Qu'en est-il des règles de politesse dans le monde? En effet, certains gestes, certaines couleurs qui peuvent nous paraître banals ont une signification différente ailleurs...
Merci pour vos contributions!
Stéph et Max
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Ce livre traite de cela exclusivement:
Do's and taboos around the world (by Roger E. Axtel)
On y apprend par exemple qu'il ne faut jamais toucher la tete d'une personne en Thailande (meme d'un enfant) car la tete est l'endroit du corps le plus sacre.
Ou qu'il ne faut pas donner de choses allant par 4 au Japon car le numero 4 est associe a la mort (shi).
On y apprend par exemple qu'il ne faut jamais toucher la tete d'une personne en Thailande (meme d'un enfant) car la tete est l'endroit du corps le plus sacre.
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mais si on commence a parler de la politesse en chine, on va vite glisser sur un sujet cho et sensible...
perso, ca fait des années que je vis en chine, j ai trouvé la des gens adorables, des cons, des vrais salauds...mais rarement des personnes polies (limao) ou civilisées (wenming)
alors si on associe les deux, on tomde sur les wenminglimao ren...et la....vaste sujet
bien sur les standarts sont différents mais quand même.
je vous conseille d aller faire un pti tour sur le forum bonjour chine a la discu "qu est ce qui vous manque le plus en chine" et "la politesse en chine"
Ce livre traite de cela exclusivement:
Do's and taboos around the world (by Roger E. Axtel)
On y apprend par exemple qu'il ne faut jamais toucher la tete d'une personne en Thailande (meme d'un enfant) car la tete est l'endroit du corps le plus sacre.
Bonjour Nat
Comme toujours, la règle n'est pas absolue. Les proches et parents notamment touchent la tête des enfants. Dans la tradition toujours, un plus jeune ou de rang social moins élevé ne doit pas avoir la tête plus haute qu'un "ainé", surtout au moment du salut...
"Le touriste apparait comme le principal agent de diffusion du mépris anti touristique. Plus le touriste se voit en miroir de l'autre, plus il le déteste".
Je crois que tu peux déjà commencer à te faire une petite idée de l'intérêt que semble susciter La politesse dans le monde ! 😉
Ton sujet est pourtant original et intéressant, mais n'avoir été lu que 378 fois et intéressé seulement 6 personnes, après 8 jours de parution sur un forum de voyageurs, c'est à dire sur un forum sensé être destiné à des personnes passionnées et curieuses de tout, d'une très large ouverture d'esprit et ayant appris l'humilité et le respect des autres au cours de leurs nombreux voyages, te laisse par "extrapolation" présager du réel intérêt que représente aujourd'hui dans notre monde, cette notion de politesse, pourtant ô combien essentielle lorsque l'on est fréquemment amené à côtoyer des cultures totalement différentes de la nôtre !!! 😕
Il te suffit pour t'en persuader, de prêter tout particulièrement attention à la "manière de répondre aux messages", d'une partie non négligeable des membres de ce forum !
Inscrit sur VF depuis bientôt 4 ans, j'ai remarqué que de plus en plus souvent, quelque soit l'âge, le pays d'origine (ou d'adoption) ainsi que la nationalité du membre intervenant, des mots ou des phrases tels que:
"Bonjour" ou "Bonsoir" (lors du premier contact de la journée), "S'il vous plaît (ou s'il te plaît)" et "Merci"
semblaient pratiquement disparaître du vocabulaire !!! 😕
Peut-être qu'un certain nombre de personnes trouve ces "formules" totalement inutiles ou dépassées mais moi........PAS !!!
Elles demeurent pour moi essentielles au bon déroulement amical d'une discussion. 🙂
En effet, moi qui pensais récolter des anecdotes et informations utiles... Mais je me suis dit que peut être des discussions avaient déjà été abordées à ce sujet... Nous verrons donc sur place comment cela se passe, ce qu'il faut éviter, ce qui peut choquer. Je vais faire des recherches pays par pays, nous ne voulons surtout pas être déplacés au cours de notre tour du monde, c'est très important pour nous et donc je pars en quête de renseignements! Des expériences de voyageurs seraient bien plus intéressantes alors cette discussion reste ouverte, qui sait, peut être que petit à petit les réponses s'étofferont ;)
Merci de vos réponses en tout cas!
