J'ai besoin d'arrêter...
by Nattybo
This discussion is in French, the community’s main language.
Original post
...mais je n'arrive pas.Arreter de toujour voulloir aller ailleur, toujours avoir envie de decouvrir d'autres pays, d'autres experiences.Cela fait 9 ans q je n'arrete pas.
J'ai travailler pendant 1 ans sur des croisieres, quelle bonne experiences!!!je le conseille.J'ai connu quelqun por qui j'ai tout laisser tomber, 2 mois apres on s'est retrouver a Londres ou on a vécut une tres belle histoire.Deux ans passé il a une proposition de sínstaller eu Chili, il est parti et moi non.J'ai eu peur...Je voulait reprendre les études alors je suis revenue au Portugal, ou je sui rester 2 ans pour ensuite repartie, cette fois çi en France, d'ou je suis d'origine.Ça fait 3 ans maintenant, et je commence encore une fois a avoir envie de repartir!!Je suis arrivé a la conclusion, q 3 ans pour moi est le maximum a vivre dans un meme endroit, et c'est fatiguant.
J'aimerait pouvoir m'installer tranquillement avec mon copain, faire la vie de tout le monde, mais je n'y arrive pas, l'idée de rester sur le meme endroit pour peut-etre toute une vie me fait peur...
L e garçon avec qui j'ai vécu a Londres, me suit partout, me suit en pensé.car je n'ai plus de nouvelles.C'est un amour perdue...
Alors ce q j'aimerait bien savoir:Est-ce q un de vous a le meme besoin q moi?de vouloir toujours partir et de recommencer a nouveaux?De voir d'autres gens, d'autres cultures, de respirer d'autres airs?
Je pense a repartir sur les croisieres, mais je ne sais pas trop, tout ce q je sais c'est q j'ai envie de m'aventurer encore une fois........
Salut!
Je me reconnais dans tout ça...avant...
J'ai fait la mm chose que toi, je changeais de boulot tout le temps, 1 mois, 2 mois et je repartais ailleurs. J'adorais ça!
Mais il y avait aussi tt les mauvais côtés: les belles histoires d'amour que j'arrétais à chaque fois, les logements de travail vraiment spartiates, les patrons qui m'ont fait les pires crasses (je vous raconterais ça une autre fois!!) et un jour, l'impression de ne pas avoir de vie, de trucs à moi, d'un ptit coin tranquille où être seule et avoir des loisirs tout simples.
Le dernier taf m'a dégouté pour rien et tout à la fois et je suis revenue dans ma région natale. J'ai rencontré quelqu'un, je me suis dit "c'est l'homme de ma vie".Ensuite tout va très vite sans qu'on ne sache bien comment. Parce que à ce moment là, je pensais ça et j'avais envie de me poser. Une ferme, une création d'entreprise, et petit à petit tout pleins d'animaux à aimer qui ont rempli la ferme!
8 ans, ça fait 8 ans...
Et ça fait 3 ans que je pête les plombs...
J'ai tout pour être heureuse me dit-on tout le temps: un ami qui m'aime et m'offre tout.Des beaux voyages. Mes animaux que j'adore et tout ce que je veux...
Mais...
Je suis de plus en plus malheureuse...
Ma vie c'est bouger, découvrir, rencontrer et même si j'ai essayé d'intégrer la vie de tout les gens qu'on dit "normaux" (mais c'est quoi la "normalité"????), ça ne me rend vraiment mais vraiment pas heureuse.
Là, c'est facile de dire "quitte tout et pars".Oui mais...j'aime mes animaux, mon ami et je n'arrive pas à tous les abandonner.J'ai pris la responsabilité d'animaux et je ne vais pas les "foutre à la rue"... J'ai envie d'un boulot 3 mois ici, 6 mois là bas. D'être sur les routes de France et de Navarre, avec mon chien. J'en crève de la vie avec maison, quotidien et habitudes.J'en peux plus...
Tu vois, on a parfois besoin de se poser.Pour quelques années et être vraiment heureuse durant un temps. Mais fais gaffe...C'est super facile de s'attacher à des trucs et de se sentir emprisonné quelques années plus tard et rien ne peut combler le manque de bouger. J'ai tout fait pour pouvoir partir qd j'en avais envie et ss m'en rendre compte, il y a pleins de choses qui sont arrivées petit à petit et qui me tiennent malgré mon envie de tout lâcher. L'amour...qu'on a envie de ne pas perdre...
Alors la souffrance de rester et de ne pas vivre. Et la souffrance de partir et de perdre ce que j'ai et que j'aime.
