Une question à propos de ceux qui écrivent sur le forum...
by Mel8713
This discussion is in French, the community’s main language.
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Ce matin je parle avec mon père des gens qui écrivent régulièrement sur le forum. En regardant les profils on fait une découverte qui semble incroyable...certains membres comme Barbot sont à près de 20 000 interventions... en 10 ans ça lui fait une moyenne de plus de 5 messages par jours ? mon père pense qu'il habite dans le forum ou que c'est pas un être humain mais un robot bien programmé... Il est suivi de près par Thuan ( pas "robot" car je le connais personnellement pour avoir fait les khlongs avec lui) 18000 messages en 9 ans ! Boumbastic est troisième... 17 000 messages en 8 ans, pas mal non plus ! mais le grand gagnant c'est FEXON, 5200 messages ! mais en seulement deux ans, soit 7 messages quotidiens !!! moi, je avec mes 35 messages, je dois être en 50 000 eme position ou encore plus loin.... Alors, simple curiosité, on aimerait bien savoir ce qui motive une telle implication à la vie du forum ? Ils sont payé pour l'animer ? Ils nous aiment ?
Bonjour,
Le "modérateur" connait peut-être aussi mieux le forum...
Déjà, vous aviez placé votre discussion dans Asie du Sud-est > Thailande. Mais quel est donc le rapport entre cette destination et vos propos ?
D'autre part, la rubrique "Pensées, réflexions de voyageurs" est loin d'être le fin fond du forum. Ce n'est pas parce qu'on ne fréquente pas un espace que celui-ci n'intéresse pas les autres personnes.
Dernière précision, au niveau visibilité un message posté reste en première page sur : > Asie du Sud-est : 2 jours dans l'ordre de mise en ligne et bien moins d'une journée s'il n'obtient pas de réponse. > Asie du Sud-est > Thailande : on arrive en gros à doubler. > Pensées, réflexions de voyageurs : ce sont plusieurs semaines.
Donc, si vous voulez augmenter vos chances de réponses à votre discussion, autant qu'elle reste là où elle est maintenant.
L'équipe VoyageForum
Le "modérateur" connait peut-être aussi mieux le forum...
Déjà, vous aviez placé votre discussion dans Asie du Sud-est > Thailande. Mais quel est donc le rapport entre cette destination et vos propos ?
D'autre part, la rubrique "Pensées, réflexions de voyageurs" est loin d'être le fin fond du forum. Ce n'est pas parce qu'on ne fréquente pas un espace que celui-ci n'intéresse pas les autres personnes.
Dernière précision, au niveau visibilité un message posté reste en première page sur : > Asie du Sud-est : 2 jours dans l'ordre de mise en ligne et bien moins d'une journée s'il n'obtient pas de réponse. > Asie du Sud-est > Thailande : on arrive en gros à doubler. > Pensées, réflexions de voyageurs : ce sont plusieurs semaines.
Donc, si vous voulez augmenter vos chances de réponses à votre discussion, autant qu'elle reste là où elle est maintenant.
L'équipe VoyageForum
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ça c'est bien ! le modérateur a déplacé mon message au fin fond du forum, personne ne va le voir ici ! et je n'aurai pas mes réponses, grrrr .
Tout au contraire ! Cette rubrique est une des plus fréquentées sur ce forum. Quant à moi, dans la rubrique "Asie du Sud", je n'aurais jamais lu ce message car je n'ai aucun rapport à l'Asie (et donc jamais visité cette rubrique). La rubrique "Pensées..." est la plus correcte place, rien d'autre ...
Vous n'avez rien d'autre à faire que "compter des mouches" ?!
Simple curiosité ? Non, pas du tout. Et si vous écrivez "Ils sont payés pour l'animer?", je ne lis rien d'autre que de méchantes insinuations face aux divers forumeurs et au VF !!! Ces forumeurs ont bien une vie hors du VF : pour écrire 5 messages par jour, il ne faut pas 20 heures ...
Question contraire : vous passez combien d'heures par jour votre portable en mains ?!
Hery
Tout au contraire ! Cette rubrique est une des plus fréquentées sur ce forum. Quant à moi, dans la rubrique "Asie du Sud", je n'aurais jamais lu ce message car je n'ai aucun rapport à l'Asie (et donc jamais visité cette rubrique). La rubrique "Pensées..." est la plus correcte place, rien d'autre ...
Vous n'avez rien d'autre à faire que "compter des mouches" ?!
Simple curiosité ? Non, pas du tout. Et si vous écrivez "Ils sont payés pour l'animer?", je ne lis rien d'autre que de méchantes insinuations face aux divers forumeurs et au VF !!! Ces forumeurs ont bien une vie hors du VF : pour écrire 5 messages par jour, il ne faut pas 20 heures ...
Question contraire : vous passez combien d'heures par jour votre portable en mains ?!
Hery
On perçoit dans le débat qui s'esquisse que l'âge des participants conditionnera leurs réponses.
Mel8713, 25 ans... La rubrique "Pensées, réflexions" ? Le fin fond du forum. Les gens qui s'impliquent un peu ? Des robots.
(Quel âge a le modérateur de VF, quel âge a Taamaden ?)
Si la curiosité est un joli défaut qui permet de mieux connaitre les autres et d'aller plus loin que la surface des choses... ta manière d'ouvrir la discussion est un peu sans gêne, intrusive et mâtinée de jugement. Tu désignes des noms, tu donnes des chiffres, lesquels en eux-mêmes ne signifient rien. Plutôt que d'inviter à l'échange, cela peut susciter des réactions défensives.