Bien à vous!
Steph
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dans les pays musulman on evite de manger avec la main gauche...et pour les hommes de se lever pour debarasser ( à chacuns de le sentir, mais souvent mal percu )
lorsque que l'on es invité a manger ( valable dans les pays nomades, mais ailleurs surement aussi) les hotes mettent souvent tout ce qu'il possede sur la table ! ne pas finir les plats et se gaver, mais gouter un peu de tout !
dans une yourte, ne pas poser le pied sur la porte, y entrer vers la gauche, se dechausser, ne pas s'assoir directement par terre, mais toujours mettre quelque chose entre ses fesses et le sol ( carré de feutre, tissu, ...)
Ton premier message ne précisait pas que vous souhaitiez des informations "utilisables" pendant un long voyage...
Il est difficile d'intégrer et de reproduire des "règles de politesse" dont vous ne comprendrez pas forcément le sens, parce que vous n'êtes pas issus de la culture qui les aura énoncées.
Là où votre chemin vous mènera, vous serez des étrangers... perçus comme tels.
Si votre attitude est bienveillante... respectueuse de l'autre, il vous sera pardonné l'ignorance des codes qui régissent une autre communauté.
En observant, en étant attentifs et curieux des gens, de leur manière de faire ou de ne pas faire... vous apprendrez vite.
Vous n'évitez peut-être pas certaines maladresses, mais on ne vous en voudra pas.
Respecter des "règles de politesse" ne fait pas de vous un être respectueux de l'autre... il y a une nuance que certains ici gagneraient vraiment à saisir.
Je me suis rendu sur votre blog et trouve votre projet extrêmement passionnant. 🙂
Le genre de projet que j'aurais pu avoir à votre âge, si la vie n'en avait pas décidé autrement... 😉
Votre génération possède l'IMMENSE avantage que nous n'avions pas à l'époque, celui de pouvoir utiliser ce formidable et extraordinaire outil de communication qui s'appelle INTERNET !!!
Le Web a réellement révolutionné notre monde !
C'est grâce à ce formidable vecteur mondial d'information et aux sites utilisateurs tels que VF, qu'un très grand nombre de personnes pourront beaucoup plus facilement que par le passé, prendre connaissance de votre projet et le suivre au jour le jour et en "temps réel" ! 🙂
L'idée de contacter (les associant ainsi à votre projet) les nombreux "Expats" présents à l'étranger est excellente et sera j'en suis persuadé, très "enrichissante" pour vous comme pour eux !
Pour en revenir au sujet principal de la discussion (La politesse dans le monde), ces mêmes "Expats" représenteront très certainement pour vous, d'importantes sources d'information, ils vous aideront d'ailleurs j'en suis sûr, tout au long de votre périple avec grand plaisir ! 😉
Foncez et soyez persuadés que de nombreux Forumistes et moi-même suivront votre parcours avec un réel intérêt !
Vous ne pouvez pas vous imaginer comme des messages tel que le votre nous remplissent de bonheur!
Merci, sincèrement!
Il est vrai que sans internet, préparer un tour du monde se serait avéré beaucoup plus délicat, avec beaucoup moins de précisions... Puis Voyageforum nous a aidé à chaque étape de la préparation, encore aujourd'hui! C'est une formidable possibilité d'échange, une mine d'informations.
Nous ferons tout pour que vous passiez de bons moments sur notre blog et que vous partagiez cette jolie expérience que nous allons vivre.
Bien à vous
Max et Steph
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Vous ne pouvez pas vous imaginer comme des messages tel que le votre nous remplissent de bonheur!
