je dis pas n'importe quoi; je t'ai expliqué les termes employés juridiquement
C'est toi qui est hors sujet; tu balances à tout va (ça n'est pas la 1ere fois) la déclaration des dts de l'homme, sans te poser même s'il y a un lien avec le post auquel tu réponds.
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
n 3, 5 ans d'expérience, des milliers de détenus fréquentés au quotidien et plusieurs établissements pénitentiaires; seuls 2 personnes m'ont mis des doutes réels concernant leur culpabilité; tout le reste; des gars qui reconnaissent, rigolent et te racontent avec plaisir leurs atrocités commises (mais par contre se feront un plaisir de jouer les gentils petit garcon auprès de certaines personnes), des mecs qui trafiquent à tout va et poursuivent leur méfaits au sein de l'établissement...voila en ce qui concerne les présumés ou condamnés dans des affaires criminelles.
Oui il y a des erreurs judiciaires concernant les petits (délits) mais rarement concernant les crimes.
Tu m'as toujours pas répondu quelle est la solution pour toi? laisser des criminels dans les rues?
La solution vous la donnez vous même avec éclat dans votre propre texte : éviter à tout prix de fabriquer des criminels dans le milieu carcéral, lui faire jouer réellement le rôle que la loi lui attribue, cesser de se mettre en situation de se faire condamner par les cours internationales pour traitements non conformes aux normes internationales.
Les pays qui emprisonnent le plus sont ceux aussi qui génèrent le plus forte violence criminelle.
Les familles de victimes réclament la mise hors d'état de nuire de leurs bourreaux et c'est normal. Le jours (je ne te le souhaite pas) ou tu serais victime d'un acte de nature criminel, tu changerais d'avis🤪
Les victimes réclament en général... la justice. Tout simplement.
Oui c'est le sujet; la réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels
Non.
Je suis chauffeur-livreur.
Chaque jour, je voyage en roulant, en sillonnant la campagne. Elle est belle avec ses forêts, ses montagnes, ses vallées, ses petits villages...
Parfois, je dois livrer une prison.
Lors de ces livraisons, je dois rentrer avec ma camionnette dans l'établissement. Contrôle des gardiens, sas d'entrée, etc...
Je me retrouve, ensuite, bien enfermé à l'intérieur ! Et, je livre la marchandise.
Des détenus aident au déchargement...
Un jour, un prisonnier me demande : "Tu m'emmènes ?!?"
J'étais très surpris !
C'était sur le ton de la plaisanterie, mais je sentais qu'il aurait aimé fortement que je l'embarque (planqué derrière une palette, ou sous l'essieu, c'est assez facile...).
Et, comme le contrôle à la sortie reste sommaire...
Cette petite anecdote me dit que j'aurais pu lui offrir son plus beau voyage, goûter à la liberté... En cavale !
Libre comme l'air à travers la campagne !
n'est pas une "réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels". C'est le récit d'un instant, d'une tentation, d'une pensée folle. On pourrait le qualifier sans doute autrement mais sûrement pas "réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels". Ca c'est ce que vous voulez y voir pour pouvoir nous exposer votre expérience que vous jugez éclairée.
mais dans ce débat il est surtout question de l'envie de grand bol d'air frais ou poudre d'escampette qui taraude tout prisonnier.
Après on sombre dans la caricature du prisonnier innocent avec la main tendue à "toi l'auvergnat qui m'a souri quand les gendarmes m'ont pris..." etc...
Ah, si, si...
Je cesse d'intervenir dans ce débat...
Si tous les mots se valent, si plus rien n'a de sens, on ne peut parler sérieusement.
Et je ne me vois pas badiner ainsi de la douleur des hommes.
La solution vous la donnez vous même avec éclat dans votre propre texte : éviter à tout prix de fabriquer des criminels dans le milieu carcéral, lui faire jouer réellement le rôle que la loi lui attribue, cesser de se mettre en situation de se faire condamner par les cours internationales pour traitements non conformes aux normes internationales.