Simple maladresse ?
Mel8713, 25 ans... La rubrique "Pensées, réflexions" ? Le fin fond du forum. Les gens qui s'impliquent un peu ? Des robots.
(Quel âge a le modérateur de VF, quel âge a Taamaden ?)
Si la curiosité est un joli défaut qui permet de mieux connaitre les autres et d'aller plus loin que la surface des choses... ta manière d'ouvrir la discussion est un peu sans gêne, intrusive et mâtinée de jugement. Tu désignes des noms, tu donnes des chiffres, lesquels en eux-mêmes ne signifient rien. Plutôt que d'inviter à l'échange, cela peut susciter des réactions défensives.
Simple maladresse ?
Si la curiosité est un joli défaut qui permet de mieux connaitre les autres et d'aller plus loin que la surface des choses... ta manière d'ouvrir la discussion est un peu sans gêne, intrusive et mâtinée de jugement.
Tu désignes des noms, tu donnes des chiffres, lesquels en eux-mêmes ne signifient rien. Plutôt que d'inviter à l'échange, cela peut susciter des réactions défensives.
Bonjour Kola,
rien à y ajouter. Entièrement d'accord avec toi.
quel âge a Taamaden ?)
Trop, Kola, trop ...😉
Bonne journée à toi, Hery
Bonjour Kola,
rien à y ajouter. Entièrement d'accord avec toi.
quel âge a Taamaden ?)
Trop, Kola, trop ...😉
Bonne journée à toi, Hery
" Vous n'avez rien d'autre à faire que "compter des mouches" ?! "
.. on peut en faire autre chose ? 😮
.. on peut en faire autre chose ? 😮
" On voyait partout des sardines ... "
Je n'ai jamais lu les personnes dont tu parles, cependant :
Les uns aiment bien donner des renseignements sur telle où telle destination qu'ils connaissent , du coup ça engendre d'autres questions et donc d'autres réponses.
D'autres encore en manière de renseignements pratiques partagent un carnet de voyage ce qui génère aussi beaucoup de messages.
D'autres adorent la rubrique "jeux " et là pffiou tout plein de messages 🙂
Et puis, il y a aussi ceux qui postent peu. J'ai remarqué qu'en générale ce sont ceux qui questionnent sur telle où telle destination et "oublient" généralement de faire un "retour"
Les uns aiment bien donner des renseignements sur telle où telle destination qu'ils connaissent , du coup ça engendre d'autres questions et donc d'autres réponses.
D'autres encore en manière de renseignements pratiques partagent un carnet de voyage ce qui génère aussi beaucoup de messages.
D'autres adorent la rubrique "jeux " et là pffiou tout plein de messages 🙂
Et puis, il y a aussi ceux qui postent peu. J'ai remarqué qu'en générale ce sont ceux qui questionnent sur telle où telle destination et "oublient" généralement de faire un "retour"
Catherine
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Alors, simple curiosité, on aimerait bien savoir ce qui motive une telle implication à la vie du forum ? Ils sont payé pour l'animer ? Ils nous aiment ?
Mel,
moi c'est ta question qui me surprend vraiment...
Quand les gens participent peu, on se plaint. Quand les gens participent bcp en donnant de leur temps et de leurs connaissances, on s'interroge sur eux 🤪
Moi je trouve qu'il y a un truc qui ne tourne pas rond dans ce bas monde 😛
Mel,
moi c'est ta question qui me surprend vraiment...
Quand les gens participent peu, on se plaint. Quand les gens participent bcp en donnant de leur temps et de leurs connaissances, on s'interroge sur eux 🤪
Moi je trouve qu'il y a un truc qui ne tourne pas rond dans ce bas monde 😛
Faby
.certains membres comme Barbot sont à près de 20 000 interventions...
Tu n'as pas bien cherché ...
Il existe (ait) de plus gros posteurs.
on aimerait bien savoir ce qui motive une telle implication à la vie du forum ?
Le voyage peut-être...😮
Ils nous aiment ?
Pas tout le monde quand même...🤪
Tu n'as pas bien cherché ...
Il existe (ait) de plus gros posteurs.
on aimerait bien savoir ce qui motive une telle implication à la vie du forum ?
Le voyage peut-être...😮
Ils nous aiment ?
Pas tout le monde quand même...🤪
Les uns aiment bien donner des renseignements sur telle où telle destination qu'ils connaissent , du coup ça engendre d'autres questions et donc d'autres réponses.
D'autres encore en manière de renseignements pratiques partagent un carnet de voyage ce qui génère aussi beaucoup de messages.
D'autres adorent la rubrique "jeux " et là pffiou tout plein de messages 🙂
Je ne partage pas du tout ton analyse...😄😉
(Tu as oublié : d'autres adorent la rubrique Pensées et patati et là pffiou tout plein de messages ...)
D'autres adorent la rubrique "jeux " et là pffiou tout plein de messages 🙂
Je ne partage pas du tout ton analyse...😄😉
(Tu as oublié : d'autres adorent la rubrique Pensées et patati et là pffiou tout plein de messages ...)
quel est donc le rapport entre cette destination et vos propos ?
Boum, Barbot et Thuan...
Boum, Barbot et Thuan...
D'autres encore adorent la rubrique "JE" et là pffiou tout plein de messages 😇🤪
" On voyait partout des sardines ... "
D'autres encore adorent la rubrique poil à gratter et là pffffioouuuu tout plein de messages....