J'en suis fort heureux ! 🙂
J'ai au cours de mes messages précédents utilisé le vouvoiement, parce que je m'adressais à "vous deux" ! 😉
Même si j'ai un goût pour la politesse, qui pour "certains" peut paraître assez prononcé (suivez mon regard ! 😉), j'utilise exclusivement comme il en est l'usage (à moins que cela dérange vraiment mon interlocuteur), le tutoiement sur VF !!! 🙂
A Madagascar quand on est invité (surtout à la campagne ou dans d'autres régions), il faudra toujours finir son plat, et faites attention, c'est pas vous qui allez mettre le riz dans votre assiette, c'est fait d'avance par ceux qui vous invitent, alors un conseil avant de manger ou que ce soit en tant qu'invité, ne grignotez pas en chemin.
A Madagascar quand on est invité (surtout à la campagne ou dans d'autres régions), il faudra toujours finir son plat
Hum... j'ai du mal avec : "il faudra toujours"...
Être poli ne signifie pas être dans un rapport de sacrifice ou de renoncement...
Si le plat n'est pas fini, ce n'est peut-être pas si grave...
A Madagascar, ou ailleurs... les gens qui vous reçoivent, tiennent avant tout à vous faire plaisir, à être dans le partage, la convivialité... et réciproquement !
Qu'il y ait quelques incompréhensions, ou un peu d'embarras de part et d'autre, qu'importe...
Le sourire et le fou rire sont des moyens de communications universels...
je suis gaucher...... et un peu tendance a melanger ma gauche et ma droite ( a force d'entendre "avec la main qui ecrit" , j'etais un peu paumé petit !!)
les debuts de repas se font tres concentrés, ........"la main qui n'ecrit pas" ..... "la main qui n'ecrit pas "......
les debuts de repas se font tres concentrés, ........"la main qui n'ecrit pas" ..... "la main qui n'ecrit pas "......
mon idée est que ce ne doit déjà pas être évident de manger avec les mains, si en plus c'est pas la "bonne", ça doit être bon pour garder la ligne... 😏
Dans le monde chrétien également, la distinction entre main droite et main gauche est présente depuis des siècles : le diable est associé à la main gauche de multiples façons et est en général représenté comme gaucher.
Cela dit, on se serre toujours la main avec la main droite et dans les églises, c’est toujours la main droite qui donne la bénédiction et qui fait le signe de croix.
😏
personne ne dira rien si tu manges de la main gauche si tu es gaucher.
Je crois que tu peux déjà commencer à te faire une petite idée de l'intérêt que semble susciter La politesse dans le monde ! 😉
Ton sujet est pourtant original et intéressant, mais n'avoir été lu que 378 fois et intéressé seulement 6 personnes,
HS : Quant au sujet de la politesse sur le forum, je me rappelle cette discussion http://voyageforum.com/v.f?post=2235563#2235563 et cette phrase qui m'avait marquée : "Mais chacun a ses habitudes et il ne faut pas s'énerver mais plutôt dire: grâce à Dieu je suis un homme poli" (dixit Benny777) 😉
Par ailleurs la remarque de Kola est également très juste qui nous incite à ne pas oublier le respect en le confondant avec la politesse. Je vais méditer cela!
Le sujet avait déjà été traité et n'était donc pas si "original" que ça : http://voyageforum.com/...vers_monde_D1983248/
Tu vas donc un peu vite en concluant que VF est un forum où les gens ne s'intéressent pas à la politesse! 😉
MaxSteph n'avait peut-être tout simplement pas (tout comme il m'arrive souvent à moi-même) envie d'effectuer une recherche dans les vieilles archives poussièreuses (2008) de VF ! 🤪
De plus, réouvrir une discussion sur un théme qui a déjà été abordé, peut bien souvent donner l'occasion d'émettre (en présentant le théme sous un angle différent), de toutes nouvelles idées !!! 🙂
Enfin, pour quelles raisons les membres qui comme toi, paraîssent extrêmement gênés par ce manque de recherche dans les archives, ne se sont pas manifestés plus tôt pour en faire la remarque auprès de notre amie MaxSteph ? 😉
Par ailleurs la remarque de Kola est également très juste qui nous incite à ne pas oublier le respect en le confondant avec la politesse. Je vais méditer cela!