Là, c'est facile de dire "quitte tout et pars".Oui mais...j'aime mes animaux, mon ami et je n'arrive pas à tous les abandonner.J'ai pris la responsabilité d'animaux et je ne vais pas les "foutre à la rue"... J'ai envie d'un boulot 3 mois ici, 6 mois là bas. D'être sur les routes de France et de Navarre, avec mon chien. J'en crève de la vie avec maison, quotidien et habitudes.J'en peux plus...
Tu vois, on a parfois besoin de se poser.Pour quelques années et être vraiment heureuse durant un temps. Mais fais gaffe...C'est super facile de s'attacher à des trucs et de se sentir emprisonné quelques années plus tard et rien ne peut combler le manque de bouger. J'ai tout fait pour pouvoir partir qd j'en avais envie et ss m'en rendre compte, il y a pleins de choses qui sont arrivées petit à petit et qui me tiennent malgré mon envie de tout lâcher. L'amour...qu'on a envie de ne pas perdre...
Alors la souffrance de rester et de ne pas vivre. Et la souffrance de partir et de perdre ce que j'ai et que j'aime.
merçi....C'est ça, mais, me poser, je vient de le faire, il y a juste 4 mois, est tout bascule, plus de boulot, j'ai changer de ville, alors, je connait personne, mon copain pas de boulot non plus, et je suis loin de la famille et je pête les plombs....Peut-être, me diras tu q c'est pas l'homme de ma vie, ou q il faut se battre et continuer.Moi tout ce q je sais c'est q je suis malheureuse, bien sur j'ais de quoi manger, un toit, une famille qui m´aime, et je trouverais bien du boulot, mais il manque quelque chose...Et c'est partir, voir ailleurs, connaitre d'autre chose.
Tout c'est n'est pas nouveuax pour moi, et je me demande bien si un jour il m'arriveras de me poser.
C'est tres chiant d'etre comme ça, on se dit, on a q'une vie apres tout, mais on se dit aussi quel interet d'arriver a un certain age et de ne pas avoir connu l'amour, de ne pas avoir connu la maternité, etc..?
Je suis un peux perdue....je me demande bien ce qu'il va m'arriver cette fois çi.En tout merçi bien, tu ma aider!
Salut les filles, bon alors là, c'est pas la forme 😕!! Vos histoires de vie m'ont touchées par leur sincérité, je tente une petite réponse de part mon vécu.
Pour ma part, ce que je trouve idéal c'est de voyager en couple avec les mêmes envies (ne l'ayant jamais connu d'ailleurs, c'est peut être pour cela 😛), emmener sa moitié avec soi et ne pas craindre de ne pas le retrouver au retour. Alors, si ce n'est pas possible pour diverses raisons, est ce que les voyages de courte ou moyenne durée ne sont pas envisageables ? Par contre, si c'est partir pour ne plus revenir, là c'est dur. Dans ce dernier cas, mon avis est partagé car la bougeotte cela ne se maitrise pas toujours mais le couple c'est important aussi. Pour avoir en partie sacrifié mon envie de bouger pendant ma vie de couple, je peux dire qu'effectivement quand on a cela dans les tripes, c'est très dur d'y renoncer.J'ajouterai aussi que l'on vit un moment ou toute sa vie avec une même personne, rien n'est garanti.En tout cas depuis que je suis seule (et c'est pas évident tous les jours 🏴☠️), ma nature est revenue illico, et je pense que mon bien être dépend de mon envie de voir ailleurs au détriment des gens que j'aime.
Moralité à 2, c'est mieux, mais si c'est pas possible .....
Pour ma part, ce que je trouve idéal c'est de voyager en couple avec les mêmes envies (ne l'ayant jamais connu d'ailleurs, c'est peut être pour cela 😛), emmener sa moitié avec soi et ne pas craindre de ne pas le retrouver au retour. Alors, si ce n'est pas possible pour diverses raisons, est ce que les voyages de courte ou moyenne durée ne sont pas envisageables ? Par contre, si c'est partir pour ne plus revenir, là c'est dur. Dans ce dernier cas, mon avis est partagé car la bougeotte cela ne se maitrise pas toujours mais le couple c'est important aussi. Pour avoir en partie sacrifié mon envie de bouger pendant ma vie de couple, je peux dire qu'effectivement quand on a cela dans les tripes, c'est très dur d'y renoncer.J'ajouterai aussi que l'on vit un moment ou toute sa vie avec une même personne, rien n'est garanti.En tout cas depuis que je suis seule (et c'est pas évident tous les jours 🏴☠️), ma nature est revenue illico, et je pense que mon bien être dépend de mon envie de voir ailleurs au détriment des gens que j'aime.
