Are we "bores" with our travel stories?
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Reading an excerpt from "The Art of Boring People by Telling Your Travel Stories" by Matthias Debureaux first made me smile, then got me thinking… Are we "travel-bores" with our travel stories?

"Annoying is the one who, like Ulysses, had a wonderful trip. Because for every silver-tongued storyteller with marvelous tales, how many bores and nuisances… The traveler, drunk on grand images and magical encounters, has only one thing on their mind: pelting us with anecdotes, life lessons, and ideals. They’ll paint the most beautiful and distant Edens… the traveler has an endless pharmacy of stories. But nothing is designed to immunize us against travel tales. We should impose a quarantine on returning travelers. At least a dozen hours in a sobering cell. What’s the point? Months, years later, they’ll never miss an opportunity to reminisce. The evocation of their odyssey is a perpetual fireplace fire."

A provocative text, sure, but isn’t the person telling their travel story doing it mostly for themselves? Just to relive the joy of their trip? At friendly gatherings or with family, we sometimes have to endure the enthusiast… without necessarily sharing their passion for the destination!

The advantage of writing—and also of exchanges on sites like VF—is that only those who want to read a story do so… with the option to skip it anytime!

So, what do you think, authors and fans of travel stories published online?

Jean

P.S.: "The Art of Boring People by Telling Your Travel Stories" by Matthias Debureaux, Éditions Cavatines, 2005 Excerpts read in "The Taste of Travel" Éditions Mercure de France, 2008

P.S.: As a little wink… I still invite you to check out my latest travel story about a trip to the Aeolian Islands… see the story and photos by following this link: http://voyageforum.com/v.f?post=4409520;page=unread#unread

I hope I didn’t "bore" you too much with this story 😉
ME Merise39 ·
I try, when it's face-to-face, to see how the other person—or people—react. If they look away or seem detached, I drop it. Usually, I write about it more than I bring it up in person. That way, only those who are interested read it.
MA Mathews Globetrotter ·
By the way, what do you think, authors and enthusiasts of travel stories published online?

I haven’t read that book, but I totally disagree with that mindset! On the contrary, I find the members of this forum who create travel journals really interesting. I admit I don’t always have time to read everything, but some are very well done. And I even prefer everyday travelers’ stories over those of great writers—there’s more spontaneity and authenticity in them.

The traveler, washed out by grandiose images and magical encounters, has only one idea in mind: to pelt us with anecdotes, life lessons, and ideals. They’ll paint the most beautiful and distant Edens… the traveler has an inexhaustible pharmacy. But nothing is prepared to immunize us against travel stories.

Well, you can tell this Matthias guy he’s a pretentious idiot—or maybe he’s doing it on purpose.
GN Gnome Veteran ·
"Are we bores with our travel stories?" In my opinion, the answer is YES in 95% of cases!

In *The Art of Boring People by Telling Your Travel Stories*, Matthias Debureaux offers every self-respecting "exploraseur" a series of invaluable rules to follow to maintain their status. The exploraseur is this new kind of globetrotter who emerged with the recent democratization of travel and who absolutely cannot stand being called a tourist—because the exploraseur doesn’t *do* tourism, they *travel*!

From this little introduction, we discover a series of tips, each funnier than the last, for sharing your travels with loved ones while subtly belittling them for their dull, sedentary lives. Along the way, this lets us recognize friends, colleagues, family—or even ourselves!

Here are a few excerpts in the form of a guide to telling your travel stories like a true exploraseur:

« Don’t say "I spent two months in India," but rather "I lived ten and a half weeks in India." »

« Choose real people and small jobs that perpetuate centuries-old traditions (taiga hermits, Khumbu sherpas, yak herders) while pretending to believe that bailiffs and insurance agents don’t exist on the other side of the world. Mention the joy of the Dropka shepherds on the high plateaus, the patience of the ear cleaners in Mumbai, or the radiance of the fruit vendor in Phnom Penh—but never the helpfulness of the clerk who exchanged your traveler’s checks. »

If you want to describe a capital: « Declare your passion for the fascinating blend of tradition and modernity. It’s a handy argument since few capitals escape this rule. »

The author also provides a few phrases to casually sprinkle into conversations upon your return—or in the now-inescapable travel blog—like: « Over there, everything makes sense, » or « It’s a city that carries within it the sense of the inevitable, which fuels passion, » or even « Its topography reflects our intimate space. »

This book is a little gem that every "traveler" should consult regularly to avoid falling into "explorasoir" mode. Of course, to appreciate it, you’ll need to accept self-reflection and tolerate criticism. Fans of self-deprecating humor will love it. Be careful, though—giving this book as a gift is a bit tricky, and if someone gives it to *you*, you might want to ask yourself why!