Bien qu'il m'avait semblé que Kola avait émise cette remarque avec une intention disons.....Assez "malicieuse", je la trouve tout à fait pertinente et l'approuve d'autant plus que je suis convaincu que "Politesse" et "Respect" sont des notions intimement liées !!!
les membres qui comme toi, paraîssent extrêmement gênés par ce manque de recherche dans les archives
Salut
Je voulais simplement dire qu'en lisant la question de Max et Steph, on voit directement en dessous dans le bandeau "discussions similaires" que le sujet a déjà été "traité" : cela a peut-être dissuadé les VFistes de répondre, s'ils n'ont rien de nouveau à ajouter par rapport à ce qui a déjà été dit.
Le manque de recherches dans les archives me gène sur d'autres parties du forum où les questions sont posées 10, 20, 100 fois. J'ai arrêté de m'en offusquer : je n'y répond plus, tout simplement! 😊 Là ce n'est que la 2ème occurrence du sujet, pas de quoi tirer à boulets rouges! 😉 Mais effectivement toi Pélican qui tient tant à la politesse, tu dois savoir que chercher dans les archives fait partie des règles de politesse du forum! 😉 (au même titre que dire merci, donner des informations et pas seulement en demander, ne pas écrire en majuscules, etc! bref la charte du forum quoi) On est aussi censés ne pas faire de hors-sujet , alors je m'arrête là! 😛
Je voulais simplement faire remarquer que la liste des discussions similaires apparait forcément après avoir posté le nouveau topic.
Donc celui qui l'écrit, s'il n'a pas fait de recherches préalables, ne sait pas si on a déjà discuté du sujet !
Je commence à faire comme toi pour les sujets rebattus qui ne demandent pas une réactualisation ...😉
" Nous ne saurons jamais tout le bien qu'un simple sourire peut être capable de faire."
Mère Teresa
En Turquie, avoir le poing refermé avec le pouce entre l'index et le majeur, c'est l'équivalent du doigt d'honneur héhéhé. Et dire que j'fais ça sans même m'en rendre compte!😮
Chaque moment volé à la peur est un morceau de paradis
Oups ! je ne me ferai pas engueuler, moi qui oublie souvent…😉
Elle est sympa cette discussion ! Alors que je n’étais pas encore membre de ce forum en 2008 je suis heureuse de vous lire et d’y participer… Et j’avoue que je n’aurais jamais eu l’idée d’utiliser la fonction « rechercher » sur un tel sujet.
Et puis c’est bien de revenir sur certaines choses, sinon le forum n’aura plus lieu d’être lorsque tous les sujets auront été abordés !
Mais on aurait peut être pu la nommer « us et coutumes dans le monde »
En effet un salaud peut être poli ; sans doute Hitler était poli 😕
Pour moi c’est une vertu un peu superficielle et l’obséquiosité me gène.
L’essentiel est de savoir dire bonjour, au revoir, merci… Le reste c’est du bon sens : respecter, observer, écouter, être discret, apprendre…
Je crois bien être une fille polie et pourtant j’ai marché avec mes chaussures sur un tapis au Maroc (damned 🏴☠️) je me suis assise avec les bonzes à un endroit qui leur était réservé dans une gare en Thaïlande (la honte! 😊) On m’en a fait la remarque gentiment et ma bonne humeur a fait sourire tout le monde.
mais c est notre quotidien ici...
entre temps j ai assisté a un autre...a travers la fenetre du bus...moin "pittoresque" mais on s en passerait bien...
oliwen
et le pire, c est que le mec ne payera que 20.000 yuans!
Oui, je n'en doute pas. Mais ce n'est pas une raison pour autoriser la libre circulation de ces images qui sont, je le répète, une grave atteinte à la dignité humaine. Notamment, imagine-tu la réaction de la famille de ce malheureux gamin à la vue de ces images ?