Moralité à 2, c'est mieux, mais si c'est pas possible .....
Je te rejoins, nattybo, j'ai perpétuellement cette furieuse envie de l'Ailleurs qui ne me quitte jamais. D'un point de vue psychologique, je suis certaine qu'un professionnel pourrait assez facilement nous expliquer le pourquoi de la chose.. 😛 mais comprendre d'ou nous vient cette envie (qui devient plutôt un besoin quand c'est rendu à ce niveau) ne règle rien n'est-ce pas? 😐
Plusieurs personnes portent cette envie, et vivent très bien avec elle, chacun à leur façon... Je crois que de ton côté, la question est plutôt pourquoi ressens-tu un tiraillement entre ce besoin qui te gruge et l'envie de te poser et construire tes fondations. Ceci viendrait-ils du carcan social? Pourquoi, si tu as ce besoin en toi, ressens-tu ce tiraillement lorsque viens le moment de l'assouvir? C'est surtout ceci que je retiens.
Plusieurs personnes portent cette envie, et vivent très bien avec elle, chacun à leur façon... Je crois que de ton côté, la question est plutôt pourquoi ressens-tu un tiraillement entre ce besoin qui te gruge et l'envie de te poser et construire tes fondations. Ceci viendrait-ils du carcan social? Pourquoi, si tu as ce besoin en toi, ressens-tu ce tiraillement lorsque viens le moment de l'assouvir? C'est surtout ceci que je retiens.
''On ne peut contrôler le vent mais on peut ajuster les voiles''
''Pour chaque chose, une autre vie me semblait due'' A. Rimbaud
''Pour chaque chose, une autre vie me semblait due'' A. Rimbaud
bonne question!Je cherche toujours la réponse....je pense parfois, et surtout je l'espere, q je n'ai pas encore trouvé la personne qui me donneras l'envie de ne plus avoir envie, ou qui partegeras les memes envies, mais, en attendant, je me laisse aller, contre tout et tous, car, les phrase types:Tu as 30 ans, il est temps d'arreter! je les entends assez souvent.
Il y a une part de raison, je le sais...
Je crois q j'ai ça en moi, tout simplement, Le voyage me va.
bon, je vais être "crue" mais je crois surtout que malgré tes 30 ans ... ben t'es pas encore mûre. voilà c'est lâché !
Tu veux partir, ben vas-y ! quelqu'un te l'a déjà dit plus haut !
Ce que tu sembles chercher en faite c'est plutot une raison pour ne pas le faire, histoire de te "déculpabiliser" ou de te mettre en accord avec ta conscience . mais là, je suis pas d'accord, tu me fais penser à cette jeune fille qui avait lancé un "sos, Môman veut pas que je parte".
Tu dis toi-même avoir eu peur de partir, penses-tu sincèrement que cela aurait été le cas si vraiment tu avais cette envie de voyage dans les tripes ? moi non! désolée mais je n'y crois pas un seul instant.
Partir sans arrêt et recommencer ... je l'ai fait pendant 10 ans et suis sur le point de remettre ça, mais jamais, JAMAIS je n'ai eu peur ni ne me suis posée la moindre question, et pourtant à l'époque, j'avais 16 ans, je ne parlais aucune langue étrangère et ne connaissais personne sur place. Ni copain avec un job, ni même un point de chute, non RIEN. J'ai travaillé aussi sur un paquebot à travers la planète et je suis d'accord sur le fait que ce fut une expérience extraordinaire, mais j'avais alors 18 ans, aujourd'hui je ne sais pas si je le referai... l'exploitation est telle, pavillon Panaméen entre autre, que ... non, je ne crois pas que j'accepterai les conditions.
tu dis avoir peur de rester sur le même endroit toute une vie ??? mais qui t'y oblige sinon toi ? Ton raisonnement est, désolée du terme mais, stupide.
Ta vie c'est toi qui l'a choisi, c'est toi qui la construit, jour après jour, tes envies c'est à toi de te donner le moyen de les assouvir. La vie que tu dis "normale" est plus qu'anormale pour un gitan
Bref, tu as envie de t'aventurer encore une fois, et ben vas-y ! t'attends quoi ? ou q ?
