Yet Another Travel Journal in this (Too) Familiar Rajasthan, But with Family and Kids
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PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Thanks so much for your very relevant comment, Joël.

Currently, many of these reports are made by German, British, or American teams and end up being broadcast worldwide. Once something makes it to TV, its confidential side is gone.

Unfortunately, that’s true, and it’s even worse with social media. Jawai Bandh isn’t in paper guides yet, but it won’t be long.

A little personal thought: when I read the part about "impure foreigners with the evil eye," I quietly thought they were pretty bold—both for "impure" and "evil eye" (literally and figuratively, by the way). Let whoever wants to understand, understand—I won’t elaborate.

Actually, it’s a ritualistic question. In Hinduism, even though these religious rules are relaxing, the upper castes are obviously the purest, and at the bottom of the scale are the so-called untouchables and foreigners, especially if their skin is dark. Of course, all this has evolved over history, and we can be idealized as demigods, rejected as outcasts, or perceived indifferently. But some in rural populations, a bit closed off to modernity and globalization, still fear that our presence brings the evil eye. That said, it’s less common than before.

For young children, it would never have occurred to me to take them to this kind of country

Maybe you were right. I’ll talk about this in more detail at the end of the journal in the trip summary (if I ever finish it). In any case, if we did it, it’s because after doing a lot of research, we found no reason not to travel to India with a two-year-old.

I don’t quite feel the same way anymore because I’ve seen many families whose stay in Asia went well and who handled it calmly.

Exactly.

Besides, I’ve known people who were kept in a bubble by their parents when they were young, and their bodies suffered from not being exposed to enough germs.

I’ve noticed that too. And actually, since that incident, Théo has never had another gastrointestinal issue—neither in France, nor in Senegal or Turkey.

Still, when a child so young shows strong and persistent symptoms, you can only advise the family to act faster than you did and take immediate drastic measures. Lives have been lost in similar circumstances. Maybe you had reasons not to worry too much—we all depend on our genetic heritage, and perhaps your family’s is particularly resilient.

Yes, but I don’t think genetics play the biggest role here—it’s more about the living environment. As for taking him to the hospital sooner, we shouldn’t forget that (as I wrote) we sent him to a doctor very quickly, who immediately made the right diagnosis. The only issue was that he didn’t treat the dehydration. Two days later, he was already being cared for at the American Hospital in Udaipur, where one of the best pediatricians in Udaipur showed no concern and told us it was severe but classic. Maybe we could have taken him straight to a reputable hospital, that’s true. But we didn’t wait too long to react either.

That said, it’s really brave and honest of you to have recounted all these events in full. It stands out so much compared to those who only present their stories from a flattering angle.

Thanks for pointing that out! The main goal of this journal is to provide a reliable account for people who might want to travel to India with a very young child—something we found little of when preparing for this trip. So we have to tell things as they really happened; otherwise, it’s not a valuable experience or advice. We just want our experience to help people form their own opinions. And anyway, it’s my mindset to always write authentic journals because my goal isn’t to make people believe I had a perfect trip from start to finish. It’s to tell things as they happened to inform future travelers above all—and to spark discussions and debates, like here.

There you go, you managed to make me write a summary ahead of time!
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Day 15, August 7: Udaipur « The Indian hospital (ity) » (continued)

Today is the first day of Teej, a major annual Hindu festival that honors the devotion and austerities of the goddess Pārvatī to win the heart of her husband, the great god Shiva. Simultaneously, it celebrates the arrival of the monsoon according to the Hindu calendar—a season of fertility and renewal, which is how it got its name, borrowed from a small red insect that appears during this period. For three days, women dress in particularly colorful saris, jewelry, and henna, fast in devotion to their husbands to wish them a long life (especially since being a widow in India is a ritual and social curse) or to hope for a good marriage. In the evening, they go to the temple to honor the powerful Pārvatī with offerings of flowers, fruits, pastries, songs, and dances in her glory. This festival was one of the reasons we scheduled these five days in Udaipur, as the Teej celebrations were described as quite popular when we were planning our trip. But it’s clear we’re off to a bad start to be able to attend.

In the end, Théo slept pretty well despite the brutal new incision in his vein the night before. I received a few worried messages from Magali overnight to make sure he was okay and well-covered so he wouldn’t catch a cold from the air conditioning in the room, which we keep turning up only for the nurses to lower it every time (you might know this Indian obsession with keeping rooms at 18°C when it’s 35°C or more outside—the best way to catch a sore throat). I only see the messages when I wake up at 6 a.m. and reply to reassure her that this second night went well. In the morning, the nutritionist visits to ask what meal I’d like for Théo. This new ritual in the constant stream of visitors is more pleasant than the others because it’s a sign his health is improving. She suggests boiled vegetables for vitamins and rehydration. I explain that yesterday, he really liked the turmeric vermicelli and the simple dāl with rice and yogurt. Those also seem like the least risky options for him, but I agree we should vary things a bit. I ask Théo, who answers in a still-weak voice that he’d prefer pasta or the dāl/rice. She recommends vegetables instead... On a completely different topic, she informs me she’s learned that the nurses have been asking us to fetch the medications ourselves from the hospital pharmacy since the beginning, which she seems quite unhappy about since it was supposed to be their job. She tells me to firmly refuse from now on. I’m both stunned (though not really surprised) and relieved to hear this—it’s been a huge hassle! But how were we supposed to know when we didn’t understand the system and the medical team asked us to do it ourselves? I think if she’s aware of this, why doesn’t she give them the order herself? She leaves, assuring me she’ll let them know. So we’ve been making all these trips back and forth, taking turns so someone could stay with Théo, and wasting so much time waiting at the pharmacy counter when it wasn’t even our responsibility! Nothing too surprising, though—even at the “American” hospital, we’re still in India. I tell myself the upside is that we’ve been able to control the cost of the medications we had to pay in cash for each prescription, which wouldn’t have been the case if the medical team had handled it—who knows what overcharging we would’ve found on the final bill...

Magali and Kelyandre, now experts at taking and negotiating rickshaws (almost) like seasoned India travelers, come to take their turn around 8 a.m. to relieve me. Magali asks me not to linger at the hotel because Sukhdeo’s sister is coming to bring food for Théo, and since she’s not very comfortable with English, she prefers I be there to receive her. I head down to the parking lot, where I immediately find a very friendly rikshāwālā who accepts the 100-rupee fare without hesitation. At the hotel, the ever-smiling and kind manager asks for news about the little one. I take advantage of this comfort, which we’ve barely used so far, to take a quick bath (yes, there’s even a bathtub!). I do notice, though, that the room is quite humid due to the season and its proximity to the pool.

I leave the hotel as quickly as possible to enjoy Udaipur a bit and reconnect with the feel of this city, which was my gateway to India seventeen years ago and which I’ve revisited many times since. I start nearby at the Jagdīsh Temple, where I have vivid memories that now seem almost surreal in hindsight. Without going into too much detail, during my first trip to India in 2007, I had joined someone who was doing a “Rajasthani dance and percussion” workshop with other artists inside the Udaipur palace. On the last day, their teacher—a fairly influential brāhmaṇ woman—had offered them the chance to dance on the stage set up in front of this most revered temple in the city for the immensely popular Kṛṣṇa festival. I arrived late and found myself stuck in the middle of a tightly packed crowd of hundreds of people literally going wild as these French women performed a short, simple choreography to an old Bollywood song, filmed by local television. I explained to some young men that I knew the girls on stage, and they lifted me over the crowd so I could climb over the barriers and join the VIP platform where I should’ve been if I’d been on time. I watched the rest of the festivities, including an astonishing human pyramid contest, sitting right next to the son of the last Mahārāṇā, the title of the Rājpūt rulers of Udaipur. In the electric atmosphere of that wonderful night, we were then invited to a special pūjā in the temple...

This early morning, those memories overlap on the same nearly empty square as I climb the thirty-two steps leading to the first maṇḍapa (pavilion) I’ve ascended so many times. The Jagdīsh Temple dates back to the 17th century and is dedicated to Viṣṇu in his form as Jagannāth, the “Lord of the Universe.” Its walls and bas-reliefs are covered with splendid sculptures of mythological scenes, some depicting postures from the Kāma Sūtra that would be considered risqué today.