On peut tout aussi bien dénoncer l'inacceptable avec des mots.
"Le poids des mots, le choc des photos", c'est réservé à une certaine presse...
bon
voila le lien de toute la discussion
avec a l interieur le lien de la video...
regardez ou pas... c'selon vous!, mais lisez les posts...(y en a de moi aussi)
D'après Le Monde, la fillette de la vidéo est décédée.
La vidéo de l'accident a choqué la Chine. Une enfant de 2 ans grièvement blessée après avoir été écrasée par deux véhicules, puis abandonnée un long moment sur la chaussée dans l'indifférence des passants est finalement morte, a annoncé vendredi un porte-parole de l'hôpital général militaire de Canton où elle avait été admise.
La fillette avait été percutée le 13 octobre d'abord par une camionnette puis écrasée par un camion, devant le magasin de sa famille dans la ville de Foshan. Les images enregistrées par les caméras de surveillance, visibles sur l'Internet, ont montré ensuite une quinzaine d'habitants et de véhicules qui passaient à côté de l'enfant ensanglantée sans daigner s'arrêter. Une chiffonnière a finalement tiré la fillette sur le bord de la chaussée, mais ses appels au secours ont été ignorés par divers commerçants riverains. Elle a ensuite réussi, seule, à prévenir la mère de la petite fille, avait relaté la presse.
Ce fait divers, qui a suscité des réactions indignées, a aussi été vu comme l'illustration d'une dérive de la société chinoise : beaucoup sont convaincus que le rapide développement économique du pays et l'enrichissement général de la population s'accompagnent d'une montée de l'égoïsme et d'une perte des valeurs collectives d'entraide et de solidarité. Les puissants réseaux sociaux chinois, caisse de résonance de l'opinion publique, se sont aussi emparés de cette triste histoire. "Cette société est gravement malade. Même les chiens et les chats ne devraient pas être traités de façon aussi inhumaine", avait ainsi estimé un internaute sur Sina Weibo, l'équivalent chinois de Twitter. La mort de l'enfant restait vendredi l'un des principaux sujets de débats sur les sites de microblogs chinois. "Adieu petite Yue Yue. Il n'y a pas de voitures au paradis", a écrit un internaute. "Adieu, je te souhaite de ne pas renaître en Chine dans une autre vie", a écrit un autre.
"Quand la solidarité, la compassion sont étouffées par la peur d’une justice arbitraire, la terreur d’une police corrompue, ou simplement l’angoisse de la dénonciation, quand les réflexes minimum d’humanité sont refoulés, on s’interroge sur la capacité d’un peuple à se remettre en question."
"Des millions d’internautes chinois, bouleversés par ce drame qui met en lumière l’égoïsme craintif de tout un peuple, se mettent à dénoncer − dans un débat jusque-là rarissime sur le net − les dérives d’une société écrasée par son système."
"C’est sans doute un nouveau réveil qui s’annonce, aussi important que le réveil économique, puisqu’il aborde des questions telles que les droits de l’homme et des notions jusque-là inexistantes dans la justice chinoise, telles que la non-assistance à personne en danger."
"Un blogueur ose mettre en cause la société chinoise et ses hommes politiques : "Cette société dégueulasse n’a pas été formée en une journée. Si les gens sont égoïstes, c’est parce que le peuple n’a aucun pouvoir et donc pas de responsabilité non plus (...). Le système actuel engendre une déchéance morale totale. La Chine va ruiner sa civilisation vieille de cinq mille ans ! Qui a réduit la Chine à cet état ? Tout le monde le sait."
"Les parents, dit-elle, répètent à leurs enfants qu’il ne faut jamais s’occuper des affaires des autres, s’ils ne sont pas des amis ou des parents. Sous peine d’avoir des ennuis innombrables."
"Beaucoup blâment la justice chinoise (...) qui souvent accuse les personnes qui se portent au secours de blessés d’être responsables de l’accident et leur impose de payer des dommages à la victime. Il est en effet plus facile de se retourner contre la seule personne présente que d’entamer une enquête longue et dispendieuse."
