Mais voilà, pourquoi j'écris un post alors que je crois que tout les pouvoirs sont en nous et que personne ne peut rien pour nous parce que nos idées, elles sont dans notre tête et on dans celle des autre?? C'est que de tout ça je ne suis pas assez convaincue encore...je suis en ce moment plus heureuse que jamais et pourtant je n'ai jamais été aussi seule... tout le monde me tourne le dos en me traitant d'égoiste...plus j'avance, plus je m'éloigne de ceux que j'aime ou plutôt croit aimer....Tout ça me semble contradictoire alors je me demande vraiment : est-ce eux qui sont fous ou bien moi???
Est-ce le monde qui est fou ou bien moi??
by Elsie
This discussion is in French, the community’s main language.
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On m'a dit un jour : tu sauras que tu es saine d'esprit, le jour ou tu te demanderas " est-ce que c'est moi qui est folle ou alors tout le reste du monde??" Voilà, c'est la question existentielle que je me pose...En fait, je crois que c'est pour ça que je voyage, pour constater que la vie est bien plus que ce qu'on essaie de me faire croire, que les gens sont fous de ne pas voir la réalité : que tout n'est qu'inconnu, aussi effrayant que cela puisse paraître, que tous ce que nous "croyons savoir" n'est qu'illusion, que la vie n'a aucun sens, qu'il faut arrêter de chercher : tout est là, en nous. Qu'il faut cesser de croire que tel ou tel chose nous affecte : on décide d'être affecté, et on a toujours le choix de l'être ou non. On décide d'être heureux, on a toujours le choix de l'être ou non. Mais tout le monde semble choisir de ne pas l'être.
Mais voilà, pourquoi j'écris un post alors que je crois que tout les pouvoirs sont en nous et que personne ne peut rien pour nous parce que nos idées, elles sont dans notre tête et on dans celle des autre?? C'est que de tout ça je ne suis pas assez convaincue encore...je suis en ce moment plus heureuse que jamais et pourtant je n'ai jamais été aussi seule... tout le monde me tourne le dos en me traitant d'égoiste...plus j'avance, plus je m'éloigne de ceux que j'aime ou plutôt croit aimer....Tout ça me semble contradictoire alors je me demande vraiment : est-ce eux qui sont fous ou bien moi???
Mais voilà, pourquoi j'écris un post alors que je crois que tout les pouvoirs sont en nous et que personne ne peut rien pour nous parce que nos idées, elles sont dans notre tête et on dans celle des autre?? C'est que de tout ça je ne suis pas assez convaincue encore...je suis en ce moment plus heureuse que jamais et pourtant je n'ai jamais été aussi seule... tout le monde me tourne le dos en me traitant d'égoiste...plus j'avance, plus je m'éloigne de ceux que j'aime ou plutôt croit aimer....Tout ça me semble contradictoire alors je me demande vraiment : est-ce eux qui sont fous ou bien moi???
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
Eux sont simplement dans la normalité, et toi tu essayes de t'en éloigner pour pouvoir appréhender les étapes de ta vie d'une autre façon ..... celles qui fairont qu'au bout du compte tu auras le sentiment de n'être pas venu sur cette terre pour rien, tu cherches à vivre chaque journée différemment, de profiter de tes expériences à fond, et si les gens te disent que tu es égoiste, c'est que tout simplement ils ne peuvent te suivre dans ton monde à toi ..... trop irréel pour eux, ils sont comme des millions de personnes sur cette terre, à vouloir vivre " ordinairement " pour se dire que comme celà ils sont protégés et qu'ils ne risquent, ou du moins le croient ils, rien .......
Il faut arriver à s'inventer son propre monde au delà de nos rêves, et à pénétrer ceux ci pour pouvoir les vivre totalement ..... essayer même de ne pas en sortir, quitte à se marginaliser quelque peu .... quelle importance du moment que tu en retires l'essence de tout ce qui faira que tu trouveras l'adéquation parfaite entre les ressentis de ton âme, les aspirations de ton corps et une perception des choses différente de par ton esprit tourné vers ce que l'on appelle la recherche d'une sérénité propre à assouvir ta destinée à venir ....
Si celà est un moment de folie, il est bien doux à mes yeux et nous sommes nombreux à le partager ......
Bonne route sur ce chemin là ....
Il faut arriver à s'inventer son propre monde au delà de nos rêves, et à pénétrer ceux ci pour pouvoir les vivre totalement ..... essayer même de ne pas en sortir, quitte à se marginaliser quelque peu .... quelle importance du moment que tu en retires l'essence de tout ce qui faira que tu trouveras l'adéquation parfaite entre les ressentis de ton âme, les aspirations de ton corps et une perception des choses différente de par ton esprit tourné vers ce que l'on appelle la recherche d'une sérénité propre à assouvir ta destinée à venir ....