PS.: j'aimerai bien que tu n'abrèges pas les qui que quoi par un simple q d'ailleurs, à moins que tu ne veuilles que l'on pense au c*l, mais je ne crois pas ! Il n'y a pas que des francophones sur le site, merci d'y penser et de respecter la langue française autant que possible.
Partir sans arrêt et recommencer ... je l'ai fait pendant 10 ans et suis sur le point de remettre ça, mais jamais, JAMAIS je n'ai eu peur ni ne me suis posée la moindre question, et pourtant à l'époque, j'avais 16 ans, je ne parlais aucune langue étrangère et ne connaissais personne sur place. Ni copain avec un job, ni même un point de chute, non RIEN. J'ai travaillé aussi sur un paquebot à travers la planète et je suis d'accord sur le fait que ce fut une expérience extraordinaire, mais j'avais alors 18 ans, aujourd'hui je ne sais pas si je le referai... l'exploitation est telle, pavillon Panaméen entre autre, que ... non, je ne crois pas que j'accepterai les conditions.
tu dis avoir peur de rester sur le même endroit toute une vie ??? mais qui t'y oblige sinon toi ? Ton raisonnement est, désolée du terme mais, stupide.
Ta vie c'est toi qui l'a choisi, c'est toi qui la construit, jour après jour, tes envies c'est à toi de te donner le moyen de les assouvir. La vie que tu dis "normale" est plus qu'anormale pour un gitan
Bref, tu as envie de t'aventurer encore une fois, et ben vas-y ! t'attends quoi ? ou q ?
PS.: j'aimerai bien que tu n'abrèges pas les qui que quoi par un simple q d'ailleurs, à moins que tu ne veuilles que l'on pense au c*l, mais je ne crois pas ! Il n'y a pas que des francophones sur le site, merci d'y penser et de respecter la langue française autant que possible.
Je ne sais pas si l'envie de trouver sa vie est une preuve d'immaturité et de stupidité et si inversement, ceux qui ont trouvé leur vie sont matures!🙂
Ce n'est pas une question je crois de faire un choix entre partir ou rester mais uniquement trouver notre équilibre!
Bien sur, tout cela est fondamentalement stupide et on peut résumer la souffrance en disant que c'est nous qui là créons, qu'il suffit de décider de notre vie. Ce choix n'est pourtant qu'une composante minime auquelle on se raccroche pour trouver sa vie et son équilibre. Ce n'est pas la peur de partir qui bloque.Ce n'est pas la peur de rester qui bloque. Ce n'est pas le choix à faire qui nous empêche de bouger. Il faut juste trouver notre voie...
A 20 ans, on croit la trouver.A 25, on est persuadé d'être là où il faut.Et puis, a 33 ans, tu te retrouves sans plus aucune voie à suivre qui te rende heureuse et équilibrée. Partir, on l'a fait.Rester, on l'a fait.Trouver pleins de bonheur, de joies, sans avoir peur, on l'a fait! Et puis cette fameuse maturité arrive (eh oui, c'est justement elle le problème!)et on ne trouve plus sa voie! Ce n'est pas la peur qui nous colle à la peau.C'est la perte de l'insouciance.
Il faut juste retrouver sa voie aujourd'hui, maintenant, avec toutes les nouvelles composantes qu'on n'avait pas dans la tête avant.
Ce n'est pas une question je crois de faire un choix entre partir ou rester mais uniquement trouver notre équilibre!
Bien sur, tout cela est fondamentalement stupide et on peut résumer la souffrance en disant que c'est nous qui là créons, qu'il suffit de décider de notre vie. Ce choix n'est pourtant qu'une composante minime auquelle on se raccroche pour trouver sa vie et son équilibre. Ce n'est pas la peur de partir qui bloque.Ce n'est pas la peur de rester qui bloque. Ce n'est pas le choix à faire qui nous empêche de bouger. Il faut juste trouver notre voie...
A 20 ans, on croit la trouver.A 25, on est persuadé d'être là où il faut.Et puis, a 33 ans, tu te retrouves sans plus aucune voie à suivre qui te rende heureuse et équilibrée. Partir, on l'a fait.Rester, on l'a fait.Trouver pleins de bonheur, de joies, sans avoir peur, on l'a fait! Et puis cette fameuse maturité arrive (eh oui, c'est justement elle le problème!)et on ne trouve plus sa voie! Ce n'est pas la peur qui nous colle à la peau.C'est la perte de l'insouciance.
Il faut juste retrouver sa voie aujourd'hui, maintenant, avec toutes les nouvelles composantes qu'on n'avait pas dans la tête avant.
Salut!!