"Ce drame bouleverse la Chine et la planète internet tout entière s’en est emparée tandis qu’enfin les chaînes de télévision d’État commencent à l’évoquer. Bientôt, les hommes politiques ne pourront plus faire la sourde oreille. C’est tout un peuple, entraîné par ses élites, journalistes, intellectuels, internautes, qui, aujourd’hui, semble s’éveiller à des valeurs nouvelles. Et si les droits de cet enfant, défendus par des centaines de milliers d’anonymes sur la toile, provoquaient une avancée des droits de l’homme ?"
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A titre personnel je rajouterai :
- il existe aussi des actes de solidarités et d'entraides en Chine, certes moins visibles et moins événementiels (principe même de l'information, on ne montre et ne médiatise que ce qui vient briser l'ordre établi : accidents, catastrophes, délits...)
- des récits ou vidéos similaires de non assistance à personnes en danger existent également dans tous les autres pays du monde
- malheureusement on m'a bien appris en Chine qu'il faut déguerpir au plus vite en cas d'accident routier anodin (mini collision, chute de vélo, cf. les nombreux posts sur BJ), afin d'éviter l'émeute, le spectacle, où tous les chinois qui se regroupent et n'ont assisté à rien vous déclarent coupable, et où on veut faire sortir l'argent de la poche du laowai - attention je fais bien la différence avec la situation d'une tierce personne en souffrance ou blessée -)
une suite
et une fin , elle est morte
Pour faire suite à mon post :
Et si demain en Chine on portait secours à son prochain pour la célébrité et l'argent ?
C'est ce que pourraient laisser présager des réactions hallucinantes relevées par la presse : http://www.shanghaidaily.com/nsp/Nat...Bhero%2Bflees/, certains considérant l'intervention de la dame par pur intérêt :
"Most people acclaimed her as a moral role model against the other 18 indifferent passers-by. Some people whom she didn't know smiled at her wherever she came around.
On the other hand, some people challenged her purpose for doing what others dared not do for fear of extortion from victims and their families. Chen and her family members had been asked whether she did this to become famous, which hurt her badly. Some annoying neighbors wanted to know how much award she earned through the incident.
Chen's son was very angry and said, "My mother cannot read newspaper at all. Why will she want to become famous?"
Peut-on imaginer en Chine un acte simplement humain, désintéressé, gratuit, sans qu'intervienne la notion d'argent ?...
(Ou alors imaginons à l'extrême un monde où l'on vous pousse volontairement sous les roues d'une voiture pour ensuite vous sauver et gagner : célébrité, reconnaissance et argent ! Non mince, je vais donner de mauvaises idées aux chinois ;-) Dernière modification par cogito ; Hier à 16h59.
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Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Hi everyone,
I’m Loulou, a French expat who’s been living in Southeast Asia for about fifteen years, currently in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. A passionate walker at heart, I’ve trekked in Nepal (Thorung La, Mardi Himal), India, Vietnam, and I’m still planning new hikes (Char Dham, Langtang, Annapurna).
I’ve just published my first travel journal, recounting three months of walking and encounters across India. A portion of the sales goes to an educational center I support in Kep, for children whose parents work in the salt marshes.
I’m also working on a second book about Nepal with a musician friend, focusing on the Mardi Himal trek—two independent perspectives on the same journey.
Happy to swap stories with you about the Himalayas, India, Southeast Asia, or just the urge to hit the road and walk far from home.
Safe travels,
Loulou
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines?
For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL.
THANKS GUYS
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others?
What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille?
Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit?
Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana?
Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate?
Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed.
Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project.
A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question.
They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕
Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.).
Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did.