Its structure, studded with deities and mythological figures rising in pillars to the top, reminds me of the temples I visited in Tamil Nadu in 2018. Four chapels at each corner of the temple’s square enclosure are dedicated to other major Hindu deities: Shiva (Viṣṇu’s destructive alter ego), Gaṇesh (the elephant-headed son of Shiva who removes obstacles and brings prosperity), Sūrya (the ancient Vedic sun god), and Shakti (the divine feminine principle, the active force of the cosmos). At the top of the steps, a statue of the eagle god Garuda faces the main sanctuary of Viṣṇu, which is elevated on the second maṇḍapa. Inside, devotees sit in meditative pauses, gathered around a pūjā performed by the priest for the deity. I join them, sitting toward the back of the room, and try to take a photo—strictly forbidden in the most sacred temples. I’m scolded by some zealous young devotees but play the ignorant tourist card: they let it slide, and I delete the blurry shot anyway. During this visit, Magali texts me that she’s simultaneously participated in the pūjā of another god: the daily ceremonial visit from our “Dr. Jain” and his team. Great news: the tests are good, and Théo can be discharged tomorrow! He could’ve almost left today, but the doctor prefers not to take any risks and wants to be sure he’s 100% recovered. Magali is greatly relieved, and her grudges against the hospital are somewhat swept away! So are mine—the news lifts a huge weight off our shoulders. I finally start to see the rest of the trip differently. Théo recovered quickly, and this difficult ordeal is almost definitively behind us. We’ll finally be able to enjoy the little time we have left in Udaipur and end our journey as we began it. Well, not quite yet—we still have 24 hours to live through this curious experience of a hospital stay in India...

Unlike the other days, the weather is mild and sunny. In a good mood and with a lighter spirit, I decide to walk the 2.5 kilometers to the American hospital. On the temple square, the scene of donkeys loaded with heavy sacks of rubble, which they carry up the steep streets—a sight that struck me seventeen years ago—is exactly the same today. Walking down Jagdish Temple Road toward Ghāṇṭā Ghar (the Clock Tower, less remarkable than Jodhpur’s), I peacefully enjoy the lively street scenes of this busy commercial artery.

I keep an eye on both sides of the street because I’m looking for a tailor: the button on my shorts has been coming loose for a few days. I quickly find a small shop where a mustachioed man in his fifties is busy behind his sewing machine. Since he’s friendly and happy that I speak Hindi, he asks me lots of questions, offers me chāy served in a plastic pouch with small cups, and we start to hit it off. He does his job with great professionalism and tells me to pay what I want. I give him 50 rupees and say I’ll probably come back the next day because Magali and Kelyandre also have things to mend. He wishes me luck with the little one, and I continue down Sindhi Bazar, where there are no tourists left even though I’m still in the old city. I cross a particularly colorful vegetable market, which reminds me that beyond its (magnificent) historic quarter overrun with tourists, Udaipur remains a thoroughly authentic Indian city. I wander past pastry shops, street-food stalls, street scenes, and a strange dumping ground right in the middle of it all... At Delhi Gate roundabout, the old city gives way to wide, congested avenues leading to the new city districts. A different walking atmosphere sets in.

From the tailor’s, it only takes me about twenty minutes, taking my time, to reach the hospital by mid-morning. Just as I’ve barely stepped into the room, I have to go back down—I forgot to buy bananas, which Théo and all of us eat a lot of. Near the rickshaw parking lot, I go to the juice vendor who’s always there early in the morning, but he has almost every fruit available in India except bananas... He points me toward the residential neighborhood behind Residency Road, the main avenue in front of the hospital. I wander through the rather deserted alleys and get lost in the small residential lanes but can’t find anyone to ask. Finally, I find a chāywālā where I stop for a short break. He gives me directions, and after a few more minutes of walking through this almost “upscale” neighborhood, I finally spot, like a mirage, a banana cart and its owners—a very rustic, smiling couple quick to chat and joke. For 30 rupees, I get double the usual amount of bananas for 40 or 50! The heat is rising, and I have to retrace my steps to bring my haul back to the room.

When I return around noon, Sukhdeo’s sister is already there. She came alone this time. She’s prepared ālū gobhī and some delicious chapātī for Théo, which she brought in metal containers with plastic lids. Théo had just received his dāl and rice from the hospital, but I notice that combining everything makes a complete vegetarian thālī! We cut pieces of flatbread for Théo so he can pick up bits of potato and cabbage in front of Damayantī, who’s moved by the scene, just like us. She doesn’t stay long: we chat about this and that, she’s reassured to know Théo is being discharged, and we promise to stay in touch. We tell her we’ll have to find a way to return the containers she brought. Either way, we can never thank this incredible family enough for their help to the very end.

We’ve finished the meager leftovers of Théo’s food, but it’s not nearly enough for the three of us. We check the photos of the long Hindi menu on Google Maps for Swad Café, the small vegetarian ḍhābā that wasn’t very clean but which we liked on the first day, on the other side of Residency Road, across from the clinic. The food is as local as the prices: dishes are around 100 rupees, and the chapātī are 10 rupees. Magali is tempted by something not spicy, so following my advice, she decides on malāī koftā (vegetable and cheese balls in a creamy coconut sauce), and I go for chanā masālā (chickpea curry). I go back up, and we start unpacking the order. Magali tastes her malāī koftā but makes a face: it’s very sweet-salty, creamy, and not at all what she expected. We swap dishes. She finds mine very spicy but still more satisfying than hers. Since Kelyandre isn’t thrilled with what he sees, we make an exception to our promise never to buy anything from the crazy old man at the foot of the hospital who (intentionally or not) scammed us two days ago. It’s better if it’s not me who goes, so Magali heads down. When she starts placing her order with the doddering man, a young guy immediately steps in to handle it. It seems our little altercation got around! We’re the only foreigners in the whole hospital and its surroundings, and the employee must have connected Magali to last time’s incident. Another clash avoided! This time, nothing’s forgotten, and Kelyandre can enjoy his double-cheese veggie burger.

With little transition, I have to leave again quickly for the old city because I need to find a tailor for Magali’s torn kurtī and bring some wipes from the hotel for Théo. I also want to stop by a shop I spotted online on the way because a colleague asked me to bring back a spice mix for biryānī, and some Indian friends in Paris wanted a good bag of Mathaniyā red chilies, known among connoisseurs for their round, sweet taste and vibrant color. Since I like walking, I try the experience on foot again. But the shop doesn’t have what I need. While looking for my way, I realize I’m a bit lost. Then I see a rickshaw stop next to me, and the driver invites me to get in. I hesitate but climb in because I’ve lost some time. When I sit down, he asks if I recognize him: yes, it’s the rikshāwālā who took me from the hospital to the hotel this morning! He recognized me and stopped. What were the odds of running into the same driver, on the same day, at this exact time and place? After all, we encounter so many coincidences like this... Thinking I’d have better luck finding my spices at the market I crossed this morning, I ask him to drop me off at Sindhi Bazar, where I scout around or just wander past the stalls out of curiosity—there’s so much that’s tempting! After asking several vendors, I finally find a spice seller whose goods spill out into the street. He directs me to large jute sacks filled with the Mathaniyā chilies I was looking for. I tell him I’ll come back tomorrow to make my purchases, and he gives me his card.

After scouting, I head back to the hotel. After resting a bit, taking a good shower, gathering the things I came for, and dropping off our dirty laundry at the front desk, I realize I have some time to spare. With the accumulated stress and fatigue from all the back-and-forth, I let myself be tempted by the Ayurvedic massage parlor next to the hotel, Ayurvedic Body Shop, which has been catching my eye every time I pass. I push the door open and am greeted by a woman in her fifties who hands me a menu of services and specifies that it’s “man to man” only. I feel like telling her I know I’m not in Thailand and am familiar with the country’s customs. Even if things seem to be slowly changing due to globalization and social media, Indian propriety generally requires being massaged by someone of the same gender to avoid any sexual services (which completely denies—or pretends to deny—homosexuality). I imagine she has to take this precaution to avoid confusion with tourists used to Southeast Asia who might think it’s the same in India. Since I’m not one of them and only came for a classic Ayurvedic massage, it suits me just fine. There are several options, most between 1000 and 2000 rupees. I choose a one-hour session for 1500 rupees. The woman calls the masseur, who arrives quickly. Contrary to what the storefront suggests, the place is tiny, and the room is divided into small spaces separated by curtains. The service is in line with the vast majority of Ayurvedic massages I’ve had in India: the masseur communicates very little but is professional. I step back out onto the street feeling relaxed and at ease, my mind light.