It’s no longer in print, but you can still find it easily secondhand (and at very reasonable prices) on traditional book-selling websites.
DJ Djalma Globetrotter ·
hi,

"Are we bores with our travel stories?" In my opinion, the answer is YES in 95% of cases!

I agree with Gnome 95%! In the sense that, apart from a few exceptions (I’ve found some on this forum), travel stories don’t interest me.
MA Mathews Globetrotter ·
The "exploraseur" is this new kind of globetrotter who emerged with the recent democratization of travel and absolutely cannot stand being called a tourist… because the exploraseur doesn’t *do* tourism, they *travel*!

Okay, but with travel becoming so accessible, aren’t you and I full-fledged "exploraseurs" too?

I think this mentality—full of snobbery and labeling people—is very French...
GN Gnome Veteran ·
Okay, but with the democratization of travel, aren’t you and I just "explorabores" through and through?

It’s highly likely (even if I try not to be too much of one)! 🙂

I think it’s a very French mentality, full of snobbery, to label people and put them in boxes...

You’re probably right. That said, this doesn’t apply to this little book I’m recommending—it’s really funny and not at all snobbish or pretentious. It’s just a guy who’s traveled a lot and mostly pokes fun at himself and (gently) at people who show off a bit (or a lot) when sharing their vacations.
PÉ PélicanBrun Veteran ·
Hello

A provocative statement, sure, but isn’t the person telling their travel story mostly doing it for themselves? Just to relive the experience and enjoy it again? At friendly gatherings or with family, we sometimes have to endure the enthusiast… without necessarily sharing their passion for the destination!

All of this is both true and false at the same time! 😉 It really depends on your audience! 😏

The quote: "It takes all kinds to make a world" really hits the mark in this discussion, in my opinion!

Some people (even when, I’ll point out, they could afford to do otherwise) are made to:

"be born, live, and die" practically in the same place!

I guarantee you, these people are as deeply attached to their "roots" as centuries-old trees! In most cases, sharing your travel stories with this group is a lost cause—they don’t even understand the meaning of the word "travel"! You’d quickly become an "Expert-Bore" if you insisted on going down that road!

Then there are the perpetual nomads, like the thousands you’ll find on this forum! Belonging to the "same world" as yours, they’re much more likely to be captivated by your stories!

Between these two "extremes", it’s not a total void! There are still people who love to travel "in spirit" rather than "in body"! Those folks might still be interested in your tales!

Actually, this isn’t unique to the "world of travel"! It’s more about the "world of enthusiasts" in general!!! The truly passionate (whether it’s travel, photography, cars, politics, sports, gardening, etc.) can quickly become a "bore" to "others" in any field when carried away by their excitement! 😉

Personally, I figured this out a long time ago and only go into detail about my passions (travel being one of them, of course!) with people who share them!!! 😉😉😉

Cheers,

PS: Given my motto, it goes without saying that I absolutely hate the opening line this author chose for one of their texts:

"A pain in the neck who, like Ulysses, had a great journey" 😠😠😠

To be brutally honest, it doesn’t exactly make me want to read their book—it might just seem a bit "boring" to me!!!!!!!!!!!
IS Isayaya ·
Living vicariously through travel—it’s so great! I don’t get to go away often enough—lack of time, money, health issues, and all that... so... what a joy to be able to dive into other people’s stories and travel the world that way. Some are great, some are "dull," but it’s up to each of us to pick what we like. Thanks to all of you who had a wonderful trip and took the time—or found the joy—in sharing it.
FR Freepouilles Regular ·
Hello, I find this topic interesting, as I’m a big traveler myself, and I realize I rarely talk about my trips. Except to people who are curious and ask me lots of questions. I’ve often had funny experiences meeting someone who’s "done" a certain country—usually on an organized tour—and they start telling me their stories, which are often full of clichés, like: "The vendor gives you a price, you immediately halve it, then you pretend to walk away, they call you back, and the price drops even more, etc..." Or: "You see over there, they have nothing, but they offer you everything. I admire that generosity of heart—nothing like Western countries, where individualism reigns, etc..." If they ever ask which countries I’ve "done" and I start listing my travels, they jump in to talk about another country they’ve "done," and off they go again, without ever really listening to me. I often try to find a way out because, yes, most "travelers" are pretty dull. The coolest ones are those who don’t flaunt their knowledge but share interesting anecdotes over the course of the conversation, always in the spirit of exchange.

