holding things up? But I’d still be really surprised if that were the case. Your husband should go to the consulate in person, without an appointment, during public opening hours. He should present himself as the spouse of a French citizen—bring an official document to prove it if needed—and ask about the status of his visa application. He can mention that his departure date is approaching and that he needs the visa quickly. If he can’t do it or they refuse to see him, you’ll both need to go as soon as you arrive in Lomé. Sorry if you’ve already answered this, but: was your marriage properly recorded in the consular civil registry? If so, you can also contact the consulate via the diplomatic pouch in Châtillon to find out where things stand with your husband’s visa and why they haven’t contacted him yet to pick it up. But in my opinion, start with the simplest solution—maybe he just needs to go to the consulate on a Tuesday at 5 PM to pick up his passport with the visa in it! That’s the usual procedure; maybe they didn’t explain it well or he didn’t understand... It’s worth a try!

Thanks for your message. It’s been nearly a month now. Still nothing. We can’t reach them by phone. They don’t answer. They gave us an email address but don’t respond either... and I have my flight ticket for the end of April, and we’re supposed to return to France together. We’re so discouraged.
NO Nounou81 ·
Oh, and by the way, it’s completely useless to call or email the French consulate in Lomé—they NEVER answer calls and only reply to emails they’ve sent themselves!!
PA Paag ·
Thanks for your reply. Yes, we received our family record book in January. With no response from them yet, my husband is going to the consulate tomorrow. But it’s tough for him—he’s far from Lomé, and his work makes it hard to get away. Thanks again.

Similar discussions

You might also like