Back in the room just seconds later, I get another message from Magali saying she has a stomachache, feels nauseous, and is occasionally shaking as if she’s cold (which really isn’t the case...). She thinks it’s the lunch from the ḍhābā that didn’t agree with her... It’s odd because I ate the same dishes as her and I’m fine. The problem with traveler’s diarrhea is that between immediate food poisoning and cases that incubate for two or three weeks, it’s hard to know exactly where or when it came from. Still, she blames her condition on that malāī koftā, just the thought of which gives her chills. It’s time for me to head back. I grab my things and go hail a rickshaw. Like what happened to Magali and Kelyandre the day before, the driver doesn’t take the usual route. I don’t know if he has an alternative route or if he’s just wrong, but it’s not the right direction for now... I keep a close eye on him, and when he starts heading toward the Chand Pole bridge leading to the other side of the lake, I immediately call out to remind him I’m going to the “GBH AMERICAN HOSPITAL”! He’s confused and says he mixed up the hospitals. Fortunately, the detour isn’t huge. He finally takes me to my destination and, recognizing his mistake, doesn’t ask for extra payment—a rare occurrence...

So it’s me again for this third and final night at the hospital because Magali still struggles to understand or make herself understood by the medical team. Kelyandre and she stay with Théo and me for about an hour. Then, like the pros they’ve become over the past two days, they head off to find a rickshaw to go to the hotel. Shortly after they leave, Théo’s meal tray arrives. More dāl and rice! It was really worth the nutritionist coming to ask what we wanted. But it’s fine—it’s a healthy and safe dish that he devours without leaving a single crumb. His belly is full! He even eyes the raw veggies, but despite his begging, it’s out of the question, and I have to stop him from grabbing them despite his protests. I’m actually surprised that, given the risks, the nutritionist included them on the menu... I settle the matter by eating them myself! I should be content with that tonight—I was counting on leftovers, so I’ll have to fast like the Teej devotees. Still, it’s great news that in such a short time, Théo has regained such a big appetite. And that’s not all: he’s started talking nonstop again, just like before. He’s fully recovered!



Meanwhile, things take a turn for the worse for Magali and Kelyandre... They’re still having rickshaw troubles... There aren’t any available in the parking lot. I text her that it’s very likely because of the Teej festivities. They walk down the avenue to try to flag one down, but all the vehicles are packed with people in colorful clothes. To make matters worse, Magali is feeling worse and worse. It takes them a good twenty minutes of waving by the roadside before one finally pulls over. It’s almost full, and the driver asks for 100 rupees, even though they should get a shared-ride discount. She’s not feeling well at all, he won’t lower the price, and she doesn’t argue much. All the other passengers are also heading to the Jagdīsh Temple, where the nighttime Teej rituals, which we’re experiencing in parallel instead of participating in, must be in full swing. As they get off near the sacred site, Kelyandre is hungry. They spot the Old Town Café, right across from our hotel—a very touristy and busy spot with a nice rooftop—where Kelyandre orders his favorite stir-fried noodles to go. The wait is long, and the smell of greasy food makes Magali even more nauseous. She can’t take it anymore. Finally, they’re served, and they quickly cross the street. She runs to the bathroom to throw up everything she’s eaten, then curls up under the covers, shivering abnormally from the cold...

Before I was informed of all these adventures, I take care of giving Théo his treatment before bed. In the late-night stream of visitors, I get the nurses, the cleaning staff, and again the stressed-looking guy who asks if I have any complaints. Magali, completely drained, texts me that I should’ve asked for a refund for the hospital staff’s incompetence!
YA Yan55 Veteran ·
Here’s a really detailed account! And a happy ending for your little boy... So glad, though one illness replaces another! Hope it wasn’t too serious for Magali... We loved Udaipur too—we attended the Gangaur festival there. It was something else!!!
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MA Marien33 Veteran ·
I'm really frustrated, Michaël—I wrote you a long first reply that disappeared when I clicked on preview, which is supposed to save what was written. I didn’t have the energy to start all over again, so I wrote a shorter second reply, and the same thing happened when I clicked preview. It’s becoming absolutely unbearable to post on this forum. You’ll have to forgive me, but I’m really not doing this a third time.

Thanks so much for your very detailed account. I was telling you I was surprised you didn’t mention insurance, and I was expanding on that based on my own experience. Basically, you have to write two words—preferably just bland stuff—but as soon as you go into any detail, everything disappears.

All in all, I just spent over an hour reading and replying to you, and it was all for nothing in the end. It’s really discouraging to respond
Je rencontrai sur mon chemin tant de difficultés Qu’elles furent toutes surmontées MIRZA GHALIB poète urdu (1796 -1869) https://www.telling-india-pictures.com https://youpic.com/marien
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Just before you sent me that message earlier today, my reply to Anne had just disappeared under similar circumstances. Then I started drafting a response to you, which also vanished when I accidentally changed pages—by clicking "back," everything was lost.

I was telling you I was surprised you didn’t mention insurance, and I was expanding on my experience.

Oh, it’s coming in the next installment and in the wrap-up! Trust me, I haven’t finished talking about insurance yet.

Actually, you just need to write two words—preferably bland ones—but as soon as you elaborate a little, everything goes to hell.

So just write me, "Your trip to India looks amazing—all those beautiful colors are so inspiring!" I’ll take it 😄
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Thanks for your dedication, Anne!

And a happy ending for your little boy...

Absolutely, it was such a relief when "Doctor Jain" told us he was going to be discharged. That said, we were already reassured when we arrived at the hospital and he told us it wasn’t anything too serious but that he’d still need two or three days in the hospital.

We really loved Udaipur too—we attended the Gangaur Festival there. It was something else!!!

Teej and the Gangaur Festival, very popular in Udaipur, are quite similar in theme and rituals—almost like twin celebrations—except Teej is more pan-Hindu, while Gangaur ka mela is typically Rajasthani. I can totally believe it must’ve been impressive. Without giving too much away, we unfortunately didn’t see much of Teej...
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
Since no one’s stepping up, I’ll go for it... When’s the next part of this journal coming? You’re not gonna throw in the towel, are you? !
Je rencontrai sur mon chemin tant de difficultés Qu’elles furent toutes surmontées MIRZA GHALIB poète urdu (1796 -1869) https://www.telling-india-pictures.com https://youpic.com/marien
CA Calaf Regular ·
Hi Marien,

and thanks for "taking the plunge" for me—I didn’t dare... (darn education).

I hope and assume, from your latest messages, that your trip is going wonderfully and that you’ll tell us all about it, of course!!

Thanks to you and Pagal for keeping our "enchantment" alive...

Calaf
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Hi Jean-Marie (and Calaf too),

You’re bringing this discussion back to life—one I was almost starting to forget! It’s true, I stopped writing that travel journal, and I don’t even remember when I last posted an entry... As I’ve said many times before, I’m increasingly short on time, and it was a real sacrifice (no matter what some idiot around here says) to even start such a project. At first, besides writing for myself, I thought it might help travelers who are hesitant about traveling with young kids. But it doesn’t seem to help anyone...

On one hand, is it really worth sacrificing precious time to write a journal that only interests a handful of people (sorry to those few!) when my time is already taken up by work, family (and, in a way, my country), and what little I have left is better spent resting? Or should I keep going for myself and those few readers? It’s a question I can’t answer, and time passing naturally pushes me toward one choice. Sometimes I think I should get back to it for the satisfaction of finishing what I started—especially since the end isn’t that far off. But other times...

Originally, I had the idea of writing journals about the trips that followed, but I’m now almost certain that won’t happen. The post-COVID torpor of this forum has somewhat discouraged me.