Les pays qui emprisonnent le plus sont ceux aussi qui génèrent le plus forte violence criminelle
Il faut arrêter de croire que c'est le milieu carcéral qui fabrique les criminels; tous les criminels ont commis un crime avant de rentrer la 1ere fois en prison je te le rappele.
Le rôle attribué à la prison est de protéger la société de gens potentiellement dangereux et d'éviter de nouvelles victimes.
Toutes les sociétés emprisonnent ceux qui portent atteinte à l'intégrité, à la vie d'être(s) humain(s) et c'est normal.
Tout système quel qu'il soit a ses failles mais si des milliers de victimes ont été sauvées d'un potentiel criminel, c'est bien car tout être humain a le droit de vivre en sécurité sur cette planète.
Faux les pays laxistes (ceux ou la justice et la police sont inefficaces) sont ceux qui ont le plus de criminalité
Le plus scandaleux en france est que des criminels condamnés pour des actes atroces et reconnus dangereux puissent être amenés à ressortir un jour de prison; ces cas devraient être enfermés à vie incompressible; la tu vas hurler je sens😄
Les victimes réclament en général... la justice. Tout simplement.
Les victimes sont les 1eres à se plaindre que soit relaché prématurément ou condamné mollement un criminel (on parle de crime et de cours d'assise pas de voleurs de poules)
la dureté de la peine doit être à la hauteur de la gravité et des conséquences de l'acte criminel commis
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
en réponse à "C'est le récit d'un instant, d'une tentation, d'une pensée folle. On pourrait le qualifier sans doute autrement mais sûrement pas "réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels"."
Bonsoir,
oui, mais il n'est pas interdit de s'interroger aussi sur ces "fous de liberté" que tu risques de croiser en bas de chez toi à tout instant.
Tu n'aimes pas badiner avec la douleur des criminels; mais celle des victimes tu t'en fous on la bien compris
Ta position idéologique est d'ailleurs classique d'un certain courant de pensée.
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
n'est pas une "réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels". C'est le récit d'un instant, d'une tentation, d'une pensée folle. On pourrait le qualifier sans doute autrement mais sûrement pas "réflexion sur l'enfermement des criminels". Ca c'est ce que vous voulez y voir pour pouvoir nous exposer votre expérience que vous jugez éclairée.
Relis bien tous les posts de ce Monsieur et tu verras qu'il nous parle de dureté de l'enfermement, de compassion, d'envi de liberté...c'est son impression mais ça mérite un débat car le sujet est très sensible; on parle de gens qui pour la majorité ont commis des actes plus ou moins graves et doivent les assumer.
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
Il faut arrêter de croire que c'est le milieu carcéral qui fabrique les criminels
Ah, mais on ne le croit pas ; on le sait.
Aux Etats-Unis un homme sur 31 est en prison ; quel pays serein et sans violence, en effet.
Les intérêts financiers en jeu et le discours ambiant font que vos enfants auront aussi, probablement, l'occasion d'aller un jour en prison.
Je m'éclipse vraiment cette fois ; bonsoir tout le monde.
Merci pour ton soutien. Tu expliques parfaitement bien ce que je voulais exprimer :
"Quand je lis le message initial j'y vois un homme qui aspire à quelque chose de précieux dont il est privé (ce qui me semble assez légitime) qui en rencontre un autre qui songe un instant, en un rêve éclair, à exaucer ce désir. Ca s'appelle de la connivence, de la compassion."
Quand on va pas dans leur sens de pensée, ils n'acceptent aucun débat; on joue sur les môts (avec des reproches hors sujet), on t'accuse à demi teinte d'être inhumain, on dénie à tes arguments le droit d'être cités...de grands libertaires citant la déclaration des droits de l'homme mais ne respectant même pas l'avis des autres.
Il paraît que je donne la nausée😄😄
Cordialement
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
"imagines simplement que tu aurais accepté et que ce mec soit un violeur, tueur ou braqueur et qu'il récidive"
Je comprends ce que tu dis, mais je n'ai pas accepté sa proposition. Il faudrait "un tremblement de terre" pour que j'accepte une telle proposition.
