...et pourquoi ne pas avoir choisi un topic plus adéquat pour faire un sermon psycho/divin. Certains domaines sont tout de même plus appropriés et réclameraient la présence de Dieu, comme "la mort" ou "les pays en guerre"....et bien non! comme dans les miracles divins, la Sainte Vierge apparaît toujours aux yeux des femmes au "bon endroit".
Pour leur dire quoi?... toujours la même chose, c'est à dire d'anesthésier le désir terrestre pour le consacrer à Dieu...et que repris en choeur: après la souffrance, le chemin sera long vers la guerison...
Maintenant nous sommes carrément dans l'infirmerie🤪
bonjour … je suis un peu informer dans un domaine qui pour moi un mystère et si je dois dire des choses concernant ce mystère c’est bien parce que j’en ai fais l’expérience moi-même …. Voici comment l’amour agie en nous ……je prend l’exemple d’une amie à vous qui veux vraiment des problème disons qu’elle veut même se battre contre vous une fois face à vous, vous lui dites que vous l’aimer et que vous ne voulez en aucun cas vous battre avec elle..
disons qu'elle va plus loin en vous donnant une bonne gifle alors, sans subir bien sur vous décidez juste de changer de place ou même de partir de l’endroit et ci même possible courir de toutes vos forces croyez moi votre amie aura la plus mauvaise conscience que si vous lui avez résisté…et dans la plus parts des cas, elle veux vous presenter des excuses ne refusez jamais . d'excuser ... la plus par des gents pensent d’abor à l’honneur .....et d'autres pensent de ce que les autres personnes dans l’entourage vont dirent …de lui .. hahahaha
Pour ce que tu dis, on peut aimer sans être aimé …. C’est très mal de pensé comme cela vu qu’au moment ou on décide d’aimer les choses de la création pas seulement homme et femme … je veux dire aimer le ciel, la terre, les voyages …etc … on ne doit pas s’attendre à ce que ces choses nous aimes en retour ….
Vous aimer par exemple le coucher du soleil pourquoi attendre que le coucher du soleil vous aime ???? N’attendez rien et vous ne serait pas déçu de ne rien recevoir en retour. si vous donnez et attendez qu’on vous donnes c’est une preuve que vous n’aimez pas….
Oui pas simples ces choses là c’est vrai mais dans le cas ou l’on veut suivre notre chemin, on devrait juste éviter de s’accrocher aux choses de la terre … comme mon mari …. Mon enfant ….. Ma maison …. Mon pays ….ma religion …. Vous n’aurez pas peur de perdre quelque chose que vous ne possédez pas voila la solution pour ne pas ressentir les émotions négatives .
je parle de celles qui font souffrir ne t’accroche à rien .laisse tout s’accrocher à toi et la vie sera belle comme elle ne l’a jamais été ….. Merci d’avoir lu ma pensée .....elle est propre à moi et l’on est pas forcer de suivre mon exemple . bonne lecture sur le forum
alors tu comprendra que tu dois te déttacher des choses que tu aime pour mieux les aimer car rien ne t’appartient réellement ……
aimer sans se faire du mal...... aimer sans faire mal........
et moi je dis bien que nous sommes libre de croire ou pas du tout et j’aime bien discuter avec des gents qui ne pensent pas que l’amour que nous avons dans nos cœurs vient de DIEU.
sans perdre notre sujet, lorsqu’on parle voyage et que pandant ce voyage il y’a du sex. ou bien des aventures amoureuses et bien d’autres bonnes choses de la vie comme se tenir main, ont discutent de tout et de rien je trouve que pour chacun de nous, c’est merveilleux dans le moment présent et que même si l’on est offenser après on devrait dont se dire que de toute façons ça ne devait pas être éternel.
Voici quelques citations des posts de kandegolmera. Je ne vois pas où est l'autoflagellation, où est le refus des bonnes choses, et où il dit que nous devons souffrir, moi j'ai compris l'inverse.
Un ami m'a dit: Le monde serait meilleur si chacun-e regardait dans l'assiette de l'autre et y rajoutait ce qu'il y manque
Voici quelques citations des posts de kandegolmera. Je ne vois pas où est l'autoflagellation, où est le refus des bonnes choses, et où il dit que nous devons souffrir, moi j'ai compris l'inverse.
C'est de la religion à la petite semaine.