Thanks anyway for giving this thread a little jolt—you never know what might come of it.
KA Kate Globetrotter ·
Hello!

I’ve thought about nudging you several times. When’s Season 2 coming? But I hesitated... Should I leave you alone, not pressure you, or just share how much I enjoyed reading you and stirring the pot a bit?

You’re the *number one* drama queen—the student has surpassed the master!

But I know perfectly well that writing a travel journal is a time-consuming pleasure. I also know that many readers stay silent. Sometimes, one of them reaches out months or even years later to tell me they were inspired by my adventures to plan their own trip.

Anyway, do what feels right—I’ll manage my frustration 🏴‍☠️😛
Mes photos sur Flickr: https://www.flickr.com/photos/153304262@N05/albums "Le Temps nous égare. Le Temps nous étreint. Le Temps nous est gare. Le Temps nous est train".
SO Solene40 Globetrotter ·
Yes, I agree with Kate Pagal—there are a lot of silent readers. Often, my travel journals get over fifty views per post, and a comment on the best days (always the same people, thanks to them—without them, I think this forum would be dead 😅).

There are the lurkers/consumers, those who are afraid to bother, and those who just don’t know what to say. But just so you know, thanks to you, I’ll be in Jawai Bandh in two months—see, you’re helpful! 😄

For me, the point of a travel journal is to extend the trip, to dive back into those happy memories, and to print it out in the end so my husband can read them to me when I’ve lost my marbles 😄

But maybe you should make it less detailed to lighten your "load"?

Looking forward to reading the rest, anyway! 😊
Le monde est comme un miroir, si tu lui souris, il te sourit aussi!
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Thanks Kate,

You’re the number one drama queen, the student has surpassed the master!

Not at all. First, I’m no one’s student, and my response wasn’t calculated at all. I didn’t write it to stir things up or feed my ego. I simply replied to Marien and Calaf, who were the first to react to the dormancy of this journal, which had ended up on standby in my mind. Without their comments, I might’ve even forgotten about it one day... You don’t really think I’ve been waiting all this time for someone to finally chime in so people would beg me to continue? I’ve got other things to do...

What I’m saying is true and sincere: I didn’t even have much time to start such a journal when I first decided to write it. Time caught up with me, and the current sluggishness of VF (which isn’t dramatization but a real observation I lament a bit out of nostalgia) makes me more inclined to use the few minutes I can scrape together in a week for more essential things.

Also, consider that this trip happened just over a year and a half ago, and since then, we’ve already done four other trips, all just as rich, with two more in the works for soon. On one hand, the Rajasthan trip is fading into the past, and on the other, I sometimes feel like finishing it... well, when I think about it, which is less and less often.

I don’t think people are really frustrated by the interruption of this journal—let’s not exaggerate. They say "oh well" and go back to their real lives, which is totally natural, or find other things to read here or elsewhere.

In any case, thanks for the encouraging message!
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
But for me, the appeal of a travel journal is to extend the trip, to dive back into those happy memories, and to print it out in the end so my husband can read them to me when I’ve lost my marbles 😄

Yes, I completely agree with this take on travel journals and with what you’re saying in general in this post—especially that this forum would definitely be dead if a handful of us weren’t keeping it alive (for how much longer, though...).

But in the reply I just left for Kate in the meantime, I explain the reasons for this break, and it’s not about the journal’s readership but rather the lack of interaction—and, most of all, the lack of time.

But maybe you should make it less detailed to lighten your "load"?

I’d really struggle to do it any other way! Writing a very (sometimes *too*) detailed account takes more time and might put some people off, but that’s also the whole point of this journal and what would motivate me to keep going.

Thanks to you, and I’m glad I could shed some light on this place that’s almost unknown to foreign tourists—Jawai Bandh—hoping you’ll spot more leopards than we did! But even without them, the place is absolutely worth it.

On another note, I’ve been invited to a very traditional wedding in Barmer, Rajasthan, very soon. The dates, my proximity to the family, and the fact that I’m going alone this time will let me be right in the thick of it to experience the whole thing—and maybe write a special wedding journal that I could do live, which would be less demanding for me.
CA Calaf Regular ·
Hi there,

I completely agree with Solene 40, who suggests "keeping it less detailed"—less time-consuming—and maybe leaving a bit of time for us to give a quick rundown of the next trips....

Calaf, just another voice in the crowd...
JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
Also imagine that this trip took place just a year and a half ago, and since then, we’ve already done four more—all just as rich—and two more are in the works for soon. On one hand, this Rajasthan trip is slowly fading away, and on the other, I sometimes feel the urge to finish it... well, when I think about it, which is less and less often.

That’s the real issue! I should be less selfish and slow down the travel pace to free up time to polish the journals we’re given. It wasn’t that complicated! 😛
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Really great!

It’s actually the opposite that’s happening with an upcoming trip to Rajasthan and another to La Gomera.
JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
Live if you trust me Don’t wait for tomorrow...
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
We pick, we pick...
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
I thought this travel journal was dead for good, even after trying to revive it since I wasn’t getting any notifications about it. And for good reason! Another VoyageForum bug meant I wasn’t receiving any notifications—on your journal, mine, or the few others I still followed... After repeatedly complaining with no response, the bug was finally fixed, and I suddenly got flooded with notifications for all the latest posts.

As for the "details," I’m with you—I prioritize them. They’re what make a travel journal feel alive instead of just a string of generic memories like "we did this, we saw that, we paid this much, and that’s it." Or worse, trying to sound intellectual—like pretentious know-it-alls—without anything that makes you want to share in the author’s so-called adventures. It’s like Indian or Thai food without spice—"No spicy, no spicy... 😉"—completely bland and nothing like the real thing.
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JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
Well, we're all someone's fool or hypocrite. Most of us have a style or habits that get annoying after a while...

I reported two bugs to VF on another thread yesterday. They're working on it, but they don’t have a technical specialist with exactly the same skills as François Boucher on hand anymore. That complicates things.

By the way, no need for notifications. Every time someone posts on a thread you’ve contributed to, you’ll see it in "My Account" on the emerald banner at the top of the page: My Followed Discussions.

See you later!
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
By the way, no need for notifications. Every time someone posts in a thread you've contributed to, you'll see it in "My Account" on the emerald banner at the top of the page: My followed discussions

As long as you log in.... I no longer feel like logging into this forum without a compelling reason. So, it's the notifications that let me know if I have a good reason to log in. Like Pagal, I have other major interests and activities, and I don’t spend much time on VF without one (or more) good reason(s).

So tonight, if I hadn’t received the notification about a reply in this discussion, I wouldn’t have come to VF, and without that notification, I wouldn’t have known you’d written something.

Otherwise, I feel like telling you that if you don’t know how to drive, you don’t buy a car. Or if you know how to drive but aren’t familiar with all the new and advanced features of a vehicle, you don’t hit the road without basic technical knowledge. Or you hire a good driver who knows them—and a good driver is paid based on their qualifications. That’s why VF’s ersatz forum is terrible in its design, its technology, its prehistoric layout, and has never appealed to me.

But VF is dying without lively travel journals...

And since you mentioned François, I was surprised that among all the obituary messages, not one asked what happened to him. When you care about someone and miss them, don’t you wonder about their untimely death?
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JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
Online, there’s nothing but this: https://www.domainefuneraire.com/avis-de-deces/francois-boucher

Besides, searching with: "reinfo quebec facebook francois boucher". You’ll find lots of tributes on that FB page but no serious answers.

It would be fitting if this year the promise to pay homage finally materialized: https://voyageforum.com/v.f?do=post_view_flat;post=10702535;page=2;search_string=FRANCOIS%20BOUCHER;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;mh=20;
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
VO Voyajou Globetrotter ·
Please note that I’m not commenting on your account—which I otherwise enjoy—but on a wasteland where weeds that shocked me are thriving.

@Marien

Regarding the "details," I’m like you—I prioritize them. They’re what make a travel journal come alive instead of just a string of generic memories describing a place by saying we did this, we saw that, we paid so much, and that’s it.

Why so much hate? Especially toward someone who shares your interests.

And since you mention François, I’m surprised that among all the obituaries, not one asked what happened to him. When you care about someone and miss them, don’t you wonder about their untimely death?