Si celà est un moment de folie, il est bien doux à mes yeux et nous sommes nombreux à le partager ......
Bonne route sur ce chemin là ....
Salut
Un conseil, vis ta vie parmis ceux que tu considères comme fous, mais ne changes pas ta façon de voir les choses, parce que c'est la meilleure voie à suivre. On est entouré de fous, on a pas le choix, malheureusement.
Voici un conte interessant :
Une vieille légende hindoue raconte qu'il y eut un temps où tous les hommes étaient des dieux. Mais ils abusèrent tellement de leur divinité que Brahma, le maître des dieux, décida de leur ôter le pouvoir divin et de le cacher à un endroit où il leur serait impossible de le retrouver. Le grand problème fut donc de lui trouver une cachette.
Lorsque les dieux mineurs furent convoqués à un conseil pour résoudre ce problème, ils proposèrent ceci : "Enterrons la divinité de l'homme dans la terre." Mais Brahma répondit : "Non, cela ne suffit pas, car l'homme creusera et la trouvera."
Alors les dieux répliquèrent : "Dans ce cas, jetons la divinité dans le plus profond des océans."
Mais Brahma répondit à nouveau : "Non, car tôt ou tard, l'homme explorera les profondeurs de tous les océans, et il est certain qu'un jour, il la trouvera et la remontera à la surface."
Alors les dieux mineurs conclurent : "Nous ne savons pas où la cacher car il ne semble pas exister sur terre ou dans la mer d'endroit que l'homme ne puisse atteindre un jour."
Alors Brahma dit : "Voici ce que nous ferons de la divinité de l'homme : nous la cacherons au plus profond de lui-même, car c'est le seul endroit où il ne pensera jamais à chercher."
Depuis ce temps-là, conclut la légende, l'homme a fait le tour de la terre, il a exploré, escaladé, plongé et creusé, à la recherche de quelque chose qui se trouve en lui. » (Eric Butterworth, Découvre la puissance en toi)
On ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux. Saint Exupéry
Merci Alan. Tes mots m'ont fait beaucoup de bien...si peu de gens autour de moi sauraient me dire les choses de cette façon. Et à force d'entendre toujours les mêmes mots, les même discours réaliste sur ce que "je devrais faire" et bien j'ai peur de finir par y croire, par réambarquer dans cette illusion dont il m'a été si difficile de me sortir. En fait j'ai encore un pied trop sur terre et mon esprit vogue sans cesse entre mer et terre, entre rêve et "réalité", entre la vie et l'illusion. J'espère seulement qu'un jour, j'aurai la chance de prendre la large...En attendant, je m'inspire de tes mots et de ceux de tous des autres rêveurs "marginaux"... peut-être qu'un jour j'irai plus loin.
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
c'est vrai que ses messages (a Alan) sont toujours justes, un vrai petit boudha. ALors je le paraphraserais pas.
Juste que c'est le debut oú tu te rends compte de ca. Et la vie est en train de te "tester" soit pour te renforcer ou pour te faire laisser tomber cette voie si tu es trop faible pour la suivre. Alors continue comme ca, apres tu pourras accepter d'étre folle dans un monde de fous.😛
Un jour un fou escalade le mur d’enceinte de l’asile et du haut découvre que des gens marchent à l’extérieur. À la première personne qui circule près du mur il demande : Vous êtes nombreux la dedans? (lu dans le journal LaPresse)
DeCléricy
DeCléricy
J’en appelle à vous ô Muses
Où tant ma vie passe et s’use
Qu’encore et toujours j’aime
Mes soeurs Galère et Bohème
Un jour un fou escalade le mur d’enceinte de l’asile et du haut découvre que des gens marchent à l’extérieur. À la première personne qui circule près du mur il demande : Vous êtes nombreux la dedans? (lu dans le journal LaPresse)
DeCléricy
😕 ..... et c'est là qu'il se met pour la première fois en danger, quel autre univers que leur folie pour être loin des basses contingences de notre monde à nous ..... même si il est vrai que leur monde parfois renferme bien des souffrances, mais à choisir ......