Des copier / coller de pseudos pensées profondes.
tu as raison toi aussi !!! tous à pattaya en bref, c’est le chemin …… les questions d’ordres religieux ne sont pas à jours monsieur …. Dieu et la religion sont deux choses bien distinctes…. Nous parlions de de de d’amour de voyage amour de passage. et la souffrance apparaît dans le sujet parce qu’en voyage on peux aimer et laisser celui qu’on a aimer dans une peine ou bien encore nous faire de la peine nous même ……et pour mon analyse je me sent dans l’obligation d’indexer le désir car sans ce désir ….. nous aurons des relations dans nos voyages durable ou pas sans problème…… dieu apparaît parce que sa loi doit exister partout même en voyage et comme cela nos relations sont plus protéger .....en fin je veux dire plus sucrées parce que chacun aura pour son prochain les mêmes sentiments qu’il éprouve pour sa propre personne .
bonjour bocu75 éh bien merci pour ta bonne compréhension mais tu vois, dans le forum nous pouvons répondre à plusieurs personnes même si tu es membre cela ne te donne pas le droit de croire que tu es la seule personne concerner
je pense que certaines personnes ont une grande capacité de déformer les choses mais si tu trouve que je te menace avec ma façon de voir l’amour en voyage l’amour de passage.... je te présente mes excuses ….
Bonne journée sur le forum…. Mais tu peux juste faire comme si tu ne voies pas les post de kan degolmera
pleine de bonne chose à toi .
dieu apparaît parce que sa loi doit exister partout même en voyage et comme cela nos relations sont plus protéger .....
La loi de Dieu n'existe pas.
Dieu n'a publié aucun textes législatifs, réglementaires ou autres.
Il n'y a pas de Code de Dieu comme un Code civil.
Sauf pour les faibles d'esprit.
Tu n'es le détenteur d'aucun savoir et d'aucune vérité.
La spiritualité est une chose personnelle.
Pas un étalage de mauvais goût sur un forum.
Admettons... Dieu a fait des lois. Moi je dirai, la Nature, a fait des lois.
Libre à l'homme de s'y opposer, la Nature s'occupera de le sanctionner.
Par contre, là où ça devient franchement nauséabond, c'est quand l'homme se dit le messager ou le procureur de Dieu! Et que l'homme prétend dispenser une justice divine.
Par quel délégation cela s'opère-t-il??
Quel homme, quel groupe, quel nation, quelle religion, peut prétendre avoir un lien avec Dieu autre que celui qu'elle fantasme unilatéralement?
L'homme ne devrait pas même avoir le droit de parler au nom Dieu. Quelle prétention de se prendre pour lui. Qu'il existe ou non...
Laissons Dieu là où il est. Et essayons en tant qu' humains, de rester à notre place.
...tu sais "les amours de passage" et Dieu font rarement bon ménage. Dans ce domaine le prolongement de Dieu c'est plutôt l'abstinence😕
Que Zeus nous protège d'un tel enfer!
Tu sais cela c'est ce que l'on veut bien nous faire croire.
Jésus prophète de plusieurs religions monothéistes vivait essentiellement au milieu de prostituées.
Et il n'est fait aucune allusion dans la Bible ou les Evangiles sur son abstinence sexuelle supposée.
oui c'est vrai, ce sont ceux qui sont venu après lui, qui ont cherché à répandre leur névrose sexuelle au reste de l'humanité (ex chez les chrétiens Saint Paul, Saint Augustin). Et tout ce qui va avec: misogynie, haine des femmes, nihilisme de la chair, détestation de la sensualité, des passions...le tout enrôbé dans un discours suffisamment symbolique pour que tous y trouve leurs comptes et sur un ton toujours doux, concilliant, modeste...
Moi je dirai, la Nature, a fait des lois.
Libre à l'homme de s'y opposer, la Nature s'occupera de le sanctionner.
L'homme ne devrait pas même avoir le droit de parler au nom Dieu. Quelle prétention de se prendre pour lui. Qu'il existe ou non...
Ca m'ôte les mots de la bouche.
Cette manie de l'être humain de se croire assez important pour qu'une force supérieure et immanente se soucie de son sort, de ses petites tracasseries, tergiversations et sentiments divers, dont l'amour qui était le thème de départ, ce si sirupeux, gentillet et ambivalent élan de l'Homme, bien plus emprunt de faiblesse que de force (il n'y a qu'à voir la façon dont on aime nos enfants, dans notre monde civilisé), très peu orienté vers son prochain, et beaucoup vers soi-même... de se repaître de la béate satisfaction de pouvoir s'en remettre à Lui, corps et âme...
Certains vont même jusqu'à affirmer qu'ils ont du divin en eux : joli blasphème à mes yeux, s'il en est ! Du sacré en l'être humain ? Ca me fait doucement rigoler. Ou alors je n'ai pas bien compris le sens du mot.