De toute façon, c'était sous le ton de la plaisanterie.
Mon message initial reste symbolique.
moi tu m'as déjà ennervé; mais à la différence de toi, ; c'est que même si tes idées m'ennervent j'accepte la controverse; tu sais ça s'appele la démocratie?😄
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
non mais on s'enflamme c'est vrai souvent sur VF mais ça reste bon enfant (enfin pour moi); c'est sympas la controverse, le débats🙂
C'est vrai que ce qui m'a ennervé c'est le message de tatra car il passe à longueur de post à titiller les autres et jouer sur les môts mais dès qu'on le pousse dans ses retranchements en retour, il s'éclipse😎
Allez moi aussi dodo
bonne soirée😉
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
en réponse à "Ah, mais on ne le croit pas ; on le sait.
Aux Etats-Unis un homme sur 31 est en prison ; quel pays serein et sans violence, en effet.
Les intérêts financiers en jeu et le discours ambiant font que vos enfants auront aussi, probablement, l'occasion d'aller un jour en prison. "
Si ça ce n'est pas de l'orientation idéologique... on y arrive🤪 C'est bien connu : les criminels sont le plus souvent des pauvres et les victimes toujours des possédants d'où cette volonté de minimiser, d'absoudre, de mettre sous l'éteignoir affectif les crimes et délits...
Je ne sais pas où tu as trouvé ces chiffres ... "1 homme sur 31" est en prison aux USA?
Continue comme ça et tu finiras près du Seigneur au Vatican, avec un taux d'homicide inexistant.
Perso, entre "ton prisonnier" cherchant à fuire le béton de sa cellule et un certain interlocuteur
de cette discussion cimenté dans sa sémentique, je me demande bien lequel des deux se sent le
plus en mal de liberté....😮-😏
En tout cas merci pour ton récit et de ta sensibilité...
A eux seuls c'est une petite bouffée d'oxygène sur vf.
Juste un flash et une parenthèse alors, puisqu'on me sollicite :
En 2008, le taux d'incarcération aux Etats-Unis est de 762 pour 100000 habitants.
Autres pays :
France 96 - en très forte hausse.
Canada 108
Norvège 65
Grande Bretagne 152
Chine 119
Iran 212
Lybie 217
L'idée selon laquelle plus on incarcère plus le pays est sûr est une sinistre blague. Et une contre-vérité totale.
Et pourtant la Chine, l'Iran et la lybie sont des pays surs; le canada aussi
Qd aux USA, une ville comme NYC par exemple est sûre dû à une politique efficace en matière de sécurité (ex maire Giulani)
quelle est la source de ces chiffres?
Il ne s'agit pas d'incarcérer pour faire du chiffre; il s'agit de mettre hors d'état de nuire les personnes qui nuisent à la société et ses habitants. Toute personne (H et F) devrait pouvoir sortir, aller librement à toute heure du jour et de la nuit sans risquer pour sa sécurité et intégrité; voila le 1er des droits à protéger.
Sur ceux je vais vraiment me coucher
bonne nuit
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
merci, mais il faudrait voir par pays ce que recouvrent ces chiffres? quels types de délits sont pris en considération chez les uns et chez les autres? On sait par exemple que la répression routière prend de plus en plus d'importance dans les pays développés et dope ces chiffres
et les sources aussi?
car ceux que tu présentes sont très éloignés de ceux correspondants aux taux d'homicides et délits dans le monde.
De toutes façon -comme souvent les chiffres, c'est "truqué", les "jeunes"
ne sont pas compris dans les stats (!!!!) ET tous les "paroles" non plus
(RE !!!!) ...
Ces 0.762 % sont donc en fait beaucoup plus (3 fois environ), ce qui
conforte le côté "record mondial toutes catégories" de ce pays sur
ce plan !
🙂
NB:Les stats "ethniques" sur la population carcérale sont encore plus édifiantes !
Si vous avez compris tout ce que je viens de vous dire, c'est que j'ai dû faire une erreur quelque part. - Alan Greenspan
Science sans conscience n'est que ruine de l'âme - Rabelais
1/31 ième des hommes adultes - je pense que c'est 20/60 ans.