DeCléricy
😕 ..... et c'est là qu'il se met pour la première fois en danger, quel autre univers que leur folie pour être loin des basses contingences de notre monde à nous ..... même si il est vrai que leur monde parfois renferme bien des souffrances, mais à choisir ......
je me suis aperçuE que la plupart des gens construisent leur vie sur des peurs : peurs de viellir sans avoir d'enfants, peur d'etre malade sans mari pour nous soutenir, peur du chomage, peur de pas avoir de retraite, peur du manque d'argent...mais si vous leur demandez : avez vous déjà eut faim. ils répondent non.
je ne pense pas qu'il faille construire sa vie sur ses peurs mais plutot sur les aspirations de notre coeurs, maintenant c'est plus facile à dire...et en meme temps ce n'est pas si dure a faire que cela.
un maitre souffi dit à ses disciples : vous voyez les petits oiseaux, ils volent sans se soucier de savoir ce qu'ils vont manger, ou ils vont dormir, et à chaque fois Dieu leur donne leur nourriture et un nid. vous n'avez même pas la foi, la confiance des oiseaux.
je ne pense pas qu'il faille construire sa vie sur ses peurs mais plutot sur les aspirations de notre coeurs, maintenant c'est plus facile à dire...et en meme temps ce n'est pas si dure a faire que cela.
un maitre souffi dit à ses disciples : vous voyez les petits oiseaux, ils volent sans se soucier de savoir ce qu'ils vont manger, ou ils vont dormir, et à chaque fois Dieu leur donne leur nourriture et un nid. vous n'avez même pas la foi, la confiance des oiseaux.
"La liberté de la graine réside dans l'accomplissement de sa nature qui est de devenir un arbre"
Rabindranath Tagora
Oui iza, c'est bien triste à dire mais bien vrai. La plupart des gens sont guidés toute leur vie par la peur et n'en ont même pas conscience. Mais c'est aussi vrai qu'il n'est pas facile de les oublier ces peurs...j'y travaille chaque jour mais je me rend compte qu'elles sont encore trop pésentes. Si je n'avais aucune peur, je serais déjà partie d'ici...Mais est-ce que tu crois qu'il est possible un jour de les oublier totalement, de vivre aussi libre que ces oiseaux dont tu parles?? J'ai le sentiment que tout ça est un peu utopique et en même temps, j'aimerais tant y croire...
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
la plupart des gens construisent leur vie sur des peurs : peurs de viellir sans avoir d'enfants, peur d'etre malade sans mari pour nous soutenir, peur du chomage, peur de pas avoir de retraite, peur du manque d'argent...mais si vous leur demandez : avez vous déjà eut faim. ils répondent non.
"La vie est un banquet. La tragédie réside dans le fait que la majeure partie du monde meurt de faim."
"La vie est un banquet. La tragédie réside dans le fait que la majeure partie du monde meurt de faim."
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
Si je n'avais aucune peur, je serais déjà partie d'ici...Mais est-ce que tu crois qu'il est possible un jour de les oublier totalement, de vivre aussi libre que ces oiseaux dont tu parles?? J'ai le sentiment que tout ça est un peu utopique et en même temps, j'aimerais tant y croire...
Si tu sens que c'est bien, ou si tu sais que c'est bien, au moins rapproches en toi, et lá ca sera pas l'utopie. Ce qui compte dans le fond dans tout ca, c'est pas que tu gazouilles insouciante au paradis, c'est que tu suives cette voie pour t'en approcher. Parce que si tu fixes juste le but, tu n'y arriveras jamais, tu te decourageras, et tout restera une utopie, tout ce que t'aimerais etre.
Par exemple moi, quand j'avais plus l'usage de mes jambes et de mes bras, mais que ca commencait a revivre, j'ai regardé le but a atteindre, et puis ensuite, j'ai arreté car beaoup trop loin alors j'ai fait attention a chaque pas.
Tous les jours je voulais faire des progres, meme insignifiant, je m'en foutais, mais je voulais pas stagner. Pour un jour, mon but ca aura ete juste de faire bouger un peu plus le petit doigt, d'y ameliorer la dexteriorité par exemple. Si j'avais trop regardé en l'air, le but que je devais atteindre, j'aurais eu trop de vertige tellement il restait du chemin, et j'aurais abandonné tout le combat.
Fait chaque jour une marche dans la direction que t'as envie d'atteindre, et apres ya plus d'utopie parce que tu te projettes plus en avant.
APres il faut avoir des racines dans la terre pour pouvoir gazouiller, ...et ca c'est une autre histoire...car on est pas des hirondelles.
A+
Si tu sens que c'est bien, ou si tu sais que c'est bien, au moins rapproches en toi, et lá ca sera pas l'utopie. Ce qui compte dans le fond dans tout ca, c'est pas que tu gazouilles insouciante au paradis, c'est que tu suives cette voie pour t'en approcher. Parce que si tu fixes juste le but, tu n'y arriveras jamais, tu te decourageras, et tout restera une utopie, tout ce que t'aimerais etre.
Par exemple moi, quand j'avais plus l'usage de mes jambes et de mes bras, mais que ca commencait a revivre, j'ai regardé le but a atteindre, et puis ensuite, j'ai arreté car beaoup trop loin alors j'ai fait attention a chaque pas.