Ou plus de posteur...🤪
Bonjour,
La plupart des gens s'investissant dans un loisir y consacre du temps..
Ne pouvant voyager concrètement autant que je le souhaiterais, je voyage virtuellement de diverses manières (site, forums, messages directs) environ 1 heure par jour... Une partie du temps est liée à la prepa de nos voyages, l'autre à aider d'autres à leurs prépas et à clavarder, parfois de rien mais plus souvent de tout.
Et comme dit, quand tu participes à un je/jeu, tu as vite fait d'avoir 20 messages dans l'heure 🤪
La plupart des gens s'investissant dans un loisir y consacre du temps..
Ne pouvant voyager concrètement autant que je le souhaiterais, je voyage virtuellement de diverses manières (site, forums, messages directs) environ 1 heure par jour... Une partie du temps est liée à la prepa de nos voyages, l'autre à aider d'autres à leurs prépas et à clavarder, parfois de rien mais plus souvent de tout.
Et comme dit, quand tu participes à un je/jeu, tu as vite fait d'avoir 20 messages dans l'heure 🤪
Moi j'ai pas d'amis alors je m'occupes comme je peux!
La curiosité n'est ni une qualité ni un défaut, c'est une attitude psychologique positive, elle ne permet pas de mieux connaître les autres mais elle est source de réflexion... je suis d'accord avec toi pour dire que les chiffres en eux-mêmes ne signifient rien c'est pourquoi je pose la question à ces quatre personnes dont je trouve les interventions souvent agréables. Les réactions défensives, s'il y en avait, ne me dérange pas, pas plus que ton attitude agressive et tes jugements de valeur ! je ne viens pas ici pour régler des comptes, je suis ordinairement polie et respectueuse comme on peut s'en rendre compte dans mes messages.
Mes excuses au modérateur, je ne suis pas une grande habitué du forum et je croyais que ma question allait être perdue dans le bas du forum, je me suis trompé !
Pour FDB... s'interroger n'est pas condamner !
Tu devrais (ré)apprendre la définition du terme "agressivité", cela t'éviterait d'y faire allusion sans aucune raison valable !
- .. mais aussi nous expliquer en quoi formuler des "jugements de valeur" sur un forum de libre expression devrait forcément être considéré comme négatif : aurais-tu par hasard la prétention de ne jamais te livrer à la pratique de cet exercice ? ... ou n'en as-tu seulement pas conscience ?
Pendant que tu y seras, puis-je te suggérer dans le dictionnaire un petit tour par la définition de "susceptibilité" ?
- .. mais aussi nous expliquer en quoi formuler des "jugements de valeur" sur un forum de libre expression devrait forcément être considéré comme négatif : aurais-tu par hasard la prétention de ne jamais te livrer à la pratique de cet exercice ? ... ou n'en as-tu seulement pas conscience ?
Pendant que tu y seras, puis-je te suggérer dans le dictionnaire un petit tour par la définition de "susceptibilité" ?
" On voyait partout des sardines ... "
je suis d'accord avec toi pour dire que les chiffres en eux-mêmes ne signifient rien c'est pourquoi je pose la question à ces quatre personnes dont je trouve les interventions souvent agréables.
Si tu ne voulais poser ta question qu'à ces quatre personnes, pourquoi ne leur as-tu pas envoyé un message privé ?
Sinon, je suppose que la réponse à ta question est l'amour de la Thaïlande et le goût du partage.
Un peu de déformation professionnelle pour Fexon, peut-être...😄
Si tu ne voulais poser ta question qu'à ces quatre personnes, pourquoi ne leur as-tu pas envoyé un message privé ?
Sinon, je suppose que la réponse à ta question est l'amour de la Thaïlande et le goût du partage.
Un peu de déformation professionnelle pour Fexon, peut-être...😄
Si tu ne voulais poser ta question qu'à ces quatre personnes, pourquoi ne leur as-tu pas envoyé un message privé ?
Sinon, je suppose que la réponse à ta question est l'amour de la Thaïlande et le goût du partage.
J'ai un peu de mal à ne voir que ces deux qualificatifs dans les réponses à mon message ! Je note que ma curiosité est un défaut, que je suis sans gêne, intrusive, matinée de jugement, que je devrais réapprendre la définition d'un mot, que je fais des allusions sans raison, que je n'ai pas de conscience, que je suis susceptible et que je passe mon temps à compter les mouches, je ne vois pas trop ou est l'amour et le goût du partage dans ces paroles... j'ai reçu quelques MP qui disent qu'il faut se méfier de personnes mal intentionnées qui passent leur temps à critiquer toute idée qui ne leur plait pas... Je me moque de ces moralistes, mais je vais tout de même prendre du recul et suivre ton conseil, en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils ! Melia
Sinon, je suppose que la réponse à ta question est l'amour de la Thaïlande et le goût du partage.
J'ai un peu de mal à ne voir que ces deux qualificatifs dans les réponses à mon message ! Je note que ma curiosité est un défaut, que je suis sans gêne, intrusive, matinée de jugement, que je devrais réapprendre la définition d'un mot, que je fais des allusions sans raison, que je n'ai pas de conscience, que je suis susceptible et que je passe mon temps à compter les mouches, je ne vois pas trop ou est l'amour et le goût du partage dans ces paroles... j'ai reçu quelques MP qui disent qu'il faut se méfier de personnes mal intentionnées qui passent leur temps à critiquer toute idée qui ne leur plait pas... Je me moque de ces moralistes, mais je vais tout de même prendre du recul et suivre ton conseil, en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils ! Melia
je ne vois pas trop ou est l'amour et le goût du partage dans ces paroles...