Those who needed to know, know.

@Jojoone

Online, all you find is this: www.domainefuneraire.com/...ces/francois-boucher Besides, searching the web with: "reinfo quebec facebook francois boucher." You’ll find lots of tributes on that FB page but no real answers. It would be fitting if this year the promise of a tribute were fulfilled: voyageforum.com/...t_reply;so=ASC;mh=20;

Can you imagine that François Boucher’s loved ones have no desire for this? Especially with certified snoops lying in wait.
JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
Those who needed to know, know.

Can you imagine that François Boucher’s loved ones have no desire for this? Especially with certified snoops lying in wait.

I know you’re the One Who Knows, the Knower. And we never stop humbly drawing inspiration from you.

Your reply indirectly—and perhaps unintentionally—confirms our fears, even if it won’t change anything about the situation. Many of us, I know, have been asking questions, because for VF members, François wasn’t just a figure—he was a prominent member of the French-speaking travel community, the one thanks to whom, in the end, we can express ourselves here, share, and relive our travels. I would’ve liked, out of respect for him, to see support for a tribute on the site rather than these unproductive and sterile skirmishes. It could’ve been avoided.
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Okay, I guess I need to break the ice here, because personally, being part of that little circle of "those who know"... well, I couldn't care less 😂
CA Calaf Regular ·
Hello Pagaljavab,

I had to go back to last year—December 14th, to be exact—to find your journal again. I log into VF twice a day, and I was hoping...

"I don’t think people are really frustrated over this journal being interrupted, let’s not exaggerate..." you later wrote. Sure, that genuine humility does you credit, but may I disagree?

The adventures of your family—and others like those incredibly lively journals from Jojoone, Richard-Kate, Montagnard, Aleph, Solene, and of course our dear Marien—are like TV series; they’re addictive! We end up knowing the characters’ psychology, predicting their reactions, guessing what they’ll like or dislike... in short, you make us feel part of your group!

So, you might ask, have I made a journal myself? I confess: no! It takes a certain storytelling and photography talent that I don’t have, and I know writing a page that "holds together" takes forever. If you decide to stop, I’ll be disappointed, along with other members, but I’ll understand.

So I’m hoping... that one day, maybe, I’ll get to know the end of your journey...

But whatever you decide, a thousand thanks for sharing your Rajput family adventure and your passion for India with us.

Calaf
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Well, would you believe it—just as you were writing that really touching message, my dear Calaf, what a coincidence! I was actually working on the next part! I don’t know when it’ll be ready, but I’m doing my best to finish it and post it soon. Thanks so much, anyway.
CA Calaf Regular ·
Finally, some good news in this crazy world....
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
And just imagine, at the very moment you were writing this very touching message, my dear Calaf—what a coincidence!—I was actually writing the next part! I don’t know when it’ll be ready, but I’m doing my best to finish it and post it soon. Thank you so much, in any case.

Well, good news and a brave, wise decision. Bravo! As for me, I’m still stuck... I just can’t get the writing machine going again...
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CA Calyssie Regular ·
Same as Calaf 🙂. I’m in wait-and-see mode for the rest of your adventures.
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
And would you believe it—just as you were writing that really touching message, my dear Calaf, what a coincidence! I was writing the next part!

Synchronicity (divine?) I’d say… rather than coincidence…😉
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RI RichardXI Regular ·
Hi Pagal,

I think Calaf’s words ring true, and he was right to encourage you to pick up your story again. I really enjoyed your writing style—precise, immersive, and demanding. I know the syntactic, stylistic, and reflective effort that goes into writing a travel journal. And I also know how much we appreciate feedback and comments from those who follow us, giving us the reassurance that we’re not writing into the void. From that perspective, by the way, I’m not the best example. I write my journals and rarely engage afterward. It’s often Kate who nudges me, reminding me how valuable interaction is on this kind of forum. So, "dear colleague," if you’re in the right headspace, use your vacation to keep sharing the rest of your family adventures with us. Cheers.
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Thanks so much for your encouragement, Richard—it’s really kind of you. On top of the time-consuming challenges of writing a travel journal, work, the kids, and all the other obligations that eat up our days have made it rare to find enough time to get into the right headspace to remember, sort through and choose photos, think, write, and post these last few months.

Speaking of which, the same goes for reading other people’s journals and reacting to them. When you only have a limited amount of time to devote to VoyageForum, working on your own journal means you can’t follow others’ as you’d like, and vice versa—engaging with all those fascinating journals isn’t exactly conducive to writing your own. And even that choice is a luxury, since I often have to put VoyageForum on the back burner. Then there’s the issue of the post-COVID lack of dynamism on VF, which doesn’t always help with motivation… but that’s another topic.

I’m in the part of the country where school holidays are coming to an end, so I’ve only just gotten back to it because I really needed a break. Still, I’ll try to keep going by organizing myself better, especially since this journal is nearing its end.

Even though I haven’t had much time to react meaningfully, I’ve been following your Laos and Thailand journal—I always love the style, the photos, and the great energy of the quartet that makes these adventures so special.

Calyssie => Thanks for the encouragement!

Marien=> Thanks to you too! Instead of divine synchronicity or even coincidence, I’d lean toward a logical sequence of cause and effect driven by movement and induction. Besides, you should start writing about your latest Thai adventures while it’s still fresh in your mind!
MI Milou2008 Globetrotter ·
Marien, we miss you...
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
“And now, here’s where we were,” says Gérard Philippe’s voice, feeling compelled to take stock of the situation after the intense and dramatic musical digression by the USSR Symphony Orchestra that accompanies the scene where the wolf devours the duck at the heart of *Peter and the Wolf*’s central action—so gripping it had made us forget where the story was going and lose the thread. “Oh right, that’s true, where *were* we again?” we wonder with Alzheimer-like bewilderment when Gégé’s deep timbre suddenly resurfaces out of nowhere, without warning, to lay out a coldly concrete list of the suspended plot points, jolting us abruptly from the distant dream each note of Prokofiev’s score had lulled us into, much like the hapless bird in the wolf’s jaws.

And indeed, the story must go on. Burnout, lack of time, and thus energy to dig into my memory and faithfully transcribe it all led to this long *in medias res* pause in the journal. And I have to admit, rereading the last entries, I had to correct a ton of mistakes, awkward phrasing, and omissions—all signs of work rushed between a million things to do and think about. But now that I’ve found a bit of time and energy to continue, “here’s where we were”: - we were on a bold family trip in India’s Rajasthan, since we had kids, including a two-year-old, and had chosen to keep a backpacker-but-chill vibe, - what we’d hoped to avoid at all costs happened: little Théo was hospitalized for three days at the American Hospital in Udaipur due to a severe bout of gastroenteritis picked up *somewhere* during the trip, even though everything had been going smoothly until then, - the wonderful “Dr. Jain” from the pediatric ward was finally telling us that after this forced stay, Théo had recovered, and we’d finally be able to continue our journey, - but the day before discharge, in the middle of the chaos of the Hindu festival of *Teej*, which we experienced in a completely parallel reality, Magali suddenly felt awful—presumably after we ordered takeout from a not-so-hygienic *dhaba* across from the hospital, though it could’ve been anywhere or anytime during the trip, - and we were about to spend our last moments at the hospital, looking forward to the joy of wrapping up the administrative and financial discharge formalities, but mostly to getting back on the road.

Now, the rest of the story.
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Day 16, August 8: Udaipur “Deliverance and regression at the top of the City of Lakes”

Lying on my narrow bunk in the hospital room for the second consecutive night, I’m woken up around 3:30 AM by a message from Magali asking if Théo is okay. She mainly tells me that things have gone from bad to worse for her during the night: after vomiting a lot the day before, she got up, felt dizzy in the hotel bathroom, collapsed, and lost consciousness for a few seconds... It seems she’s also caught a really bad food poisoning. I advise her to get it checked out quickly because her body’s reaction seems to have been severe. She jokes in reply that she’ll ask for a consultation with our “Dr. Jain,” who, as I’ve mentioned before, isn’t his real name but the one we gave him—I haven’t explained why yet, but it’s coming. Joking aside, I think it wouldn’t be a bad idea to take these symptoms seriously and take advantage of the fact that we’re still in one of the best hospitals in Rajasthan for a few more hours, if everything goes as planned, to get a reliable diagnosis and appropriate treatment. In the end, she doesn’t think it’s necessary... It also occurs to me that the anxiety she’s been feeling for several days might have something to do with her condition.