Tous les jours je voulais faire des progres, meme insignifiant, je m'en foutais, mais je voulais pas stagner. Pour un jour, mon but ca aura ete juste de faire bouger un peu plus le petit doigt, d'y ameliorer la dexteriorité par exemple. Si j'avais trop regardé en l'air, le but que je devais atteindre, j'aurais eu trop de vertige tellement il restait du chemin, et j'aurais abandonné tout le combat.
Fait chaque jour une marche dans la direction que t'as envie d'atteindre, et apres ya plus d'utopie parce que tu te projettes plus en avant.
APres il faut avoir des racines dans la terre pour pouvoir gazouiller, ...et ca c'est une autre histoire...car on est pas des hirondelles.
A+
Merçi manu....c'est loin d'être faux ce que tu dis, et tu es la preuve vivante de tout ça. C'est une belle façon de voir les choses que de les regarder une à la fois et je sais que j'aurais intérêt à me concentrer plus sur aujourd'hui plutôt que d'essayer de voir demain. Mon plus gros défaut est celui d'essayer de comprendre la vie au lieu de la vivre, si tu savais le temps que je perd à faire ça. Mais chaque jour, depuis quelques temps, je la vie un peu plus. Et si ce n'est qu'une minute dans ma journée ou tout à coup je perçoit la vie dans ce qu'elle est réellement, sans miroir déformé par la peur ou le doute, alors ma journée en aura valu la peine. Et qui sait, peut-être que demain, ce sera 2 minutes...:)
Tes paroles me font penser à ceux de tous ces professeur de théâtre qui nous disent que pour vivre une scène, il faut cesser de la projeter, éviter de l'anticiper, mais vivre chaque mot un à la fois. Et la première fois où j'ai joué une scène pour vrai ou j'ai l'ai ressentie totalement, c'est que ce jour là, je n'ai rien essayer, je l'ai jouée, tout simplement. Mais c'est que ce jour là, à cet instant, il n'y avait en moi plus aucune peur, aucune. Et c'est ce que je tente de retrouver parce que cet instant fut si intense, parce que cet instant m'a montré qu'il était possible de libéré mon esprit totalement et c'est indescriptible tout ce qui s'ouvre en toi à ce moment là...
Tes paroles me font penser à ceux de tous ces professeur de théâtre qui nous disent que pour vivre une scène, il faut cesser de la projeter, éviter de l'anticiper, mais vivre chaque mot un à la fois. Et la première fois où j'ai joué une scène pour vrai ou j'ai l'ai ressentie totalement, c'est que ce jour là, je n'ai rien essayer, je l'ai jouée, tout simplement. Mais c'est que ce jour là, à cet instant, il n'y avait en moi plus aucune peur, aucune. Et c'est ce que je tente de retrouver parce que cet instant fut si intense, parce que cet instant m'a montré qu'il était possible de libéré mon esprit totalement et c'est indescriptible tout ce qui s'ouvre en toi à ce moment là...
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
"APres il faut avoir des racines dans la terre pour pouvoir gazouiller, ...et ca c'est une autre histoire...car on est pas des hirondelles. "
ca c'est bien vrai, d'ailleurs dans la petite histoire le maitre soufi dit vous n'avez meme pas la foi d'une hirondelle, donc nous sommes bien plus qu'une hirondelle...je cherche toujours...
ca c'est bien vrai, d'ailleurs dans la petite histoire le maitre soufi dit vous n'avez meme pas la foi d'une hirondelle, donc nous sommes bien plus qu'une hirondelle...je cherche toujours...
"La liberté de la graine réside dans l'accomplissement de sa nature qui est de devenir un arbre"
Rabindranath Tagora
ca c'est bien vrai, d'ailleurs dans la petite histoire le maitre soufi dit vous n'avez meme pas la foi d'une hirondelle, donc nous sommes bien plus qu'une hirondelle...je cherche toujours...
Peut être simplement parceque nous avons la conscience en nous ..... et c'est celle ci qui nous perturbe tant et l'hirondelle qui n'a pas cette conscience, et cette façon que nous avons de toujours vouloir nous projeter dans un ailleurs, peut quant à elle ne jouir que du moment présent et mieux profiter des instants qui se présentent à elle ..... bon, on est dans une image mais finalement tout se retrouve .....
Vivre ses sensations au jour le jour est ce qu'il y a de mieux ...... mais c'est cette tendance à s'extrapoler dans le futur qui tue notre intérieur, peut être que, comme le dit Manuguy, le fait de devoir se sortir d'une grande souffrance nous force à nous préoccuper du moment présent afin de justement jouir simplement du plaisir de voir " ce petit doight " retrouver la vie ...... aprés, ce que l'on fait de cette renaissance appartient de nouveau au monde des mortels et là doivent recommencer les problèmes ......