La discussion de départ s'annonçait pourtant intéressante... Et ce qui m'interpelle, dans cet échange, c'est que dès qu'on touche à l'intime, rares sont ceux qui accèptent de se livrer, et on détourne adroitement la conversation. On est avare de son jardin secret (Je cite Oublieuse : Moi qui suis une bavarde, je me retiens aussi sur ce sujet, car je ne crois pas qu'il soit bon de livrer son jardin intérieur, comme ça sur internet...).
Bel exemple d'altruisme et d'amour de son prochain : je veux bien donner, mais pas ce qui m'est précieux.
C'est donc si difficile, si risqué, d'échanger sereinement, avec un peu de profondeur, sur ce sujet somme toute très commun, qui nous concerne tous, et d'aborder la question avec sincérité et pragmatisme ?
Quel type d'état d'esprit faut il pour pouvoir vivre celà sans masochisme..?
Simplement aimer la Vie, profiter de chaque instant, laisser chez soi ses freins, ecouter son instinct, ses envies, sa petite voix interieure, vouloir ne pas se reveiller un pied dans le cercueil et rempli de regrets, et prendre conscience que cette vie-la, tu ne la vivras qu'une seule fois.
😮 ouf on revient au sujet..! merci lilie. Dites donc Williama et Bocu75, on n'en sort pas des bondieuseries..? ça colle à la peau du sexe pour certains, c'est leur vision des choses éminement respectable, mais pourquoi (toujours) chercher à convertir les autres..? Exprimer une bonne fois pour toute son point de vue personnel à ce sujet, ok, et puis on nous lache les baskets avec les leçons de morale..religieuse, pas besion de repasser le couvert 18 fois, on n'est pas débiles, en principe.. On perd du temps là, tout de suite on va se retrouver avec un pied dans le cercueil !
J'ai répondu, dans la page d'avant, à trois questions de Bocu75...
Quant à la générosité, je ne vois pas bien ce qu'elle vient faire ici 😛. Je dispense mon bavardage très généreusement à mes amies, et j'essaie de me freiner sur internet (pas facile 😎).
Et toi, que penses-tu du sujet? Car finalement ton message non plus n'en parle pas.
Un ami m'a dit: Le monde serait meilleur si chacun-e regardait dans l'assiette de l'autre et y rajoutait ce qu'il y manque
bonjour
en effet c'est toi qui a dévié du sujet, et tu as répondu a la place d'1 autre ...
et le sujet du post a été complètement détourné ....
en effet on est pas obligé de dévoilé sa vie privé, mais on peut, si on le veut, lever le voile 1 peu, parler de ses expériences et c'est ce que je fais
en vous disant qu'en voyage on peut faire des rencontres merveilleuses, qui peuvent durer ou pas, mais c'est la vie .
pour mon cas j'ai rencontré en voyage mon mari, berbère du Maroc et ça ne m'a apporté que du bonheur et permis de connaitre vraiment ce pays
que ce soit les paysages, mais aussi la vie, loin de tous les clichés que l'on peut avoir .
je vous souhaite de vivre, de mêmes belles expériences, a tous .
francia
le mérite d'un homme réside dans sa connaissance et dans ses actes et non point dans la couleur de sa peau ou de sa religion!
Khalil Gibran
Quant à la générosité, je ne vois pas bien ce qu'elle vient faire ici
Moi si. La générosité n'aurait-elle rien à voir avec l'amour ? Rien à voir avec un forum où on partage son point de vue, ses conseils, ses anecdotes, ses aventures ?
Et toi, que penses-tu du sujet? Car finalement ton message non plus n'en parle pas.
🙂
J'aime beaucoup cette phrase, que m'a dite un ami un jour, depuis je la garde toujours en tête. Je crois que ça peut être une très belle philosophie de vie, mais elle est exigeante.
Est-ce qu'on voit tous la même chose dans l'assiette de l'autre? Certainement que non. Mais là n'est pas le plus important. Cet ami vit en Turquie, et là-bas, c'est ce qu'ils font au sens propre: quand tu es chez quelqu'un et qu'il n'y a pas de tout dans ton assiette, on t'en met, pour que tu n'aies pas besoin de demander. Et cela se pratique dans beaucoup de pays hors Europe Occidentale.
Au sens figuré, cela veut dire s'intéresser aux gens qui nous entourent, à leur vie. Et quand c'est possible, leur filer un coup de main s'ils ont besoin, dans quelque domaine que ce soit, sans attendre qu'ils te le demandent. Cela veut dire donner sa confiance. Cela veut aussi dire, à mon sens, que quelle que soit ta situation personnelle, tu n'as pas à t'apitoyer sur ton sort, mais que tu peux toujours donner à quelqu'un d'autre, sans attendre quelque chose en retour. De toutes façons quand on donne, on finit toujours par recevoir d'une façon ou d'une autre.