I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights
Sidemen (2 nights)
Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights
Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed
Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran
Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights
Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD:
- Walk around central Ubud (1–2h)
- Campuhan Ridge Walk
- Tegalalang Rice Terrace
- Tirta Empul
- Gunung Kawi
- Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN:
- Rice terrace hike (2–3h)
- Cooking class
IN AMED:
- Snorkeling
- Japanese Shipwreck
- Beach + relaxation
- Volcano sunset
ON GILI:
- Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK:
- Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall
- Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level)
- Ulun Danu Bratan Temple
- Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN
- Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well:
👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option
12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM)
1 PM: ferry
3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer
11 PM: start ascent
2 AM–6 AM: volcano
Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM)
👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency
💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR:
- Relaxation
- Quiet beach
- Proximity to airport (30 min)"
I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays
where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya).
There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see:
Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees.
We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain.
But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore.
A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night
Coron – 4 nights
Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights
El Nido – 4 nights
Port Barton – 5 nights
Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan
Vigan – 2 nights
Sagada – 2 nights
Banaue – 2 nights
Bagabag – 1 night
Manila – 1 night
I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages.
3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer.
Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness.
My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place.
On the main routes, we visited:
San José
Alajuela
Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side)
Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side)
And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched.
He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown.
What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor.
At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José:
It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken.
On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox.
From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire.
Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets.
Bars with security guards out front.
I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel.
The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses.
The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in.
A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park.
Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further.
We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it.
A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces.
A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures.
But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business.
Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse!
According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable.
Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos.
A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park!
A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park.
The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color.
Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded!
Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30.
The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches.
As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves.
A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!"
For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex!
The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for?
For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places.
In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs:
Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you.
For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example.
For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk.
The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border.
The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times.
Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot).
For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border.
You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes.
From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??).
With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!!
For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations.
However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards.
Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future.
After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think:
1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport),
1 night in Garda,
1 night in Verona,
1 in Padua, and
3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year.
I told her:
“Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.”
“But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.”
I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk.
“Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.”
I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen.
“Mamido, I did it!”
My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no!
“Congratulations, sweetheart!”
A little shyly, she said:
“Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying:
“Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint!
But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out.
Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me.
But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back.
My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special?
That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
We’re a couple aged 58 and 63. We’ve just returned from a wonderful trip to South India in Tamil Nadu and a few days in Kerala. We traveled with a local French-speaking guide and his friend, the driver. They both live in Pondicherry. We spent 3 weeks with them in the most authentic way!
We covered just over 2,500 km and visited not only temples but also archaeological sites, museums, and small artisanal businesses making tiles, tea, sculptures, bronze, and silk spinning. We were lucky enough to visit a public school, attend a wedding, and even a death announcement in a small countryside village. We were fully immersed in the culture, food, noise, and colors—it was incredible!
The hotels and guesthouses we chose were very clean and mostly quiet. We’re returning from India with amazing discoveries!
We’re happy to share more info if you’d like!
M-Claire and Jean
This catchy and somewhat mysterious title comes from several questions I’ve been asking myself.
VF has been back open for a reasonable number of weeks and months now.
The number of visitors overall matches past averages, but the number of members online in the last 24 hours seems relatively lower than what we used to see.
Yet, to my surprise, I’m seeing fewer travel journals, way fewer messages, and way fewer questions.
I don’t see many new registered users online, and I notice a number of members who are logged in but either aren’t participating or have stopped participating.
Something’s not adding up for me because, in my opinion, VF is still appealing, and I don’t see which other sites could really compete.
Was there a real break between pre- and post-Covid?
Does it just take more time for some people to discover the site or learn that it’s active again?
Do people now prefer quick consumption on sites like FB or others I’m not familiar with?
Where have the site’s old-timers gone, and what are they doing with their time now?
What’s really going on here?
This isn’t exactly a traveler’s question... I’d like to know who handles the technical side of this forum?
I run a similar forum on a different topic (unrecognized children), and we’re dealing with a few technical issues that are slowly killing our forum... so I’d have one or two questions to ask 😊.
Also, I was wondering who created this forum... who the administrators or moderators are, etc.
I think this forum is great. Much better than Facebook, which I’ve been using since it shut down (so I’m happy to see it’s working again...)