Je pense être un peu plus âgé que vous tous dans cette discussion ..... et la somme des expériences rencontrées dans notre vie passée peut nous aider à mieux appréhender celle ci, et à en faire ce que l'on appelle la part des choses afin de savoir au mieux, ou du moins de s'en approcher, ce qui est bon pour nous au moment présent et de mieux en profiter ...... car quoi qu'on en dise, mais en avançant en âge on a moins tendance à extrapoler dans un avenir qui se rétrécit, mais loin d'être un handicap, celà donne plus de force dans le mordant que l'on a sur les pavés de notre destin, et affine notre sensibilité qui se met au diapason des besoins de notre âme ......
Mais tout celà reste encore une fois une question de personne ...... et certainement d'adaption au monde qui nous entoure, et l'approche que l'on en fait restera personelle à chacun, mais chaque expérience est bonne à écouter pour en retirer le meilleur à chaque fois, car ne serait ce que l'entendre nous procure déjà un sentiment de bien être quant à savoir que tout est possible ......
Peut être simplement parceque nous avons la conscience en nous ..... et c'est celle ci qui nous perturbe tant et l'hirondelle qui n'a pas cette conscience, et cette façon que nous avons de toujours vouloir nous projeter dans un ailleurs, peut quant à elle ne jouir que du moment présent et mieux profiter des instants qui se présentent à elle ..... bon, on est dans une image mais finalement tout se retrouve .....
Vivre ses sensations au jour le jour est ce qu'il y a de mieux ...... mais c'est cette tendance à s'extrapoler dans le futur qui tue notre intérieur, peut être que, comme le dit Manuguy, le fait de devoir se sortir d'une grande souffrance nous force à nous préoccuper du moment présent afin de justement jouir simplement du plaisir de voir " ce petit doight " retrouver la vie ...... aprés, ce que l'on fait de cette renaissance appartient de nouveau au monde des mortels et là doivent recommencer les problèmes ......
Je pense être un peu plus âgé que vous tous dans cette discussion ..... et la somme des expériences rencontrées dans notre vie passée peut nous aider à mieux appréhender celle ci, et à en faire ce que l'on appelle la part des choses afin de savoir au mieux, ou du moins de s'en approcher, ce qui est bon pour nous au moment présent et de mieux en profiter ...... car quoi qu'on en dise, mais en avançant en âge on a moins tendance à extrapoler dans un avenir qui se rétrécit, mais loin d'être un handicap, celà donne plus de force dans le mordant que l'on a sur les pavés de notre destin, et affine notre sensibilité qui se met au diapason des besoins de notre âme ......
Mais tout celà reste encore une fois une question de personne ...... et certainement d'adaption au monde qui nous entoure, et l'approche que l'on en fait restera personelle à chacun, mais chaque expérience est bonne à écouter pour en retirer le meilleur à chaque fois, car ne serait ce que l'entendre nous procure déjà un sentiment de bien être quant à savoir que tout est possible ......
et c'est là qu'il se met pour la première fois en danger,
Je ne sais pas, en observant notre monde et le sien, s’il se met en danger. Je n’ai pas cette science infuse.
quel autre univers que leur folie pour être loin des basses contingences de notre monde à nous .....
Là tu me perd complètement! Dans mon dictionnaire à moi, contingence signifie évènement imprévisible qui peut ou non se produire selon le hasard. Donc impossible de qualifier de ‘’basse’’ ou ‘’haute’’ une circonstance que tu ne peux que subir. Une contingence survient ou ne survient pas. C’est tout.
mais à choisir ......
Tes points de suspension me laissent perplexe. Avoir le choix je n’hésiterais pas un millième de seconde entre notre monde et celui des fous. Tout créatif qu’il soit, celui des fous est comme tu le mentionnes, un univers de souffrances et j’ajouterais… d’isolement.
DeCléricy.
DeCléricy.
J’en appelle à vous ô Muses
Où tant ma vie passe et s’use
Qu’encore et toujours j’aime
Mes soeurs Galère et Bohème
Apparemment on ne parle pas le même langage, et celà peut se comprendre de par la façon dont chacun peut appréhender la chose lue, mais comme tu as eu la gentillesse de me répondre, je vais donc éclaircir les quelques points qui t'embarassent .....
et c'est là qu'il se met pour la première fois en danger,
Certaines personnes dites atteintes par la folie sont peut être plus en sécurité à l'intérieur de ce monde que dans ce monde ou l'on vit ( et nous ne manquons pas d'exemples ), j'en ai rencontré pour les avoir cotôyés durant six années dans le village ou j'habitais, et crois moi lorsque tu discutais avec eux et dans leur moment de lucidité, ils ne voulaient absolument pas sortir, maintenant folie ou pas ...... je n'ai pas non plus de science infuse, mais je répondais d'une façon imagée à une manière d'appréhender la folie de par un exemple ( réel ou non .... ) que tu donnais et connus de par le plus grand nombre ......
basses contingences ...... tu as entièrement raison pour la définition que tu donnes ..... mais en France nous avons également " les choses qui peuvent changer, qui n'ont pas une importance capitale ", par exemple " Les contingences de la vie quotidienne " donc par définition celles ci peuvent être hautement ou bassement importantes ..... voir encore là une façon imagée de reproduire les choses et par déduction des basses contingences peuvent être toutes ces petites habitudes routinières de la vie auxquelles on voue parfois une trop grande importance .....
mais à choisir ......