Je lis la discu depuis ton post, et je ne sais trop quoi te dire...mais je rejoint assez Vanquish dans ce qu'elle te dis. Je pense aussi qu'il y a des fois où les choix sont difficiles à faire, le tout c'est de savoir lequel on est le + capable d'assumer ensuite. C'est très personnel ce genre de questionnement, tout dépend de toi et de ton propre vécu. Ta vie est pas foutue! Tu peux te dire chaque chose en son temps et apprendre à apprécier ton environnement et le temps présent. Rends toi compte: t'es en bonne santé, t'es pas dans la rue(enfin apparement) ni dans un pays en guerre... Le futur tu le connais pas mais tu peux le préparer tandis que le passé tu le rattraperas pas!!
A + 😉
Je lis la discu depuis ton post, et je ne sais trop quoi te dire...mais je rejoint assez Vanquish dans ce qu'elle te dis. Je pense aussi qu'il y a des fois où les choix sont difficiles à faire, le tout c'est de savoir lequel on est le + capable d'assumer ensuite. C'est très personnel ce genre de questionnement, tout dépend de toi et de ton propre vécu. Ta vie est pas foutue! Tu peux te dire chaque chose en son temps et apprendre à apprécier ton environnement et le temps présent. Rends toi compte: t'es en bonne santé, t'es pas dans la rue(enfin apparement) ni dans un pays en guerre... Le futur tu le connais pas mais tu peux le préparer tandis que le passé tu le rattraperas pas!!
A + 😉
Choucarde
J'espère que malgré certaines remarques, tu ne te crois ni stupide ni immature parce que tu te sens déchirée, je crois personnellement que ce genre de questionnement nous arrive à tous, dans n'importe quel domaine de la vie, et que ceux-qui prétendent le contraire se mentent à eux-mêmes... ou ne se remettent jamais en question? Ce qui pourrait, à la limite, être vraiment un signe de stupidité et d'immaturité 😮
nattybo, si tu es devant la coisée des chemins et que tu ne sais pas encore quelle voie prendre, pourquoi tu gardes pas un peu le statut quo, le temps que la décision s'impose un peu d'elle-même? Dans le doute, vaut mieux s'abstenir dit-on! Rien ne presse... prends-le temps de regarder les motivations qui te pousseraient vers la gauche et fait de même pour la droite, et surtout prends la décision qui est bonne pour TOI et non ce que tu crois que la société (famille, amis, entourage) aimerait que tu choisisses. Les meilleurs choix seront toujours ceux fait basés sur tes besoins et tes envies à toi, jamais sur les croyances et vision de la vie des autres. Et si vraiment ton tiraillement provient d'un besoin de trouver l'âme soeur, tu peux mettre dans la balance que ''l'âme'' que tu trouveras pour partager ta vie ne sera jamais ''soeur'' si tu n'es pas vraiment dans la bonne voie pour toi...
Tes choix tissent le restent de ta vie... Everymove you make creates your destiny (Kamelot). En toute amitié.
nattybo, si tu es devant la coisée des chemins et que tu ne sais pas encore quelle voie prendre, pourquoi tu gardes pas un peu le statut quo, le temps que la décision s'impose un peu d'elle-même? Dans le doute, vaut mieux s'abstenir dit-on! Rien ne presse... prends-le temps de regarder les motivations qui te pousseraient vers la gauche et fait de même pour la droite, et surtout prends la décision qui est bonne pour TOI et non ce que tu crois que la société (famille, amis, entourage) aimerait que tu choisisses. Les meilleurs choix seront toujours ceux fait basés sur tes besoins et tes envies à toi, jamais sur les croyances et vision de la vie des autres. Et si vraiment ton tiraillement provient d'un besoin de trouver l'âme soeur, tu peux mettre dans la balance que ''l'âme'' que tu trouveras pour partager ta vie ne sera jamais ''soeur'' si tu n'es pas vraiment dans la bonne voie pour toi...
Tes choix tissent le restent de ta vie... Everymove you make creates your destiny (Kamelot). En toute amitié.
''On ne peut contrôler le vent mais on peut ajuster les voiles''
''Pour chaque chose, une autre vie me semblait due'' A. Rimbaud
''Pour chaque chose, une autre vie me semblait due'' A. Rimbaud
nattybo 🙂 tu t'interroges pour le moment mais tu verras le déclique viendra tout seul, tu te leveras un matin et tu sauras.
Je te souhaite pleins de bonnes choses.
Je te souhaite pleins de bonnes choses.