Il y a aux Etats-Unis un peu plus de 300 millions d'habitants, dont 92 millions d'hommes de 15 à 65 ans - en 2008.
En ôtant les franges 15/20 et 60/65, on doit être dans les 75 millions.
Il y a 25000000 personnes en prison, dont environ 140000 femmes ; donc 2360000 hommes.
236000 hommes en prison sur 75 millions, c'est 3, 1 % - un homme sur 31.
Pas sur ma calculette, j'arrive à 1 prisonnier pour 131 habitants
Je sais bien, à peu près 8 fois le taux français.
Je ne parlais pas population, je parlais hommes adultes en âge d'activité. (message 61 de la discussion)
Et puis-je demander, sans me faire insulter et traiter de raciste (pas par vous, Tatra), quelle est la proportion Blancs/Noirs ?
La proportion absolue n'a pas grand sens.
Disons que certaines classes d'âge - noirs de 30 à 34 ans je crois, on atteint 8%.
La prison aux Etats-Unis est un business et une façon de traiter le chômage ; il touche bien plus les noirs, non parce qu'ils sont noirs bien sûr, mais parce qu'ils sont pauvres.
On ne va pas épiloguer des heures sur le sujet mais d'après mes propres recherches,
le chiffre dont tu parles représente la totalité des prisonniers aux Etats unis :
(2 310 984 prisonniers au 30 juin 2008 (prisons fédérales, d'État et locales confondues)
selon les chiffres officiels du Département de la Justice des États-Unis)
ça représente 1% de la population globale (quelque soit ensuite la manière dont tu veuilles
décortiquer ce chiffre à ta convenance...)
On ne va pas épiloguer des heures sur le sujet mais d'après mes propres recherches,
le chiffre dont tu parles représente la totalité des prisonniers aux Etats unis :
Il est très proche de 2500000.
ça représente 1% de la population globale (quelque soit ensuite la manière dont tu veuilles
décortiquer ce chiffre à ta convenance...)
On vous sent rassuré. C'est moins effrayant présenté ainsi, hein ?
Cela reste 8 fois le taux français.
Ok mais cette avanlanche a t elle un rapport avec notre sujet?
Quelle est la source de ces chiffres?
Je ne vois pas le rapport entre le tx d'incarcération aux US (que l'on sait élevé) et le sujet initial de l'enfermement.
Les usa sont un pays parmi tant d'autres; loin d'être un exemple je te l'accorde, mais on ne peut résumer la réalité américaine à des stats; la mentalité américaine est particulière, ils ont un soucis poussé à l'extrème de la sécurité que l'on retrouve dans beaucoup de sociétés anglosaxonnes (quid de la parano de la vidéo surveillance en grande bretagne); ils ont aussi une criminalité beaucoup plus dure, incomparable avec celle que l'on connaît en Europe. c'est aussi un très grand pays, un état fédéral (donc une multitude de politique pénales)..rien de comparable.
Mais ces excès ne doivent pas occulter le sujet initial valable pour toutes les sociétés du monde; que fait on des individus réellement dangereux? ils sont peut être une minorité mais ils existent; à ceux la aucune autre alternative que de les écarter, non?
Lorsque tu ne sais pas où tu vas, regarde d'où tu viens (proverbe Africain)
Ni aujourd'hui ni jamais, la richesse ne suffit à classer un homme, mais aujourd'hui plus que jamais la pauvreté le déclasse (Charles Maurras)
en réponse à "La prison aux Etats-Unis est un business et une façon de traiter le chômage ; il touche bien plus les noirs, non parce qu'ils sont noirs bien sûr, mais parce qu'ils sont pauvres. "
Bonjour,
... Pour en finir avec la prison et l'enfermement des plus pauvres, il faudrait une société purement égalitaire, qui échappe aux maladies mentales, à la sexualité et avec un haut degré de moralité. Actuellement à part le Vatican je n'en vois aucune autre pour répondre à ces critères et capable de présenter un taux d'homicide et de délinquance 0...