Around 8:30 AM, Magali and Kelyandre join me at the hospital, perhaps for the last few hours or minutes there. We’re eagerly waiting for the final verdict and the grand finale—the entrance of Dr. Jain and his dancers... uh, nurses. Magali is really counting on it because she’s started imagining that, given the price we’ve already paid, we’d be entitled to expect the staff to have prepared a little Bollywood-style farewell dance to celebrate our happy ending, *Slumdog Millionaire* style: “Jai ho! Jai ho!”

But why on earth did we nickname this Dr. Janged “Dr. Jain”? Here’s the exclusive story at last! When I was studying Hindi at the *Langues Orientales*, we watched the Hindi film *Vivah* (“Marriage”), released in 2006, with our oral comprehension teacher. Even though I didn’t particularly like it, it left a strong impression on me and made me smile. Under the guise of a rather classic Bollywood film, with the never-ending plot thread (or rather, the heavy-handed tropes) of a complicated marriage arrangement between two lovers and all the ensuing twists, those unfamiliar with Indian sociology might not notice the undertones of Hindu fundamentalism woven into this very long (inevitably) film, though presented in a more relaxed and respectable way. Still, the script deserves some credit for originality: for once, the stars align so that the marriage goes off without a hitch. A major point is that the hero and heroine are both from the *brāhmaṇ* caste, making the union perfectly viable—no obstacles there. True, the bride was adopted by her uncle and aunt after her parents’ death, which isn’t ideal in terms of purity, but hey... Moreover, even though they don’t know each other because the marriage is still arranged by their families (let’s not get carried away), they luck out and fall in love at first sight. And even though the bride’s family is much less wealthy, the groom’s father, a very rich businessman from New Delhi, generously offers to waive the dowry—now that’s something! After all, he’s already loaded, and he’s just happy that caste endogamy (and thus the cosmic order) is being respected in this topsy-turvy era. The essence of tradition is preserved, and if it makes Hindu conservatism a bit more palatable to a global audience, then why not? Everything’s going great—no one objects to the union, and things proceed more or less by the book. The lovebirds get engaged and are even allowed to meet two or three times before the wedding. Their families give them some freedom and turn a blind eye during these encounters because, after all, you’ve got to live a little with the times and accept the effects of this era of degeneration and value inversion that is the *Kaliyuga*. Progressive fundamentalism, in short.

But of course, everything was too good to last until the end (otherwise, the film would have had very little interest...). The twist is that two days before the wedding, the bride is burned in the face and disfigured in a house fire. Is this *karma* because she’s an impure adopted daughter? Or because of her fake sister and fake mother, who are a little jealous? Or because of that primordial tradition of the dowry, which they tried to skip a little too quickly? In any case, the beauty, ironically badly injured by the accident, is in very bad shape and needs to be taken care of immediately by the local doctor, Dr. Rasheed. Though he’s Muslim (as his name clearly suggests), he does everything he can to successfully provide first aid. But this country doctor eventually admits that, having done his best, he now needs to pass the baton to a more competent colleague—namely, Dr. Jain, a Jain (as his name even more clearly suggests), a community considered by Hindus themselves to be among the most learned and pious, on par with their highest *brāhmaṇ*. Behind this fruitful but unequal professional cooperation, you’ll now understand the message—subliminal, of course, since no religion or community was explicitly mentioned, just vaguely suggestive names... In the end, thanks to Dr. Jain’s expertise, whose inevitably costly care is covered by the rich and virtuous fiancé who wants to save the marriage at all costs (even though tradition would have allowed him to call it off without any trouble given the unfortunate last-minute damage to the “merchandise”), the girl’s face is partly saved, and the ceremony can take place in a moment of grace that reconciles everyone. And who’s the real hero of the film? No one says it, but it’s Dr. Jain, of course!

That’s how the presence of a Dr. Jain on the pediatric team at GBH American Hospital (not to mention that its director is also named Dr. Jain), confirming the idea that sociological clichés don’t come out of nowhere (especially in India), reminded me of this film I saw 15 years earlier. At first, Magali accidentally mixed up the names of the two pediatricians, but in the end, she permanently stuck our Dr. Janged with the nickname—the real star of the story. Yep, that’s how it happened... (The famous Dr. Jain! The image is from GBH American Hospital’s website, but it’s so true to my impressions that one of the heroes of this trip deserved a physical appearance.)

And as we’re talking about it, later that morning, our Dr. Jain (Janged, actually, for those who still haven’t caught on) knocks on the door with a big smile. After asking the usual questions (“No vomiting? No diarrhea? No fever?”) just for show since he already knows the answers this time, and playing with the little one for a few seconds for form’s sake, he announces that after carefully reviewing the latest tests, he considers Théo officially cured. We can finally leave! His team is lined up behind him in a very cinematic professional pose, but to Magali’s disappointment, there’s no other choreography than this... The team members warmly say goodbye, their expressions reflecting the satisfaction of a job well done, then leave the room. And just like that, it’s over. This chapter is now behind us. Well, almost... Because before we go, we have to settle the final discharge formalities. Once again, everything seems perfectly orchestrated, and I’m told that the accounting department is waiting for me in the basement. Despite the polite smiles, Dr. Jain doesn’t lose sight of the goal—we’ll only get his official green light to return to civilian life once we’ve finalized the paperwork. Since we’ve already paid a flat sum of 40,000 rupees, we think we might even get a refund, which would be great because—unlike the heroine in *Vivah*—we don’t have anyone to cover our expenses, and we’re still not sure if the insurance will...

So I take the elevator down to the dimly lit basement once again. I find the poorly lit hallway and the counter where I greet the two friendly employees. They check their computer, print some documents, and point to the bottom of the page. Well, no—it’s not a refund: the total amount is 77,380 rupees, so we’ll need to add another 37,380 rupees... That said, the two men do everything they can to give me a complete file to make our insurance claim easier. They even take the time to staple as many prescription receipts as they can find—additional expenses that bring the total to nearly 80,000 rupees, or around 900 € at today’s exchange rate, including bank fees. Since Magali made the first advance and Théo is covered under her *Carte Vitale*, it’s up to her to pay the rest if we want our reimbursement claim to be considered. I go back up in the elevator, continuing the back-and-forth I’ve been doing like a robot for four days now, and when I return to the room, I answer Magali’s “So?” with the triple good news: no refund, but the amount has doubled, and it’s her turn to go downstairs and “heat up the card.” She heads to the basement and comes back a little later with the precious discharge papers. Our file is complete, Théo is finally allowed to leave the room, and we’ll see what happens when we get back. For now, the priority is to get out of here and continue our trip!

I realize at this moment why most Indians have no choice but to go to public hospitals. Even though we weren’t expecting such an expense, 900 € isn’t the end of the world for Western tourists who took the risk knowingly, and it’s actually quite reasonable given the rather honest quality of the care and follow-up. But for a modest Indian family, that could represent a year’s income! The families around us are either privileged or willing to do anything to save a loved one and avoid a run-down public hospital with less competent staff... After nearly a year of relentlessly hounding our insurance company, which either didn’t respond or assured us the claim was being processed without ever updating us, we’d started to think we’d get nothing—without giving up. But one fine morning, Magali was surprised to discover she’d received a reimbursement of 550 €, or 60% of the expenses. Since we weren’t expecting anything, this partial reimbursement is actually quite satisfying in the end.

We gather all our things, take the elevator one last time, cross the vast bright lobby, and say goodbye to GBH American Hospital, not without a little pang in our hearts as we briefly relive all the moments of this unexpected experience, which is now an integral part of our trip and our learning about India. It will undoubtedly remain the most memorable moment. After all, it’s here that we simultaneously experienced the depth of the *Indian hospital* and, thanks to Sukhdeo and his family, *Indian hospitality*—a coincidence as etymological as it was temporal. Finally, we turn toward our destiny without regret.