L'impulsion du voyage est l'un des plus encourageants symptômes de la vie.
Oui Vanquish, c'est ce que je vais faire...Patienter, meme si c'est pas trop dans ma nature, patienter un peux, j'ai appris que parfois c'est une bonne décision de savoir attendre.
Merçi a tous por vos pensées et avis, quelque part ça ma aider.Pour ce qui est de l'ãme soeur:J'ai reçu un e-mail, hier soir, de ce garçon dont je vous ai parler sur mon premier post, celui de Londres, il y a 5 ans.5 ans!Et ce qu'il me dit rejoint ce que je ressent, la vie est vraiment pleine de surprise.J'ai attendue 5 ans...A savoir que ce garçon se trouve au Chili!Encore un défi!Je ne sais pas comme tout se terminerat, mais, je vous tient au courant...Si ça vous interessent.
Dans tous les ressentis que j'ai lu, il revient toujours un lien affectif, une histoire d'amour, que ce soit d'un humain ou d'un animal...! mais est-que l'amour de soi est plus fort que le reste?
J'ai beaucoup donné de quelque façon que ce soit aux autres(famille, amis) et je me rens compte que je me suis oubliée...! pour quelle raison ? c'est un autre débat...
Si tu penses t'aimer plus que tout le reste, ( et ce n'est pas de l'égoïsme)alors fonce ...on a qu'une vie ...(peut-être?) tout du moins on a celle-là et il ne faut pas la galvauder.
J'ai une famille des enfants et petits enfants qui comprennent mon envie de partir et qui l'acceptent par respect pour moi.
J'ai aussi fait le choix, même s'il m'en coûte parfois, de ne pas avoir de compagnon
Bon courage dans ta décision
Bon courage dans ta décision
"Marche en avant de toi-même,
comme le premier dromadaire de la caravane".
Eh bien Nattybo,
Bobo au coeur, bobo à la tête, bobo aux tripes, bobo partout. Ca me rappelle plein de choses vécues il y a quelques années.
Puis, déclic, j'ai été l i c e n c i é e d'un boulot où je m'emm...... à mourir mais je n'osais pas sauter le pas, bouffée par la trouille de ne plus pouvoir vivre, enfin manger au moins.
Et là, ce licenciement injustifié, contre lequel je ne me suis pas battue, m'a boustée dans mon choix de vie. Peut-être un peu profiteur, penserez-vous, mais à 49 ans après une vie professionnelle, donc de cotis....., j'ai CHOISI MA reconversion pour MON BIEN-ETRE personnel. Certes, j'ai galéré financièrement mais me suis tellement épanouie dans mes activités associatives que je suggère à tout le monde d'OSER. Je regrette de n'avoir pas osé plus tôt.Il existe des tas de possibilités que je suis prête à te faire partager. Le tout, c'est que tu choisisses POUR TOI une activité à la hauteur de TES envies pour vivre en harmonie avec toi-même
Je veux bien t'y aider, il existe des formations en ce sens, que j'ai suivies et qui me permettent aujourd'hui d'aider les autres (je n'ai aucune action financière nulle part), il s'agit bien pour moi de seulement aider les Autres à s'épanouir dans leur vie. Je ne suis pas ni un gourou ni un messie et ne détiens pas de vérité suprême, mais une sacrée expérience de vie tout simplement, qui m'a menée vers le bonheur inoui de pouvoir dire aujourd'hui, qu'avec un minimum de moyens, on peut être parfaitement bien, pourvu que l'on fasse ce qui nous correspond réellement.
Rejoins-moi par mail : asso.un@gmail.com
Amicalement bon courage,
Geli
Désolé j'arrive un peu apres la bataille mais en resume je dirai de prendre son temps pour evaluer les raisons profondes pour un depart en voyage :
1/ attiré par ce qui est devant 2/ ou s'eloigner de ce qui est derriere nous 3/ ou les deux
Et puis deuxiemement, je dirai que la vie a deux c'est mieux et que personnellement j'ai voyage quelques annee a chaque fois seul et cette fois ci meme si cela fait quelques mois que je suis rentree en france, mon prochain voyage me demange mais j'ai envie de le vivre avec ma copine (que je n'ai pas encore). Les voyages cest bo mais si o peux lier voyage + relation, a mon avis, c'est le top
stef
1/ attiré par ce qui est devant 2/ ou s'eloigner de ce qui est derriere nous 3/ ou les deux
Et puis deuxiemement, je dirai que la vie a deux c'est mieux et que personnellement j'ai voyage quelques annee a chaque fois seul et cette fois ci meme si cela fait quelques mois que je suis rentree en france, mon prochain voyage me demange mais j'ai envie de le vivre avec ma copine (que je n'ai pas encore). Les voyages cest bo mais si o peux lier voyage + relation, a mon avis, c'est le top
stef
salut a toi,
mon reve est de vivre en asie et un jour mais parent mon payé un billet davion pour bangkok....