Dans la partie Thaïlande du forum...😄
(Enfin...Parfois-souvent-, c'est quand même l'amour vache au pays du Siam...😏)
en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils !
Pas vraiment.
En MP, certains lâches se défoulent et n'hésitent pas à oublier toute politesse. 🤪🤪🤪
Dans la partie Thaïlande du forum...😄
(Enfin...Parfois-souvent-, c'est quand même l'amour vache au pays du Siam...😏)
en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils !
Pas vraiment.
En MP, certains lâches se défoulent et n'hésitent pas à oublier toute politesse. 🤪🤪🤪
Bonjour,
Comme tu le dis en MP on peut recevoir de tout: du très sympa au maxi insultant - en visible le maxi insultant est censuré 😉
Comme tu le dis en MP on peut recevoir de tout: du très sympa au maxi insultant - en visible le maxi insultant est censuré 😉
Bonjour,
Tu aurais pu spécifier, dans ton message de lancement de la discussion, qu'en fait tu ne souhaitais de réponse que de ces 4 personnes. Du coup, je ne t'aurai pas répondu... puisqu'à ma réponse sur le sujet tu n'as pas répondu 😛
La moquerie à outrance, la vilainie, la méchanceté, la critique à priori... sont présentes parmi les VForumeuses et VForumeurs... Dans mon vécu, presqu'autant que la sympathie, l'encouragement, les remerciements... mais heureusement un peu moins. C'est pour cela que je reste.
Parfois pour éviter de se prendre un boomerang négatif en pleine figure, certaines, certains préfèrent écrire en MP. Par exemple, lorsque je sors un nouveau carnet, certaines personnes n'osent m'écrire des mots sympas qu'en MP. Quand je demande pourquoi pas en visible, il m'est régulièrement répondu qu'on ne peut pas, car des connaissances ont dit bcp de mal de moi, ont incité à surtout ne pas m'encourager ou me soutenir... Donc, comme l'individu souhaite tout de même m'envoyer un mot positif, il le fait en MP 😉
Le simple fait d'être en relations virtuelles n'a pas suffi à nous mettre dans un monde bisounoursé 😕
Tu aurais pu spécifier, dans ton message de lancement de la discussion, qu'en fait tu ne souhaitais de réponse que de ces 4 personnes. Du coup, je ne t'aurai pas répondu... puisqu'à ma réponse sur le sujet tu n'as pas répondu 😛
La moquerie à outrance, la vilainie, la méchanceté, la critique à priori... sont présentes parmi les VForumeuses et VForumeurs... Dans mon vécu, presqu'autant que la sympathie, l'encouragement, les remerciements... mais heureusement un peu moins. C'est pour cela que je reste.
Parfois pour éviter de se prendre un boomerang négatif en pleine figure, certaines, certains préfèrent écrire en MP. Par exemple, lorsque je sors un nouveau carnet, certaines personnes n'osent m'écrire des mots sympas qu'en MP. Quand je demande pourquoi pas en visible, il m'est régulièrement répondu qu'on ne peut pas, car des connaissances ont dit bcp de mal de moi, ont incité à surtout ne pas m'encourager ou me soutenir... Donc, comme l'individu souhaite tout de même m'envoyer un mot positif, il le fait en MP 😉
Le simple fait d'être en relations virtuelles n'a pas suffi à nous mettre dans un monde bisounoursé 😕
La moquerie
Je ne mettrais pas ceci dans le négatif.
Mais il faut aussi savoir se moquer de soi même.
Je ne mettrais pas ceci dans le négatif.
Mais il faut aussi savoir se moquer de soi même.
Re,
Je l'ai qualifiée pour préciser de quelle moquerie je parlais. J'ai vu des gens arriver sur VF, être tant moqué dans leurs premiers messages, qu'ils sont vite partis et plus jamais revenus. Merci à toi d'avoir attiré mon attention dessus.
Par contre, j'aime bien la taquinerie et les blagounettes qui peuvent aller avec 😉
Je l'ai qualifiée pour préciser de quelle moquerie je parlais. J'ai vu des gens arriver sur VF, être tant moqué dans leurs premiers messages, qu'ils sont vite partis et plus jamais revenus. Merci à toi d'avoir attiré mon attention dessus.
Par contre, j'aime bien la taquinerie et les blagounettes qui peuvent aller avec 😉
Je note que ma curiosité est un défaut, que je suis sans gêne, intrusive, matinée de jugement, que je devrais réapprendre la définition d'un mot, que je fais des allusions sans raison, que je n'ai pas de conscience, que je suis susceptible et que je passe mon temps à compter les mouches,
Je, je, je... ou comment tuer dans l'œuf une discussion naissante. Quelle place, quel espace laisses-tu maintenant pour qu'un échange se poursuive ? Plutôt que de distribuer des bons et des mauvais points... les gentils, les méchants... de personnaliser inutilement le débat... questionne-toi sur ta manière de discuter à l'écrit avec d'autres que tu ne connais pas... et surtout lis attentivement les réponses avant de les interpréter. (Pas envie de développer davantage)
j'ai reçu quelques MP qui disent qu'il faut se méfier de personnes mal intentionnées qui passent leur temps à critiquer toute idée qui ne leur plait pas... Je me moque de ces moralistes, mais je vais tout de même prendre du recul et suivre ton conseil, en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils !
Lorsqu'on reçoit un MP d'un gentil membre critique envers d'autres, le saisir avec des pincettes, comme s'il s'agissait d'un négatif photo et le laisser égoutter pour qu'il révèle sa réelle intention. Souvent apparaissent derrière les paroles gentilles, amertume, lâcheté, rancune. Ou folie furieuse. Se demander alors pourquoi les gentils agissent dans l'ombre...
Psst, monsieur le modérateur... finalement c'était peut-être pas une bonne idée de déplacer le message au fin fond du forum. La rubrique "Pensées, réflexions" taille trop large pour certains egos susceptibles aux préoccupations minuscules...
Je, je, je... ou comment tuer dans l'œuf une discussion naissante. Quelle place, quel espace laisses-tu maintenant pour qu'un échange se poursuive ? Plutôt que de distribuer des bons et des mauvais points... les gentils, les méchants... de personnaliser inutilement le débat... questionne-toi sur ta manière de discuter à l'écrit avec d'autres que tu ne connais pas... et surtout lis attentivement les réponses avant de les interpréter. (Pas envie de développer davantage)
j'ai reçu quelques MP qui disent qu'il faut se méfier de personnes mal intentionnées qui passent leur temps à critiquer toute idée qui ne leur plait pas... Je me moque de ces moralistes, mais je vais tout de même prendre du recul et suivre ton conseil, en Mp les gens sont bien plus gentils !
Lorsqu'on reçoit un MP d'un gentil membre critique envers d'autres, le saisir avec des pincettes, comme s'il s'agissait d'un négatif photo et le laisser égoutter pour qu'il révèle sa réelle intention. Souvent apparaissent derrière les paroles gentilles, amertume, lâcheté, rancune. Ou folie furieuse. Se demander alors pourquoi les gentils agissent dans l'ombre...
Psst, monsieur le modérateur... finalement c'était peut-être pas une bonne idée de déplacer le message au fin fond du forum. La rubrique "Pensées, réflexions" taille trop large pour certains egos susceptibles aux préoccupations minuscules...
C'est vrai je n'ai pas répondu, je te fais mes excuses, mais mon attention a été détournée un peu trop vite vers la méchanceté car je n'ai pas trop l'habitude de ce domaine, ton message plutôt gentil est passé au travers de ma lecture !
Je pense être une personne gentille, je demande parfois mais je donne aussi souvent que possible, j'aime bien aider et partager ma jeune et petite expérience. Par contre je n'aime pas les polémiques et la méchanceté, je vais donc m'éloigner de ce forum trop agressif...
En Mp je n'ai reçu que des messages positifs et courtois, quelques mises en garde contre trois ou quatre personnes qui semblent faire l'unanimité pour leurs propos insultants, quelques dragueurs qui confondent VF avec un site de rencontre, mais dans l'ensemble c'était assez agréable !
je fais les championnats de France en endurance avec mon cheval, je monte depuis l'age de 8 ans et j'ai un élevage familiale de chats norvégiens, pour ces deux activités nous avons des forums privés sur lesquels je discute depuis des années, jamais je n'y ai vu le dixième des polémiques de VF, curieux !
Amicalement
Melia
J'ai vu des gens arriver sur VF, être tant moqué dans leurs premiers messages, qu'ils sont vite partis et plus jamais revenus.
Peut être justement parce qu'ils n'ont pas su se moquer d'eux-même ... Ça fait redescendre la pression et après on peut discuter sereinement !😉
Prendre la mouche n'amène à rien.
Peut être justement parce qu'ils n'ont pas su se moquer d'eux-même ... Ça fait redescendre la pression et après on peut discuter sereinement !😉
Prendre la mouche n'amène à rien.
Souvent apparaissent derrière les paroles gentilles, amertume, lâcheté, rancune.
Ou folie furieuse.
Dois-je en conclure que les MP agressifs que j'ai pu recevoir provenaient en fait de doux agneaux ??? 😮
Et qu'il faut que je me méfie de tout mon carnet d'adresse ?😇🤪
un gentil membre critique envers d'autres
Y a un truc qui va pas...
Si le gentil membre bave sur un autre membre, comment peut-on le qualifier de gentil ? 😮
Et si un méchant membre bave sur un autre membre, il ferait alors là preuve de gentillesse ? 🤪
C'est compliqué cette histoire !😉
Dois-je en conclure que les MP agressifs que j'ai pu recevoir provenaient en fait de doux agneaux ??? 😮
Et qu'il faut que je me méfie de tout mon carnet d'adresse ?😇🤪
un gentil membre critique envers d'autres
Y a un truc qui va pas...
Si le gentil membre bave sur un autre membre, comment peut-on le qualifier de gentil ? 😮
Et si un méchant membre bave sur un autre membre, il ferait alors là preuve de gentillesse ? 🤪
C'est compliqué cette histoire !😉
Re,
Je ne vois pas pourquoi qq'un posant une question qui lui apparaît sans élément de moquerie devrait rire du fait que d'autres y ont vu de quoi se moquer. Il attendait une réponse, avait besoin d'infos... et n'était pas venu là pour s'en prendre plein la figure. Ce forum n'est pas annoncé comme étant un espace dédié à l'abaissement des autres - du moins dans son intitulé de base.
Débuter dans un domaine, cela veut dire ignorer, se tromper, apprendre... et je ne crois pas du tout que la moquerie des autres (surtout quand elle est méchante, globale, ridiculisante...) aide à apprendre. Le coup de main sympa, à mes yeux, apporte beaucoup plus et peut, éventuellement, s'étayer de sympathiques taquineries.