Moi ton avis ne me laisse pas perplexe, et c'est à chacun de chercher sa vérité là ou il juge bon de la trouver ....... c'est à chacun, et celà tu ne peux pas me le retirer, de se forger son opinion, soit elle mauvaise ou bonne ..... et aprés on peut effectivement en discuter .......
Maintenant tout celà n'est que discussions et échanges de points de vue, et l'important est que ces échanges restent enrichissants et ne deviennent pas conflictuels, comme c'est hélas trop souvent le cas ......
Bien à toi,
et c'est là qu'il se met pour la première fois en danger,
Certaines personnes dites atteintes par la folie sont peut être plus en sécurité à l'intérieur de ce monde que dans ce monde ou l'on vit ( et nous ne manquons pas d'exemples ), j'en ai rencontré pour les avoir cotôyés durant six années dans le village ou j'habitais, et crois moi lorsque tu discutais avec eux et dans leur moment de lucidité, ils ne voulaient absolument pas sortir, maintenant folie ou pas ...... je n'ai pas non plus de science infuse, mais je répondais d'une façon imagée à une manière d'appréhender la folie de par un exemple ( réel ou non .... ) que tu donnais et connus de par le plus grand nombre ......
basses contingences ...... tu as entièrement raison pour la définition que tu donnes ..... mais en France nous avons également " les choses qui peuvent changer, qui n'ont pas une importance capitale ", par exemple " Les contingences de la vie quotidienne " donc par définition celles ci peuvent être hautement ou bassement importantes ..... voir encore là une façon imagée de reproduire les choses et par déduction des basses contingences peuvent être toutes ces petites habitudes routinières de la vie auxquelles on voue parfois une trop grande importance .....
mais à choisir ......
Moi ton avis ne me laisse pas perplexe, et c'est à chacun de chercher sa vérité là ou il juge bon de la trouver ....... c'est à chacun, et celà tu ne peux pas me le retirer, de se forger son opinion, soit elle mauvaise ou bonne ..... et aprés on peut effectivement en discuter .......
Maintenant tout celà n'est que discussions et échanges de points de vue, et l'important est que ces échanges restent enrichissants et ne deviennent pas conflictuels, comme c'est hélas trop souvent le cas ......
Bien à toi,
Pas d’accord sur tes opinions mais j’acquiesce sur l’importance de ne pas démarrer de polémiques sur le forum!
Je vais réfléchir à l'éventualité de poursuivre ou non cette discussion sur la messagerie privée.
Bon dimanche
DeCléricy
Je vais réfléchir à l'éventualité de poursuivre ou non cette discussion sur la messagerie privée.
Bon dimanche
DeCléricy
J’en appelle à vous ô Muses
Où tant ma vie passe et s’use
Qu’encore et toujours j’aime
Mes soeurs Galère et Bohème
Bonjour,
Ton message m'a interpellé ....
si je ne devais te dire qu'une seule chose, c'est de suivre la voix de ton coeur ... et de ne pas ecouter le reste du monde .... si tu es heureuse ... alors peu importe que tu sois seule ... bien peu de gens en ce monde sont heureux ... ou se disent heureux ... profites de ta chance et restent donc parmi nous ( les fous : du voyage, de la vie, de l'instant tout simplement ).
D'ailleurs tu te dis etre seule ... tu ne l'es pas, nous sommes là ... tous auatant de fous que nous sommes ... aye confiance en toi ...
Bon voyage en amerique du sud ...
Sasmira
"Aimer est un mot qu'il faut vivre
retour de Sydney ... prochaine etape bientot !
Merci pour tes encouragements sasmira🙂...Tu vois, je crois que c'est pour ça que j'ai écrit ce post. J'avais besoin d'entendre tout ça, ça me fait tellement de bien de vous lire tous. Comme tu le dit si bien Alan, "chaque expérience est bonne à écouter pour en retirer le meilleur à chaque fois, car ne serait ce que l'entendre nous procure déjà un sentiment de bien être quant à savoir que tout est possible ......"