je suis complement malade detre rentrer en plus jai rencontrer une thai (je me fou d préjugé)
completement amoureu je ne sais plus quoi fairre ma seul envie est daller vivre las bas trop dur ici je n'ai pas ma place malgré mon boulot en alternance plein davantage je m'ennuie et me sans pas bien en france j'ai l'impression déetre trop ouvert pour les occidentaux que nous somme est de ne servir a rien est detre comme tout le monde!
je réaliserai mon reve meme si je reste 6mois jaurais essayer
jai limpression que c'est a coter de chez moi mais quand je regarde sur une carte en faite C 11 000 km est sa fait mal de voir.aussi loin comment lutter? comment tenir dans un pays qui est le notre mais qui n'est pas le notre?et celui ou on ne sans mal a l'aise ou tout le mmonde stress pour d broutille!
malgré mais 18ans je suis plein dambition envie de conquérir lasie dans mon domaine (bureautique)
je me batré comme un malade tétu est obstiné a n'écouter que mon feeling etnon pas les autre...
j'espere que plus tard je serais aussi heureux las bas que ce que je suis malheureux ici...
batté vous pour réaliser vos reve envie est projet on y arrivera tous c'est juste une question de temps...
un jour j'irais...
Voyager est un triple plaisir : l'attente, l'éblouissement et le souvenir.
Si tu veux être aprécier meurt ou voyage...
Salut Souason!
Je vient de lire ton post..eh oui revenir est toujours dur!Mais tu est si jeune (je ne me considère pas vieille non plus, mais l'insouciance des 18 ans est bien diférente de celle de 30 ans!)Tout ce que je peut te dire, c'est de n'oulier jamais tes rêves, et de essaier de les acomplir.Tu peut si tu le veut vraiment!Même si parfois ça n'arrive pas aussi vite qu'on le souhaite.
Et travailler, il le faut aussi, ça fait parti de ce qu'on deviendrat un jour, et ça nous fait grandir...
Continue de rêver, car pour moi, c'est ce qu'il me fait avancer.
nattybo au passage, merci pour ta contribution
sawadee krap, souanson, cà y est tu a attraper le virus Thai, pas d'antidote ! pour le virus Thailandaise, cà ce soigne mais la therapie est longue 😉 pas de préjugés de ma part, mais va voir les differents posts pour les relations Franco/Thai, trés complexe, car l'approche de l'amour est totalement differente en Asie, il y a de belles histoires, mais aussi d'autres qui finissent mal par manque de connaissances, mais tu a raison essaye
🙂
mon reve est de vivre en asie je suis complement malade detre rentrer en plus jai rencontrer une thai (je me fou d préjugé) completement amoureu je ne sais plus quoi fairre je réaliserai mon reve meme si je reste 6mois jaurais essayer..
sawadee krap, souanson, cà y est tu a attraper le virus Thai, pas d'antidote ! pour le virus Thailandaise, cà ce soigne mais la therapie est longue 😉 pas de préjugés de ma part, mais va voir les differents posts pour les relations Franco/Thai, trés complexe, car l'approche de l'amour est totalement differente en Asie, il y a de belles histoires, mais aussi d'autres qui finissent mal par manque de connaissances, mais tu a raison essaye
🙂
mon reve est de vivre en asie je suis complement malade detre rentrer en plus jai rencontrer une thai (je me fou d préjugé) completement amoureu je ne sais plus quoi fairre je réaliserai mon reve meme si je reste 6mois jaurais essayer..
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Bonjour à tous et à toutes qui se retrouvent sur ce forum !
Je sais d’avance que ce que je vais dire ici ne va pas plaire à tout le monde, mais la franchise est une qualité, n‘est-ce pas ?
Voilà, cela fait moultes années que je retrouve une manie dans les postes francophones de plaquer des abréviations à tout bout de champ, comme une manière de montrer qu‘on est ‘introduit dans le sujet‘. Je m‘explique en donnant quelques exemples :
- - Dans des discussions sur le Pérou, je trouve ‘Aguas‘ pour ‘Aguas Calientes‘. Et s‘il s‘agit du Mexique, allez, ce sera ‘Aguas‘ pour ‘Aguascalientes‘ !