C'est comme ça que je le vois. Et si nous ne rajoutons pas tous la même chose dans l'assiette de l'autre, alors tant mieux.
Bon là on est complètement hors-sujet... Les fans de sexe (dont je fais partie 😛) vont encore râler...
Un ami m'a dit: Le monde serait meilleur si chacun-e regardait dans l'assiette de l'autre et y rajoutait ce qu'il y manque
Bon déjà je crois que pour vivre celà sans masochisme et avec détachement il faut... être un homme :)
En fait en lisant ton message je pense surtout aux locaux, à leur espoir de sortir de leur pays un jour, au tourisme sexuel qui fais des ravages, et au fait qu'en sortant avec des locaux tu ne pourras jamais savoir si tu ne creuse pas un peu plus le fossé qui te sépare de tes rencontres.
S'il s'agit de touristes, le probléme est complétement différent, il n'y a que toi qui peut peser le confort que ta liaison t'a apporté (est-ce que je peux parler de confort...:), et la souffrance qui a suivi.
Et pour la premiére phrase, je plaisante bien sûr!!!
en réponse à:"Bon déjà je crois que pour vivre celà sans masochisme et avec détachement il faut... être un homme"
Non ne plaisante pas, c'est parfois très vrai! et c'est une façon de se protéger ou de se ménager sinon on n'en sortirait plus avec les "tu m'aimes?🙂"... mais ouuuiiii je t'aime😛!
Par contre, pour la frontière entre relations amoureuses et tourisme sexuel c'est autre chose. Car à moins de trouver des compagnes / compagnons dans des endroits reculés avec des modes de pensées et de vie qui nous échappent ou de se rendre carrément au bordel... il y a de plus en plus une communauté du genre de vie qui s'installe un peu partout dans le monde surtout dans les grandes villes. Les lieux de rencontre, l'habillement, les centres d'intérêt sont de plus en plus communs et facilitent les rencontres.
Les autochtones sont libres d'avoir des relations mêmes éphémères avec les voyageurs, c'est leur libre-arbitre...et du moment qu'on est entre adultes conssentants je ne trouve rien à redire. D'autre part, je ne vois pas pourquoi on opposerait une sorte de"moine routard" soucieux de ne pas coloniser sexuellement un pays, avec un "un touriste débridé" qui ferait le contraire...
Pourquoi tout ramener à la religion (je suis moi même croyant pourtant); tu exagères avec tes propos moralisateurs, surtout que tu détournes un peu le sujet initial du post qui était "amour de voyage, amour de passage.."
En amour il n'y a pas de règles; c'est ca qui est si beau.
Je suis assez d'accord avec les interventions de bocu 75; même éphèmère, une rencontre amoureuse en voyage est toujours belle.
a++
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
Pourquoi tout ramener à la religion (je suis moi même croyant pourtant); tu exagères avec tes propos moralisateurs, surtout que tu détournes un peu le sujet initial du post qui était "amour de voyage, amour de passage.."
En amour il n'y a pas de règles; c'est ca qui est si beau.
Je suis assez d'accord avec les interventions de bocu 75; même éphèmère, une rencontre amoureuse en voyage est toujours belle.
a++
désolé .
tu as tout à fait raison .
je suis incapable de parler d'amour sans pensé à dieu .
désolé......
bonne lecture.
Tiens, mon message a disparu, j'y parlais de ce blog où un voyageur cycliste raconte ses nombreuses aventures sentimentales (au sens large) en prétendant que c'est son vélo qui le rend attractif pour les femmes. J'ai trouvé cela très amusant. C'est là, ça s'appelle Ma b... et mon couteau (il parle de sa b...icyclette sans doute)
Cela n'est pas mal en effet, côté humour. Je connaissais un seul récit de voyageur à vélo qui collectionnait les aventures sentimentales (et qui les racontait dans son livre !), un Grenoblois avec un nom à consonnance italienne (Franco Nicotera ?). Je m'étais également un peu lancé là-dedans et la version anglaise de mon tour du monde à vélo m'avait attiré une violente critique intitulée "sex and arrogance". Le critique m'y reprochait d'avoir raconté une aventure... sentimentale dans un pays où j'aurais mieux fait de dénoncer la prostitution qui y faisait des ravages.
Ce genre de récit reste extrêmement rare et rien que pour cela, le site signalé par milou1994 vaut le détour.