It’s already early afternoon before we know it because all these formalities took time, and we haven’t eaten yet. We decide to visit the elderly couple who run the Santoṣh Restaurant, that little *ḍhābā*/grocery store on the main avenue in front of the hospital. Over these three days, it’s been our main supply point and, above all, our refuge when we needed to get some air, decompress from the long hours in the hospital environment, or take our minds off things with a *chāy*, an ice cream, or some *chāṭ*, sitting on the shop steps or at the little table by the road, with the white noise of traffic passing just centimeters away and the constant honking—perfect for meditation and letting go. The ultimate authentic Indian experience! So, to thank them for all that, we wanted to say goodbye and grab a few *samosā* and other snacks—comfort food, if not exactly diet-friendly—that Kelyandre is growing fonder of by the day. The elderly couple makes room for us at a table, full of enthusiasm and eagerness. The only thing Magali’s upset stomach can handle is a simple *pohā*: no risk with these rice flakes sautéed in a little oil and turmeric. But she regrets the unnecessary addition of *farsāṇ*, those little pieces of fried dough and dried fruits that people in northwest India love so much they put them almost everywhere to decorate their snacks, and the addition of *chāṭ masālā*, a condiment that not all Western palates appreciate because of its strong smell, which some say reminds them of... a faint whiff of diarrheal flatulence... Anyway, the couple seems happy we thought of them and are glad everything’s over, even if—*business is business*—they would’ve preferred to have us around a few more days... One last *chāy* for me, and we hail a rickshaw to the hotel for a simple plan: freshen up, nap, and relax. Kelyandre and I even put on our swimsuits to finally test the pool, a bit overgrown in the middle of the courtyard, just behind our windows, giving the impression of swimming in a fake tropical pond in the middle of a *haveli*. Very pleasant and refreshing!

By mid-afternoon, we feel refreshed and free enough to resume our explorations. Since I need to buy the spices I spotted the day before near Sindhi Bazar and we still have some clothes to get mended at the tailor I befriended in the same area, it gives Magali, Kelyandre, and Théo a good opportunity for a quiet stroll through the old city to reconnect with the Indian street, where there’s always a thousand things happening that amaze us—just walk and let yourself be carried away! After descending Jagdish Temple Road and passing Ghantaghar, the Clock Tower, to continue on Sidhi Bazar Road, the frenetic sounds of a harmonium and fiery singing tickle my music-loving, India-obsessed ears. We follow the sound and, at the edge of the street, pass through a gate set back between two shops, leading to a small courtyard dominated by ornate minarets, a dome, and what seems to be a mausoleum. In the back, a group of *qawwālī* musicians is playing poems in praise of Sufi saints in front of a small group of Muslim devotees sitting on a large carpet. I find the *qawwālī* genre particularly moving, and at this moment, it blends perfectly with the late-afternoon atmosphere, where the light and mood grow softer, and the feeling of travel is reborn in a light tranquility. We stay for a few minutes to enjoy this enchanting moment as the faithful come and go. After some research, the place seems to be an old mosque in the heart of Sindhi Bazar called Chillah kī masjid, apparently closed since...

We continue down Sindhi Bazar Road, where I spot the tiny shop of my tailor, Manmohan, whose sign with a Gandhi drawing specifies that he’s a “specialist in *kurtā-pajāmā*.” Surrounded by a group of friends, he’s happy I came back as promised to introduce my family and entrust him with our clothes to mend. He offers us *chāy*, asks lots of questions about our life in France, notes that Magali and Kelyandre are of African origin, and inquires about Théo’s health, who’s already bouncing back. While the tailor works on mending Kelyandre’s African shirt, Magali’s *kurtī*, and a backpack strap, a *rikshāwālā* drinking *chāy* with us makes Théo’s dream come true—obsessed with motor vehicles—by letting him sit in the driver’s seat of his rickshaw (which is, of course, parked). Hands glued to the handlebars, he’s absorbed in his new life-sized toy, imagining himself speeding through the crowded street, making engine noises with his mouth. Manmohan shows me the work he’s done, insisting that he doubled the stitches so they’ll last a long time. He asks for 200 rupees, which seems a bit steep, but I don’t haggle—I’m happy with the moment we shared, the tailor’s friendliness, and the quality of his work.

We finish up at Sindhi Bazar, where I find my spice shop. I buy a packet of *biryānī masālā* for a Martinican colleague with distant Indian roots and, most importantly, the famous Mathaniya chilies for my Indian friends living in Paris who’ve long dreamed of cooking *lāl māns* (“red meat”), the iconic meat dish of Rajasthan, named for its vibrant color and the unique round, sweet heat of this chili variety. A bag is so light that at 300 rupees per kilo, it’s not expensive, and I grab some for myself too! We also stock up on incense at a neighboring shop for a ridiculous price.
RI RichardXI Regular ·
Previously on "Rajasthan trip with family !"...😉

Otherwise, your excellent summary of *Vivah* made me want to dive back into the Bollywood vibe. The most striking—and certainly the most famous—for me was "the Indian family." With a bolder storyline, since it revolved around the thwarted union of a high-caste Hindu man and a Muslim woman from the working-class neighborhoods. But it all ended well, of course! !
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Day 16, August 8: Udaipur "Deliverance and regression at the top of the City of Lakes" (continued)

To wrap up this beautiful day, I suggest we go watch the sunset from the Karni Mata Temple, perched on a hill that offers a breathtaking view of the city—a place I’ve surprisingly never visited despite coming to Udaipur so many times. A rickshaw drops us near Doodh Talai ("Milk Pond"), a small extension of Lake Pichola to the south of the city, where the cable car starts, saving the kids from a tough uphill walk. We buy the tickets at the counter: 300 rupees round-trip for us, 150 for Kelyandre, and free for Théo if I remember correctly. While waiting for our departure time, we treat ourselves to grilled corn, juice, and creamy coconut flesh from the vendor across the street for 25 rupees. Then we hop into the "egg" for a splendid ascent up Machla Magra, the "Fish Hill," as the sun begins its descent behind the Milk Pond and Lake Pichola.

At the top, near a sort of snack bar, a few steps lead to the sunset point, where Indian families, dressed in their finest clothes, are gathered, enjoying snacks on the benches of the stalls with a sweeping view of Udaipur. We arrive just in time to witness the magical spectacle of the sunset over the City of Lakes. The lights of the City Palace and the surrounding urban area grow brighter as the light fades.

While there’s still some light, we climb the few extra steps to the Karni Mata Temple. At that moment, a sudden stomach discomfort forces me to rush back down to the terrace where the toilets are—or rather, a wooden cabin where my legs barely fit and the flush doesn’t work, which eventually puts Kelyandre off using it too... But with a lighter and purer spirit, I join Magali and Théo and can finally pay my respects to the goddess of Power and Victory. Karni Mata, whom we’ve already encountered in Jaisalmer in her local form, Hinglaj, is the tutelary deity of several Rajput clans and Charan poets. According to legend, this medieval saint from the Charan caste, angered by the god of death Yama, wished that members of her community would reincarnate as rats before being reborn as humans. This is why her most famous temple is the very popular "Temple of the Rats" in Deshnoke, northern Rajasthan. Considered a form of the powerful Durga, wife of the great Shiva and mother of Ganesha, a modest Shiva temple naturally stands next to hers. Although the site dates back to the 17th century, the temple was rebuilt quite recently and has no architectural interest. The effigy is guarded by two crudely painted tigers on either side of the sanctuary entrance. But at this twilight hour, it feels as if the temple of the Goddess radiates her protection over the city below. From here, the view is even more spectacular as the pink-orange glow of the sky gradually gives way to the blue hues of night.