- - Pour le Guatemala, les ‘voyageurs‘ diront ‘Guaté‘ . Allez donc, dire ‘Guatemalas‘, ce serait peut-être le signe indiscutable de ne rien y connaitre sur le pays en question ???
- - De retour de l‘Indonésie, beaucoup diront à quel degré ils se sont familiarisés avec la langue du pays : le ‘bahasa‘. Bien sur, tout un chacun saura de quoi on parle, mais ça me hérisse tout de même, car la langue (l‘une des multiples langues) de l‘Indonésie, c‘est le ‘bahasa Indonesia‘. ‘Bahasa‘ veut d‘ailleurs dire ‘langue‘, et on retrouve ce mot d’origine Indienne ‘Bhāṣā‘ (c‘est du sanskrit au départ) ailleurs qu‘en Indonésie : en Thaïlande par exemple, toute langue sera ‘phasǎa‘ comme dans ‘phasǎa thaï‘ (le Thai officiel), ‘phasǎa iisǎan‘ (ce qu‘on parle dans le nord-est de la Thaïlande, ‘phasǎa angkrit‘ = l‘Anglais etc.
Suis-je un incorrigible pinailleur ? Peut-être. Mais je trouverais ridicule également si un étranger venait me dire qu‘il/elle a visité ‘Monte‘ pendant son voyage en France, cela ayant été Monte Carlo.
Je lis beaucoup en Anglais et je ne crois pas avoir rencontré une telle manie chez les anglophones.
Hi everyone,
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines? For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL. THANKS GUYS
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines? For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL. THANKS GUYS
Good evening everyone,
This is my 15,000th post, and it's a message I would have preferred never to write.
Patrick—Yangguizi—won’t be returning from his trek in Uganda. His health betrayed him in the mountains.
Like many of you, I laughed until I couldn’t anymore at his travel stories. I met him in Shanghai, then in Istanbul... We scoured restaurants—he was an incredible expert on world cuisines. We relived Korea, China. Always brilliant, so sharp, so funny, so down-to-earth. Being even a little bit his friend was something to be proud of. I think I envied him.
Patrick is still out there, of course... He found his happiness running across the world. He’s on his path. He never doubted that "the traveler doesn’t even know if he’ll return one day."
Not sure this would’ve suited him, but his departure devastates me.
Alright, Farewell, you foreign devil. Safe travels.
Michel
This is my 15,000th post, and it's a message I would have preferred never to write.
Patrick—Yangguizi—won’t be returning from his trek in Uganda. His health betrayed him in the mountains.
Like many of you, I laughed until I couldn’t anymore at his travel stories. I met him in Shanghai, then in Istanbul... We scoured restaurants—he was an incredible expert on world cuisines. We relived Korea, China. Always brilliant, so sharp, so funny, so down-to-earth. Being even a little bit his friend was something to be proud of. I think I envied him.
Patrick is still out there, of course... He found his happiness running across the world. He’s on his path. He never doubted that "the traveler doesn’t even know if he’ll return one day."
Not sure this would’ve suited him, but his departure devastates me.
Alright, Farewell, you foreign devil. Safe travels.
Michel
hello to all travelers with their eyes wide open to the desert...
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
Hi everyone,
I’m Loulou, a French expat who’s been living in Southeast Asia for about fifteen years, currently in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. A passionate walker at heart, I’ve trekked in Nepal (Thorung La, Mardi Himal), India, Vietnam, and I’m still planning new hikes (Char Dham, Langtang, Annapurna).
I’ve just published my first travel journal, recounting three months of walking and encounters across India. A portion of the sales goes to an educational center I support in Kep, for children whose parents work in the salt marshes.
I’m also working on a second book about Nepal with a musician friend, focusing on the Mardi Himal trek—two independent perspectives on the same journey.
Happy to swap stories with you about the Himalayas, India, Southeast Asia, or just the urge to hit the road and walk far from home.
Safe travels,
Loulou
Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
We're planning to spend a month in Vietnam. Is hiring a guide helpful?
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
Hello everyone,
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

...
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

...
I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Hello everyone,
I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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.Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

...
I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
Hello 🙂
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hi there,
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,

Hello to all East Africa lovers and nature enthusiasts in general,
While I prepare to share a recap of our latest trip/safari in Kenya soon, I’d like to wish you all a peaceful transition between 2025 and 2026.
Warm regards,
Puma2A.





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