Sinon on sait et on l' a vu dans le passé, que les sociétés égalitaires type communiste par exemple, généraient un système carcéral qui était alimenté massivement non plus par "les voleurs de poules" mais par "les rebuts idéologiques".
L'univers carcéral était aussi au service du système politique pour l' alimenter en main d'oeuvre gratuite et faire face à son incurie économique. Beaucoup d'individus partaient dans les camps pour des années ou une vie sans en connaître les raisons.
D'autre part, en France aussi la très grande majorité des prisonniers sont arabes, noirs et d'origine modeste. La responsabilité de cette situation incombe aussi bien à ceux qui utilisent l'immigration "kleenex" pour justifier le "taux de croissance", qu'à ceux qui voudraient sans discernement "accueillir toute la misère du monde" pour pouvoir payer leurs retraites...
Sinon des tarés et des psychopathes qui sont dans la nature, on en fait quoi dans ton système idyllique?
Dans ma langue "en-nervé" c'est le contraire d'"é-nervé" mais que vous ayez trop de nerfs ou que je perde les miens, le résultat est le même : nous sommes tous deux fort irrités.
mais à la différence de toi, ; c'est que même si tes idées m'ennervent j'accepte la controverse;
Quelles idées ai-je exposé depuis le début de ce bavardage ? Aucune.
Pour qu'il y ait possibilité de controverse, débat, il faudrait que nous ayons une langue commune et c'est là que le bât blesse... y a pas.
tu sais ça s'appele la démocratie?😄
Euh ? Je ne sais pas ce que vous appelez la "démocratie" (cf ma remarque sur l'absence de langue commune). Mais si c'est poster indéfiniment des messages l'un à la suite de l'autre, sans qu'il y ait communication (je ne comprends pas la façon que vous avez de vous exprimer* - ce n'est pas une question de désaccord, c'est que je ne comprends pas ce que signifie ce que vous écrivez), alors je ne suis pas démocrate, pas de problème.
Bonne continuation 😐
Catherine
* un impression (individuelle) qui est un sujet très sensible (??), une incarcération moyen d'assumer ses actes plus ou moins graves (??), "potentiellement dangereux" synonyme de "nuisible" (??), une société a des habitants (??), vie incompressible (??), et ainsi de suite (mais la liste va devenir fastidieuse)
Sinon des tarés et des psychopathes qui sont dans la nature, on en fait quoi dans ton système idyllique?
"Tarés" et "psychopathes" sont des termes qui désignent des personnes souffrant de graves troubles psychiques, non ?
Ben alors, on demande et suis l'avis des psychiatres, dont c'est la spécialité. Tout simple 🙂
Je pense que tu m'as compris🤪 : par "tarés" et "psychopathes" il faut malheureusement entendre aussi des gens chez qui on ne décèle aucune anomalie psychique apparente et qui sont pourtant très dangereux pour la société... c'est le cas des Dutrou, Fourniret etc... pour ne citer que les plus célèbres mais ils sont très nombreux aussi les anonymes qui quotidiennement comettent des actes de perversions et de barbarie...
En fait dans vos réactions tout est fait pour gommer la responsabilité du coupable, ignorer la victime et porter l'affaire que sur le terrain social.
des gens chez qui on ne décèle aucune anomalie psychique apparente et qui sont pourtant très dangereux pour la société
Pas sûre que les gens vraiment dangereux pour la société soient passibles de peine de prison. 🤪😏
Les cas extrêmes auxquels j'imagine que tu fais allusion sont dangereux pour quelques-uns de leurs semblables, pas pour la société.
Tu dis que Dutrou et Fourniret n'ont pas d'"anomalie psychique apparente". Je n'en sais rien, je ne suis pas psy, je n'ai pas consulté leur dossier médical.
S'ils sont vraiment dangereux (sans doute...), je n'ai évidemment pas d'objection à ce qu'ils soient placés sous contrôle.
pour ne citer que les plus célèbres mais ils sont très nombreux aussi les anonymes qui quotidiennement comettent des actes de perversions et de barbarie...