Il y a en cet espace, comme dans la vraie vie, des personnes agissant comme si tout le monde était au même niveau de connaissances, de compréhension, d'analyse et n'ayant pas toujours ouverture envers les nouveaux, débutants ou juste ignorants d'un point.
Tu l'auras compris, je ne suis donc pas une fan de la moquerie pour la moquerie car elle n'est pas forcément apprenante ou aidante. Et j'en vois tous les jours, dans ma vie pro, les ravages...
Je ne vois pas pourquoi qq'un posant une question qui lui apparaît sans élément de moquerie devrait rire du fait que d'autres y ont vu de quoi se moquer. Il attendait une réponse, avait besoin d'infos... et n'était pas venu là pour s'en prendre plein la figure. Ce forum n'est pas annoncé comme étant un espace dédié à l'abaissement des autres - du moins dans son intitulé de base.
Débuter dans un domaine, cela veut dire ignorer, se tromper, apprendre... et je ne crois pas du tout que la moquerie des autres (surtout quand elle est méchante, globale, ridiculisante...) aide à apprendre. Le coup de main sympa, à mes yeux, apporte beaucoup plus et peut, éventuellement, s'étayer de sympathiques taquineries.
Il y a en cet espace, comme dans la vraie vie, des personnes agissant comme si tout le monde était au même niveau de connaissances, de compréhension, d'analyse et n'ayant pas toujours ouverture envers les nouveaux, débutants ou juste ignorants d'un point.
Tu l'auras compris, je ne suis donc pas une fan de la moquerie pour la moquerie car elle n'est pas forcément apprenante ou aidante. Et j'en vois tous les jours, dans ma vie pro, les ravages...
Bonjour,
Désolée pour toi que tu ne te sentes pas bien par ici.
Tout le monde n'a pas la même attitude relationnelle. Il y a des gens surtout, voire uniquement, intéressés par les voyages et tout ce qui tourne autour: le partage, l'aide aux autres, la demande d'infos... et pas forcément dans le besoin de clavarder en mode "descente des autres et critiques à gogo comme au café du coin".
Certains ne font pas la différence entre le "je" parler de soi et donc se positionner dans son individualité - car comment raconter son vécu autrement - et le "je" j'impose mon point de vue en employant des opinions plus ou moins tranchées comme dans "C'est nul ou c'est bon"... Le deuxième est preuve d'ego-centrisme, le premier d'affirmation de soi 😉
Désolée pour toi que tu ne te sentes pas bien par ici.
Tout le monde n'a pas la même attitude relationnelle. Il y a des gens surtout, voire uniquement, intéressés par les voyages et tout ce qui tourne autour: le partage, l'aide aux autres, la demande d'infos... et pas forcément dans le besoin de clavarder en mode "descente des autres et critiques à gogo comme au café du coin".
Certains ne font pas la différence entre le "je" parler de soi et donc se positionner dans son individualité - car comment raconter son vécu autrement - et le "je" j'impose mon point de vue en employant des opinions plus ou moins tranchées comme dans "C'est nul ou c'est bon"... Le deuxième est preuve d'ego-centrisme, le premier d'affirmation de soi 😉
C'est compliqué cette histoire !😉
Veux-tu que je te réexplique tout depuis le début ? Que le monde et ce forum ne sont pas si manichéens, qu'il n'y a pas les gentils d'un côté, les méchants de l'autre... Que l'irrespect et l'agressivité ne sont pas toujours en face du doigt qui les désigne, mais parfois de l'autre côté... Qu'un échange ça bouscule parfois... Et d'autres choses encore ?
Veux-tu que je te réexplique tout depuis le début ? Que le monde et ce forum ne sont pas si manichéens, qu'il n'y a pas les gentils d'un côté, les méchants de l'autre... Que l'irrespect et l'agressivité ne sont pas toujours en face du doigt qui les désigne, mais parfois de l'autre côté... Qu'un échange ça bouscule parfois... Et d'autres choses encore ?
Je ne vois pas pourquoi qq'un posant une question qui lui apparaît sans élément de moquerie devrait rire du fait que d'autres y ont vu de quoi se moquer
Certains tendent des perches si énormes qu'il est difficile de résister...
Je me souviens d'un topic dont le titre était quelque chose de ce goût là : "Namibie : Voyage avec une tante sur le toit".
Les intervenants réguliers de cette rubrique sont plutôt avenants mais là je dois dire que c'est parti en vrille ...😄
La personne ne l'a pas mal pris, la modération a corrigé le titre et le voyageur a obtenu ses réponses.
Après, il y a moquerie et moquerie...
Il ne vaut mieux pas poser certaines questions sur certaines parties du forum si on est un peu trop bisounours.
Enfin je pense réellement que certains (qu'ils soient "nouveaux" ou "anciens") sont beaucoup trop susceptibles...
Certains tendent des perches si énormes qu'il est difficile de résister...
Je me souviens d'un topic dont le titre était quelque chose de ce goût là : "Namibie : Voyage avec une tante sur le toit".
Les intervenants réguliers de cette rubrique sont plutôt avenants mais là je dois dire que c'est parti en vrille ...😄
La personne ne l'a pas mal pris, la modération a corrigé le titre et le voyageur a obtenu ses réponses.
Après, il y a moquerie et moquerie...
Il ne vaut mieux pas poser certaines questions sur certaines parties du forum si on est un peu trop bisounours.
Enfin je pense réellement que certains (qu'ils soient "nouveaux" ou "anciens") sont beaucoup trop susceptibles...