Il en va des mauvaises intentions comme de l'argent : pour pouvoir en prêter, il faut en avoir. (La Rochefoucault)
http://www.montpoulet.eu
Oui, c'est bien Franco Nicotera, je l'ai dans ma collection, comme le tien qui te sert d'avatar. D'ailleurs, si tu permet, il y a presque la même aventure avec une sud-africaine dans son livre et dans le tien. Même scène de bronzage intégral, même réflexion sur la censure des publications licentieuses, sauf que tu donnes beaucoup plus de détails, on pourrait presque se demander si Franco et toi n'êtes pas un seul et même dragueur à vélo ! Enfin, lui il collectionne beaucoup plus, comme celui que je signale un peu plus haut.
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hello to all travelers with their eyes wide open to the desert...
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.")
Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either.
But here’s the thing—I had photos...
So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand.
It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years.
For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not...
It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.)
Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate.
And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries.
Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story.
Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023.
This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers.
As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart.
Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library.
I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott.
After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel.
My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*.
This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year!
This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines?
For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL.
THANKS GUYS
Hi everyone,
I’m Loulou, a French expat who’s been living in Southeast Asia for about fifteen years, currently in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. A passionate walker at heart, I’ve trekked in Nepal (Thorung La, Mardi Himal), India, Vietnam, and I’m still planning new hikes (Char Dham, Langtang, Annapurna).
I’ve just published my first travel journal, recounting three months of walking and encounters across India. A portion of the sales goes to an educational center I support in Kep, for children whose parents work in the salt marshes.
I’m also working on a second book about Nepal with a musician friend, focusing on the Mardi Himal trek—two independent perspectives on the same journey.
Happy to swap stories with you about the Himalayas, India, Southeast Asia, or just the urge to hit the road and walk far from home.
Safe travels,
Loulou
Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others?
What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille?
Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit?
Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana?
Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate?
Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed.
Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project.
A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question.
They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕
Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.).
Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did.
I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights
Sidemen (2 nights)
Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights
Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed
Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran
Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights
Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD:
- Walk around central Ubud (1–2h)
- Campuhan Ridge Walk
- Tegalalang Rice Terrace
- Tirta Empul
- Gunung Kawi
- Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN:
- Rice terrace hike (2–3h)
- Cooking class
IN AMED:
- Snorkeling
- Japanese Shipwreck
- Beach + relaxation
- Volcano sunset
ON GILI:
- Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK:
- Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall
- Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level)
- Ulun Danu Bratan Temple
- Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN
- Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well:
👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option
12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM)
1 PM: ferry
3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer
11 PM: start ascent
2 AM–6 AM: volcano
Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM)
👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency
💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR:
- Relaxation
- Quiet beach
- Proximity to airport (30 min)"
I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays
where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya).
There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see:
Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees.
We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain.
But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore.
A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night
Coron – 4 nights
Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights
El Nido – 4 nights
Port Barton – 5 nights
Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan
Vigan – 2 nights
Sagada – 2 nights
Banaue – 2 nights
Bagabag – 1 night
Manila – 1 night
I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages.
3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer.
Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness.
My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place.
On the main routes, we visited:
San José
Alajuela
Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side)
Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side)
And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched.
He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown.
What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor.
At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José:
It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken.
On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox.
From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire.
Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets.
Bars with security guards out front.
I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel.
The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses.
The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in.
A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park.
Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further.
We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it.
A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces.
A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures.
But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business.
Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse!
According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable.
Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos.
A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park!
A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park.
The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color.
Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded!
Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30.
The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches.
As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves.
A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!"
For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex!
The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for?
For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places.
In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs:
Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you.
For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example.
For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk.
The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border.
The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times.
Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot).
For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border.
You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes.
From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??).
With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!!
For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations.
However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards.
Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future.
After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think:
1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport),
1 night in Garda,
1 night in Verona,
1 in Padua, and
3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year.
I told her:
“Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.”
“But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.”
I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk.
“Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.”
I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen.
“Mamido, I did it!”
My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no!
“Congratulations, sweetheart!”
A little shyly, she said:
“Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying:
“Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint!
But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out.
Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me.
But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back.
My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special?
That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
We’re a couple aged 58 and 63. We’ve just returned from a wonderful trip to South India in Tamil Nadu and a few days in Kerala. We traveled with a local French-speaking guide and his friend, the driver. They both live in Pondicherry. We spent 3 weeks with them in the most authentic way!
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like!
M-Claire and Jean
This catchy and somewhat mysterious title comes from several questions I’ve been asking myself.
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now.
The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions.
I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid?
Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again?
Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with?
Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now?
What’s really going on here?
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