Hunger brings us back to reality, and we head down to the terrace and its street-food stalls to enjoy some delicious momos and other snacks, with the last glimmers of the sunset fading over Udaipur in the background. It’s completely dark by the time we return to the cable car station, where the aptly named Ropeway Restaurant is perfectly positioned to attract passengers waiting for the next departure—and to tempt those who might be lured into a last-minute meal, dessert, or one of the gimmicky side activities: video games, massage chairs, fish pedicure (which involves putting your feet in a tank to have your dead skin eaten by a species of Middle Eastern fish that’s crazy about microorganisms...). It’s a curious place, this spot with the vibe of a snack bar-arcade for the well-off middle class, a temple of compulsive consumption right below the temple of the pure Goddess. And since we needed some lightness after all the tension built up over the past few days of stress, confinement, and deprivation, we let the employee at the door convince us to come in, arguing that we still had time before the last departure. The trap was set: he directed us to a counter inside where we had to register for a cable car departure time. They showed us the big screen in the room that would display our number and name when it was time to leave. We signed up for the next departure, and the cashier handed us a ticket like a casino dealer. Kelyandre was tempted by an ice cream covered in Smarties-like candies and colorful cookies, a "children’s paradise" that cost 60 rupees but was comically huge. Since we were there, we joined him with some refreshments and cups of spicy corn while he stared in awe at his ice cream. But we realized we’d missed our ticket number—no problem, the "dealer" assured us there weren’t many people today and we’d have a spot on another departure. Of course, Kelyandre then asked if he could try the video games at the back of the room for a few rounds... then the massage chair... before Magali and I gave in to the fish pedicure, just out of curiosity to test an unusually silly tourist trap. To our surprise, after the initial tickling and occasional nibbling from these voracious fish that sometimes swarm the soles of your feet, our calloused traveler’s feet were miraculously transformed into baby-soft skin, and my fungal itches disappeared. The experience was even relaxing. So much so that we were the last ones left when the place closed a few minutes before the last cable car departure.

A few hundred unnecessary rupees lighter, we only felt a little guilty about the regressive moment we’d just had, in stark contrast to the pious temple visit and the romance of the sunset. The kids were happy, and we’d decompressed after those stressful days of confinement and deprivation. To end this beautiful day, we found a rickshaw to take us back to the hotel.
DI Did0764 Regular ·
Hello again, here we go for another adventure—what a joy! I discovered this cable car and the stunning view from the top of the hill. Thanks!
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Otherwise, your excellent summary of "Vivah" made me want to dive back into the Bollywood atmosphere. The most striking for me—and certainly the most famous—was "La Famille Indienne". With a bolder storyline, since it involved the thwarted union of a high-caste Hindu man and a Muslim woman from working-class neighborhoods. But it ended well, of course!

Actually, no, La Famille Indienne has a much less bold storyline—it’s even the quintessential Bollywood film about marriage: lovers from different communities trapped in an impossible love that finally becomes possible at the last minute.

That’s where Vivah (flaws aside) is more subversive and goes against the very progressive vision of typical Bollywood films. Its starting point features lovers from the same caste who don’t choose each other because the marriage is arranged, and no one opposes their union. It’s a way of showing that things go better when characters don’t transgress the rules of dharma, thus a political intent to shift the usual narrative by promoting tradition within the rules. The mention of surnames and their role in the film confirms this...
RI RichardXI Regular ·
OK. More in the spirit of Modi’s BJP, then...
PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
That’s exactly it.
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
Thanks to you too! Rather than divine synchronicity or even coincidence, I lean toward a logical sequence of causes and consequences driven by movement and induction.

I was a Cartesian myself for many years. Then, living in India, rubbing shoulders with—even spending time with—minds Milou would call "enlightened," maybe I’ve become one too, after reading Alexandra and experiencing some rather unsettling things myself. All while wondering if I’m dreaming and kicking against the traces to cling to Cartesianism and what you call "logic."

Besides, you should start writing about your latest Thai adventures while it’s still fresh!

You’re not the only one asking. I feel guilty for promising, because I usually keep my promises. But right now, I’m not motivated—like, not motivated at all—to do it. I have the exact same reasons as you, even without family responsibilities or professional obligations. I don’t have the time. I’ve got other things that matter more to me than travel journals on a forum that no longer meets my expectations. This forum, which Kola rightly called "diabolical" in our private conversations.

I’ve got other projects I’m prioritizing, including reviving my own website, which I’ve completely neglected for nearly two years.

There’s also Big Brother, watching every misplaced comma I write to destabilize me and discourage me from posting here. He can be happy—he’s succeeded! I just can’t seem to turn off the sound and camera of the "Telescreen." I’ve managed to cut off reception—I don’t read any of his messages as soon as I see his name—but comments from others who’ve read them keep me informed... And on my end, I have no way to stop broadcasting. For those who haven’t read *1984*, the telescreen worked both ways: transmission and reception, and you could never turn it off. At best, you could turn the volume all the way down. Which is what I’m doing...

And then there’s the guilt of not having time to read other people’s journals, let alone comment on them.

And I’m also wondering: Where was I in my own stories?
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MA Marien33 Veteran ·
Marien, we miss you...

Thanks Milou, but I don’t want to clutter Pagal’s story by replying here. And anyway, which thread would be appropriate to answer you? Maybe I’ll do it in my Keralan travel journal of "little nothings"?
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MA Marien33 Veteran ·
"And now, here’s where we were," says Gérard Philippe’s voice, feeling compelled to take stock of the situation after the intense and dramatic musical digression by the USSR Symphony Orchestra, which accompanies the scene where the wolf devours the duck at the heart of the central action in *Peter and the Wolf*—so gripping that it had made us forget where the story was going and lose the thread. "Oh right, that’s true—where were we again?" we wonder with Alzheimer-like bewilderment when Gégé’s deep timbre suddenly resurfaces out of nowhere, without warning, to list the cold, hard facts of the suspended action, jolting us abruptly from the distant dream into which each note of Prokofiev’s score had plunged us, like the poor bird in the wolf’s jaws.

Since you’re bringing it up here, can I respond here too?

I see this version of *The Little Prince* is still the go-to. My daughters are both over 50 now, and we were already listening to Gérard Philipe when they were Théo’s age...
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PA Pagaljavab Globetrotter ·
Here again, it’s *Peter and the Wolf*! Théo’s completely hooked—he can recite Gérard Philipe’s text by heart and knows Prokofiev’s music almost as well. I’m saving *The Little Prince* for a bit later. But you’re right: they’re timeless classics.
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
I find your experience with an “excellent” Indian hospital really interesting for informing travelers in this situation.

I’ve always wanted to share my own experience in a similar medical emergency, but time passed and I never did…

I was remarkably well cared for… and operated on. Once the payment for the treatment was secured… Between the hospital administration’s strictness and the insurance company’s stalling, both sides nearly let me die over money and who was going to pay what!

Well, in my case, it was 20,000 or 25,000 € that the insurance had to cover… not 900 €.

What’s good for you—but surprising—is that your insurance still partially reimbursed you. Normally, you *have* to contact the insurance *before* incurring any expenses, or they won’t pay… So yeah, with 60% coverage, you got lucky!

That little E.T. looks pretty happy on his rickshaw controls! !
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MA Marien33 Veteran ·
Once again, it's *Peter and the Wolf*! Théo’s completely hooked and can recite Gérard Philipe’s text by heart, along with Prokofiev’s music, almost as much. I’m saving *The Little Prince* for a bit later. But you pretty much nailed it: they’re timeless classics.

There you have it—a perfect example of my advanced senility, my memory problems, and especially my confusion and mix-ups, even with the names of my own family! I wrote *The Little Prince* when I meant *Peter and the Wolf*, of course!!! Gérard Philipe played that trick on me!!!
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JO Jojoone1 Globetrotter ·
I wrote *The Little Prince* thinking of *Peter and the Wolf*, of course!!! It was Gérard Philipe who played this trick on me!!!

Which inevitably makes me think of that remarkable *Beauty and the Devil*, still in connection with this "diabolical" forum and its censor who’s written some unspeakable travel journals 😉
« Tout le monde s'interroge sur comment laisser une meilleure planète à nos enfants, mais on devrait plutôt penser à laisser de meilleurs enfants pour notre planète. » Clint Eastwood
MA Marien33 Veteran ·
I wrote *The Little Prince* thinking of *Peter and the Wolf*, of course!!! It was Gérard Philipe who played this trick on me!!!

Which inevitably makes me think of that remarkable *Beauty and the Devil*, still in connection with this "diabolical" forum and its censor who’s written unspeakable travel journals 😉

I responded to the suggestion on the author’s own travel journal about my potential follow-up. But I think we should stop settling personal scores in other people’s travel journals.
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