Et si j'ai besoin de vous lire c'est bien parce que je n'ai pas encore assez confiance en ce que je suis. Je suis plus heureuse que jamais, c'est vrai, mais pas encore assez il faut croire. Alors inspirée par les sages paroles de manugy😉, je vais travailler là-dessus et tenter de l'être simplement un peu plus qu'hier...
Et si j'ai besoin de vous lire c'est bien parce que je n'ai pas encore assez confiance en ce que je suis. Je suis plus heureuse que jamais, c'est vrai, mais pas encore assez il faut croire. Alors inspirée par les sages paroles de manugy😉, je vais travailler là-dessus et tenter de l'être simplement un peu plus qu'hier...
Il faut rajouter de la vie aux années...et non des années à la vie.
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Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
We're planning to spend a month in Vietnam. Is hiring a guide helpful?
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
Hello everyone,
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

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It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

...
I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Hello everyone,
I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
.
.Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

...
I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
Hello 🙂
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hi there,
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,

Hello to all East Africa lovers and nature enthusiasts in general,
While I prepare to share a recap of our latest trip/safari in Kenya soon, I’d like to wish you all a peaceful transition between 2025 and 2026.
Warm regards,
Puma2A.





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We’re a couple aged 58 and 63. We’ve just returned from a wonderful trip to South India in Tamil Nadu and a few days in Kerala. We traveled with a local French-speaking guide and his friend, the driver. They both live in Pondicherry. We spent 3 weeks with them in the most authentic way!
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like! M-Claire and Jean
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like! M-Claire and Jean
This catchy and somewhat mysterious title comes from several questions I’ve been asking myself.
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now. The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions. I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid? Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again? Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with? Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now? What’s really going on here?
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now. The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions. I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid? Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again? Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with? Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now? What’s really going on here?
Hi there,
This isn’t exactly a traveler’s question... I’d like to know who handles the technical side of this forum?
I run a similar forum on a different topic (unrecognized children), and we’re dealing with a few technical issues that are slowly killing our forum... so I’d have one or two questions to ask 😊.
Also, I was wondering who created this forum... who the administrators or moderators are, etc.
I think this forum is great. Much better than Facebook, which I’ve been using since it shut down (so I’m happy to see it’s working again...)
This isn’t exactly a traveler’s question... I’d like to know who handles the technical side of this forum?
I run a similar forum on a different topic (unrecognized children), and we’re dealing with a few technical issues that are slowly killing our forum... so I’d have one or two questions to ask 😊.
Also, I was wondering who created this forum... who the administrators or moderators are, etc.
I think this forum is great. Much better than Facebook, which I’ve been using since it shut down (so I’m happy to see it’s working again...)
Hi there, I’ve been traveling for 18 years now, at least 6 months a year, and as the years go by, I actually enjoy coming back to France more and more—a feeling I struggled with at first. I mean, we always think the grass is greener elsewhere.
But in the end, I find meaning in that saying about how there’s no place like home. I still love traveling just as much, but now my trips are shorter, and I enjoy spending more time in our beautiful country, even though I don’t hesitate to criticize it.
How about you? How do you handle coming back from your travels?
A few years ago, I went with a group of friends to lend a hand at a small rural school near Thiès, Senegal.
It was a relaxed but hardworking atmosphere—hands in the mortar, laughter, exchanges, and everything that a COOPERATION project can bring.
Today, the little project is flying on its own.
Wanting to explore Senegal’s riches, we set off for some tourism in the Siné Saloum. One girl in our group fell ill (a malaria attack), and we decided to take her to see a doctor at a large tourist complex nearby. Despite her condition, we had to "show our credentials" (if I may say so) just to get in. She was treated and has been fine since.
This "stop" at a Club Med-style resort with a Teutonic twist—resembling Le Grau-du-Roi but fancier—was a horror show for us: pools, massive artificial basins dyed blue, pink, or green (!!!!), animators shouting around wet T-shirt contests or coconut tree climbing, and sunburned (or sun-pinked) *toubabs*. The entire hotel was surrounded by a huge wall, behind which a small souvenir-seller slum had sprung up, worthy of Dakar’s outer neighborhoods. On leaving, we saw a minibus of guests returning from an "excursion," loaded with masks, fabrics, and djembés—African souvenirs? Maybe those will be *theirs*? What impression did the kids clustered at the hotel gates get? What about the Black servers in "traditional African costumes," serving cocktails and ice cream nonstop?
For me, who experienced Africa very young and in the bush, this remains a haunting image.
On VF, this kind of vacation doesn’t seem to be the norm among users, and that’s exactly why I signed up.
Have you ever experienced this kind of interstellar travel? Do you understand the Martians? Are their motivations peaceful?