Re,
Chacune, chacun sa façon d'agir avec les autres... Rien n'oblige à se moquer, dénigrer, rire de l'autre. C'est un choix à faire entre le "Cela m'est agréable car cela me fait plaisir de me marrer, en plus avec les copines/copains" et la réflexion sur l'impact de ce choix sur l'autre...
Dans l'exemple que tu cites, on peut avoir le réflexe de prévenir la personne et s'il est trop tard pour changer, demander aux modos de rectifier... C'est là où chacune, chacun va faire en fonction de ce qu'il lui apparaît opportun: rire de l'autre (plus ou moins gentiment voire uniquement taquiner) ou l'aider et parfois même sans qu'il le sache.
Après la capacité à mettre de la distance avec les commentaires ou jugements des autres (tu es susceptible) n'est pas au même niveau chez tout le monde à un instant T. Certains sont au maximum possible et d'autres en phase de découverte. Certains ont compris que le jugement de l'autre était une information sur son ressenti et non une vérité et donc mette de la distance avec le potentiel impact négatif. Mais parfois, ce n'est pas possible car pas acquis ou tout simplement cet être humain là est en fragilité à cet instant T. 😉
Par contre venir dans un espace public, comme un forum, c'est prendre le risque de tous les types de réactions possibles chez les autres et donc conscientiser que cela ne va pas forcément vous être agréable 😕
Chacune, chacun sa façon d'agir avec les autres... Rien n'oblige à se moquer, dénigrer, rire de l'autre. C'est un choix à faire entre le "Cela m'est agréable car cela me fait plaisir de me marrer, en plus avec les copines/copains" et la réflexion sur l'impact de ce choix sur l'autre...
Dans l'exemple que tu cites, on peut avoir le réflexe de prévenir la personne et s'il est trop tard pour changer, demander aux modos de rectifier... C'est là où chacune, chacun va faire en fonction de ce qu'il lui apparaît opportun: rire de l'autre (plus ou moins gentiment voire uniquement taquiner) ou l'aider et parfois même sans qu'il le sache.
Après la capacité à mettre de la distance avec les commentaires ou jugements des autres (tu es susceptible) n'est pas au même niveau chez tout le monde à un instant T. Certains sont au maximum possible et d'autres en phase de découverte. Certains ont compris que le jugement de l'autre était une information sur son ressenti et non une vérité et donc mette de la distance avec le potentiel impact négatif. Mais parfois, ce n'est pas possible car pas acquis ou tout simplement cet être humain là est en fragilité à cet instant T. 😉
Par contre venir dans un espace public, comme un forum, c'est prendre le risque de tous les types de réactions possibles chez les autres et donc conscientiser que cela ne va pas forcément vous être agréable 😕
Que le monde et ce forum ne sont pas si manichéens, qu'il n'y a pas les gentils d'un côté, les méchants de l'autre...
Même en politique ?😮
Kola, je te remercie d'avoir foutu en l'air mon beau dimanche printanier.🙁
Même en politique ?😮
Kola, je te remercie d'avoir foutu en l'air mon beau dimanche printanier.🙁
Lorsqu'on reçoit un MP d'un gentil membre critique envers d'autres, le saisir avec des pincettes, comme s'il s'agissait d'un négatif photo et le laisser égoutter pour qu'il révèle sa réelle intention.
Souvent apparaissent derrière les paroles gentilles, amertume, lâcheté, rancune.
Ou folie furieuse.
Se demander alors pourquoi les gentils agissent dans l'ombre...
Sage conseil 🙂, je suis totalement d'accord.
Sinon, pour répondre à Madikéra, en MP aussi tu peux censurer. Si ce n'est pour le message que tu as déjà reçu, c'est pour les suivants 😏
Sage conseil 🙂, je suis totalement d'accord.
Sinon, pour répondre à Madikéra, en MP aussi tu peux censurer. Si ce n'est pour le message que tu as déjà reçu, c'est pour les suivants 😏
Faby
en MP aussi tu peux censurer
En revanche, tu ne peux pas toujours répondre aux témoignages de "sympathie" puisque la "censure" marche des 2 côtés...😠
Mais bon, comme l'a si bien écrit Alfred, seul le silence est grand, tout le reste est faiblesse...
En revanche, tu ne peux pas toujours répondre aux témoignages de "sympathie" puisque la "censure" marche des 2 côtés...😠
Mais bon, comme l'a si bien écrit Alfred, seul le silence est grand, tout le reste est faiblesse...
🙂 ils voyagent peu etre juste au travers de leur écran ? ca crains
Et si chacun était libre de disposer de sa vie comme il l'entend, ça craindrais aussi, selon toi ? 😕
Et si chacun était libre de disposer de sa vie comme il l'entend, ça craindrais aussi, selon toi ? 😕
" On voyait partout des sardines ... "
Alfred Neumann ?
Mon Alfred n'a jamais fait la couverture de Mad Magazine ! 😠
Mon Alfred n'a jamais fait la couverture de Mad Magazine ! 😠
si chacun était libre de disposer de sa vie comme il l'entend
T'es fou, toi ! 🤪
T'es fou, toi ! 🤪
Bonjour,
Comme tu le dis, si cela se renouvelle tu peux rompre le lien...
Je vous rejoins sur le fait de savoir que des propos rapportés sont souvent (certains disent toujours) filtrés de manière volontaire ou pas. Même, quand on me transfère un message, je sais bien qu'il a pu être modifié...
Après, je ne compte pas sur VF pour me créer des relations solides, durables et fiables. Je sais bien que nous sommes dans une base virtuelle sans engagement. Toutefois, j'en vis des sympathiques, aidantes, encourageantes qui vont parfois jusqu'au verre de l'amitié.