Tu veux mettre en taule tous les humains anonymes qui commettent des actes de perversion ?! 😏 Va y avoir du monde...
En fait dans vos réactions tout est fait pour gommer la responsabilité du coupable, ignorer la victime et porter l'affaire que sur le terrain social.
"Vos réactions" ?? Je n'ai jamais évoqué ni la responsabilité des coupables, ni les victimes. Je ne participe pas à la discussion sur le bien-fondé de l'incarcération, mais je ne comprends pas comment tu veux l'aborder autrement que socialement (question : que faire des individus qui ont eu des comportements ayant entraîné de graves dommages pour leurs semblables, voire leur mort ?). L'angle affectif (salaud de coupable, pauvre victime) que tu voudrais voir adopter à tes interlocuteurs ne mène à rien.
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Hi everyone,
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Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
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Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines?
For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL.
THANKS GUYS
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others?
What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille?
Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit?
Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana?
Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate?
Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed.
Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project.
A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question.
They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕
Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.).
Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did.
I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights
Sidemen (2 nights)
Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights
Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed
Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran
Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights
Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD:
- Walk around central Ubud (1–2h)
- Campuhan Ridge Walk
- Tegalalang Rice Terrace
- Tirta Empul
- Gunung Kawi
- Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN:
- Rice terrace hike (2–3h)
- Cooking class
IN AMED:
- Snorkeling
- Japanese Shipwreck
- Beach + relaxation
- Volcano sunset
ON GILI:
- Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK:
- Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall
- Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level)
- Ulun Danu Bratan Temple
- Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN
- Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well:
👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option
12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM)
1 PM: ferry
3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer
11 PM: start ascent
2 AM–6 AM: volcano
Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM)
👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency
💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR:
- Relaxation
- Quiet beach
- Proximity to airport (30 min)"
I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays
where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya).
There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see:
Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees.
We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain.
But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore.
A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night
Coron – 4 nights
Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights
El Nido – 4 nights
Port Barton – 5 nights
Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan
Vigan – 2 nights
Sagada – 2 nights
Banaue – 2 nights
Bagabag – 1 night
Manila – 1 night
I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages.
3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer.
Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness.
My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place.
On the main routes, we visited:
San José
Alajuela
Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side)
Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side)
And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched.
He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown.
What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor.
At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José:
It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken.
On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox.
From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire.
Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets.
Bars with security guards out front.
I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel.
The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses.
The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in.
A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park.
Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further.
We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it.
A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces.
A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures.
But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business.
Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse!
According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable.
Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos.
A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park!
A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park.
The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color.
Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded!
Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30.
The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches.
As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves.
A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!"
For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex!
The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for?
For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places.
In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs:
Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you.
For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example.
For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk.
The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border.
The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times.
Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot).
For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border.
You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes.
From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??).
With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!!
For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations.
However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards.
Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future.
After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think:
1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport),
1 night in Garda,
1 night in Verona,
1 in Padua, and
3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year.
I told her:
“Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.”
“But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.”
I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk.
“Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.”
I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen.
“Mamido, I did it!”
My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no!
“Congratulations, sweetheart!”
A little shyly, she said:
“Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying:
“Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint!
But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out.
Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me.
But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back.
My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special?
That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
We’re a couple aged 58 and 63. We’ve just returned from a wonderful trip to South India in Tamil Nadu and a few days in Kerala. We traveled with a local French-speaking guide and his friend, the driver. They both live in Pondicherry. We spent 3 weeks with them in the most authentic way!
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like!
M-Claire and Jean
This catchy and somewhat mysterious title comes from several questions I’ve been asking myself.
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now.
The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions.
I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid?
Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again?
Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with?
Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now?
What’s really going on here?
This isn’t exactly a traveler’s question... I’d like to know who handles the technical side of this forum?
I run a similar forum on a different topic (unrecognized children), and we’re dealing with a few technical issues that are slowly killing our forum... so I’d have one or two questions to ask 😊.
Also, I was wondering who created this forum... who the administrators or moderators are, etc.
I think this forum is great. Much better than Facebook, which I’ve been using since it shut down (so I’m happy to see it’s working again...)
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