Wanting to explore Senegal’s riches, we set off for some tourism in the Siné Saloum. One girl in our group fell ill (a malaria attack), and we decided to take her to see a doctor at a large tourist complex nearby. Despite her condition, we had to "show our credentials" (if I may say so) just to get in. She was treated and has been fine since.
This "stop" at a Club Med-style resort with a Teutonic twist—resembling Le Grau-du-Roi but fancier—was a horror show for us: pools, massive artificial basins dyed blue, pink, or green (!!!!), animators shouting around wet T-shirt contests or coconut tree climbing, and sunburned (or sun-pinked) *toubabs*. The entire hotel was surrounded by a huge wall, behind which a small souvenir-seller slum had sprung up, worthy of Dakar’s outer neighborhoods. On leaving, we saw a minibus of guests returning from an "excursion," loaded with masks, fabrics, and djembés—African souvenirs? Maybe those will be *theirs*? What impression did the kids clustered at the hotel gates get? What about the Black servers in "traditional African costumes," serving cocktails and ice cream nonstop?
For me, who experienced Africa very young and in the bush, this remains a haunting image.
On VF, this kind of vacation doesn’t seem to be the norm among users, and that’s exactly why I signed up.
Have you ever experienced this kind of interstellar travel? Do you understand the Martians? Are their motivations peaceful?
Hi everyone.
I’ve been wondering: Is it still reasonable to rent a car in the U.S.?
Apparently, since early January 2025—and very quietly—the most important insurance coverage, namely the driver’s civil liability, has seen its coverage amount drop from $1 million to just $300,000. This coverage is supposed to protect us from damages we might be responsible for while driving. We can go decades without a single scrape (especially if it’s our fault), but anything can happen in a split second. A motorcycle appearing out of nowhere, a misjudgment at one of those huge intersections with staggered traffic lights, and suddenly we could be deemed at fault for the accident. We’d then have to pay out of pocket for the other party’s medical expenses. Given what hospitals charge... it can easily exceed $300,000 and turn into a nightmare in no time!!! Plus, anyone who’s driven on American roads has seen those billboards for lawyers offering their services to accident victims. So on top of the sky-high medical bill, the lawyer will demand compensation worthy of a Hollywood movie!!!! So, is it even worth getting behind the wheel in America anymore? Well... that’s just my take! And on top of that, I haven’t found any insurance company that offers such high civil liability coverage. Chapka and others do offer coverage in the millions, but motor vehicles are excluded.... So here’s the thing... Unless I’ve "missed something," I’ve come to this conclusion: Renting a car in the U.S. is like playing Russian roulette! But maybe I’m being too pessimistic? What do you think?
I’ve been wondering: Is it still reasonable to rent a car in the U.S.?
Apparently, since early January 2025—and very quietly—the most important insurance coverage, namely the driver’s civil liability, has seen its coverage amount drop from $1 million to just $300,000. This coverage is supposed to protect us from damages we might be responsible for while driving. We can go decades without a single scrape (especially if it’s our fault), but anything can happen in a split second. A motorcycle appearing out of nowhere, a misjudgment at one of those huge intersections with staggered traffic lights, and suddenly we could be deemed at fault for the accident. We’d then have to pay out of pocket for the other party’s medical expenses. Given what hospitals charge... it can easily exceed $300,000 and turn into a nightmare in no time!!! Plus, anyone who’s driven on American roads has seen those billboards for lawyers offering their services to accident victims. So on top of the sky-high medical bill, the lawyer will demand compensation worthy of a Hollywood movie!!!! So, is it even worth getting behind the wheel in America anymore? Well... that’s just my take! And on top of that, I haven’t found any insurance company that offers such high civil liability coverage. Chapka and others do offer coverage in the millions, but motor vehicles are excluded.... So here’s the thing... Unless I’ve "missed something," I’ve come to this conclusion: Renting a car in the U.S. is like playing Russian roulette! But maybe I’m being too pessimistic? What do you think?
My two bullfighting traditions when I'm back home in Camargue (France) and in Colombia (Caribbean) every time I return. 🤠
Details:
Bullfights (corridas) aren’t part of my two bullfighting traditions, but I respect those who attend them!!!
In these two ancestral bullfighting traditions—which aren’t bullfights—the Bulls and Toros aren’t killed or tortured, as some might think.
These are bull games where the animals return to their pastures afterward and only come back to the Arenas 2–3 times a year at most.
They spend 15 minutes in the ring for the Camarguais and 5 minutes for the Toros in the Colombian Corralejas.
They’re cared for and pampered. They’ll die of old age in miles of open fields.
The young people who face them are professionals, risking their lives to support their families and live their Passion for the Toro!!! 😄
https://youtu.be/yYKQer42HoQ
Colombian Corraleja in the link below (hope it works) 🤪
https://fb.watch/BMfmuCgQpG/