Comme tu le dis, si cela se renouvelle tu peux rompre le lien...
Je vous rejoins sur le fait de savoir que des propos rapportés sont souvent (certains disent toujours) filtrés de manière volontaire ou pas. Même, quand on me transfère un message, je sais bien qu'il a pu être modifié...
Après, je ne compte pas sur VF pour me créer des relations solides, durables et fiables. Je sais bien que nous sommes dans une base virtuelle sans engagement. Toutefois, j'en vis des sympathiques, aidantes, encourageantes qui vont parfois jusqu'au verre de l'amitié.
si chacun était libre de disposer de sa vie comme il l'entend
T'es fou, toi ! 🤪
' sais pas ! 😇
mais commence à me demander s'il ne pourrait pas bien être salutaire un jour prochain de le devenir ou d'être perçu comme tel !
T'es fou, toi ! 🤪
' sais pas ! 😇
mais commence à me demander s'il ne pourrait pas bien être salutaire un jour prochain de le devenir ou d'être perçu comme tel !
" On voyait partout des sardines ... "
commence à me demander s'il ne pourrait pas bien être salutaire un jour prochain de le devenir ou d'être perçu comme tel !
Pour tenir de tels propos, j'en conclus que finalement tu n'es pas si fou que cela...
Pour tenir de tels propos, j'en conclus que finalement tu n'es pas si fou que cela...
Bonjour Mélia
Votre question prête à sourire : un forum est un lieu d'échange et il est parfaitement normal que certains membres, peut-être plus impliqués, peut-être plus sollicités, aient au fil du temps écrit plusieurs milliers de message. Permettez moi de vous poser une question en retour : qu'est ce qui vous amène à créer ce genre de vitrine de soi ? Communiquer avec d'autres est un comportement robotique a contrario du blog ? On échange que si on est payé alors que le blog, unilatéral par définition, c'est différent ? Si le second n'a pour but que de générer du capital social, c'est que le premier doit impérativement engranger un bénéfice ?
Si toute interaction humaine est nécessairement de nature économique, prenez le temps de ne pas extrapoler jusqu'à considérer qu'elle est d'ordre marchand.
Votre question prête à sourire : un forum est un lieu d'échange et il est parfaitement normal que certains membres, peut-être plus impliqués, peut-être plus sollicités, aient au fil du temps écrit plusieurs milliers de message. Permettez moi de vous poser une question en retour : qu'est ce qui vous amène à créer ce genre de vitrine de soi ? Communiquer avec d'autres est un comportement robotique a contrario du blog ? On échange que si on est payé alors que le blog, unilatéral par définition, c'est différent ? Si le second n'a pour but que de générer du capital social, c'est que le premier doit impérativement engranger un bénéfice ?
Si toute interaction humaine est nécessairement de nature économique, prenez le temps de ne pas extrapoler jusqu'à considérer qu'elle est d'ordre marchand.
Qui veut chasser une migraine n'a qu'à boire toujours du bon
Je me souviens d'un topic dont le titre était quelque chose de ce goût là : "Namibie : Voyage avec une tante sur le toit".
C'est à mettre dans les anales ça!😏
C'est à mettre dans les anales ça!😏
Dans les anales ? 😮 😏
" Nous ne saurons jamais tout le bien qu'un simple sourire peut être capable de faire."
Mère Teresa
C'est juste l'affaire d'un petit "n" qui a eu du mal à passer ! 😏
Mes photos sur Flickr:
https://www.flickr.com/photos/153304262@N05/albums
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hello to all travelers with their eyes wide open to the desert...
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
Hi everyone,
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines? For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL. THANKS GUYS
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines? For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL. THANKS GUYS
Hi everyone,
I’m Loulou, a French expat who’s been living in Southeast Asia for about fifteen years, currently in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. A passionate walker at heart, I’ve trekked in Nepal (Thorung La, Mardi Himal), India, Vietnam, and I’m still planning new hikes (Char Dham, Langtang, Annapurna).
I’ve just published my first travel journal, recounting three months of walking and encounters across India. A portion of the sales goes to an educational center I support in Kep, for children whose parents work in the salt marshes.
I’m also working on a second book about Nepal with a musician friend, focusing on the Mardi Himal trek—two independent perspectives on the same journey.
Happy to swap stories with you about the Himalayas, India, Southeast Asia, or just the urge to hit the road and walk far from home.
Safe travels,
Loulou
Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
We're planning to spend a month in Vietnam. Is hiring a guide helpful?
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
Hello everyone,
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

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It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

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I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Hello everyone,
I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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.Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
Hello 🙂
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hi there,
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,

Hello to all East Africa lovers and nature enthusiasts in general,
While I prepare to share a recap of our latest trip/safari in Kenya soon, I’d like to wish you all a peaceful transition between 2025 and 2026.
Warm regards,
Puma2A.





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We’re a couple aged 58 and 63. We’ve just returned from a wonderful trip to South India in Tamil Nadu and a few days in Kerala. We traveled with a local French-speaking guide and his friend, the driver. They both live in Pondicherry. We spent 3 weeks with them in the most authentic way!
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like! M-Claire and Jean
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like! M-Claire and Jean
This catchy and somewhat mysterious title comes from several questions I’ve been asking myself.
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now. The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions. I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid? Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again? Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with? Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now? What’s really going on here?
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now. The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions. I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid? Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again? Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with? Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now? What’s really going on here?