Small clarification: for me, a trip only really begins after a month, when you start to disconnect from the realities of your home country. The best is when you’re no longer tied to France at all—no apartment or job.

That’s all. Cheers, Guillaume
KR Kristen1 Globetrotter ·
Guillaume I totally agree with you. People who talk about their vacations are boring 95% of the time. I don’t like talking about my trips unless someone asks me a specific question. It’s even worse if they invite me to watch a video of their vacation 🙂

Another thing that happens to me a lot in France when people ask where I live (California) is that they want to tell me every detail of their trip when they did the "American West." It’s the same with Americans—if I say I lived in Paris, I get all the details of their 3 or 4 days in Paris... or worse, the problems they had with Air France!

Kristen
JE Jemaflor Veteran ·
Good points in your post about travel memories... it's true that travelers generally enjoy sharing their "adventures" more than listening to others'...

Another observation, but one that’s already been made in one of the travel journals posted on VF... Often, the people who seem interested are travelers who’ve been to the country—they relive their memories while reading the story and get to revisit their trip a little... whereas the author of the journal might prefer to introduce the destination to those who haven’t been yet!
JE Jemaflor Veteran ·
Thanks for your contribution ... I’ve only read an excerpt of this book and don’t own the full work ... I feel like it’s a shame! With all the other remarks you mention, the whole book seems really interesting, full of humor and irony ... You’re making me want to read it in full ;)
JE Jemaflor Veteran ·
It's true that the text is very provocative... it's meant to be humorous! It's also true that the phrase "Boring like Ulysses..." might shock some people... but I have to admit it made me smile 😉

On the other hand, opinions vary—some appreciate the author's irony, others not at all...

In the end, as we can see from all these posts in this discussion, the debate is open... and that’s the real value of this forum and this topic!
MÉ Mékong Globetrotter ·
hi

He probably didn’t know about VF—maybe he would’ve changed his mind 😊. I mean, back in 2005, the forum was only 3 years old...
JE Jeddhai Regular ·
We might also wonder if 'travelers' (well, some or many of them) don’t have a more developed 'ego' than others, one that swells with each trip or country they've "done" ("doing" a country—what a strange expression, and such a reflection of consumerist society...).

Unless it’s their greed that grows from always wanting to go somewhere else, and their dissatisfaction with staying where they are, even for a moment, and just being content.

Of course, there’s the saying: travel improves the wise and makes fools worse, but not everyone who wants to be "wise" can be...

And when a traveler has the audacity to call themselves a "great traveler," I think they haven’t yet become a true traveler—someone who travels as naturally as they breathe and doesn’t feel the need to recount their "accomplished travels," but simply does so 😉
CL Cleastre Veteran ·
No need to worry on your account...

Your travel journal is a real success... ...what am I saying... A truly beautiful exception 😉
2E 2et2font4 ·
One might also wonder if 'travelers' (well, some or a good number of them) don't have a more developed 'ego' than others, which swells as they rack up their travels or countries "done" (doing a country—what a strange expression, and a reflection of consumerist society, really...) Unless it's their greed that grows from always going elsewhere, and their dissatisfaction with staying where they are, at any given moment, and being content there. Of course, there's the saying: travel improves the wise and worsens fools, but not everyone who wants to be is 'wise'... And when a traveler has the pretension to call themselves a "great traveler," I think they haven't yet become a true traveler—simply put, someone who travels like they breathe and doesn't need to recount their "accomplished travels," but just does it. 😉

Couldn't have said it better myself! Completely agree. "Boring like Ulysses..." works for me, and like freepouille and kristen, I end up keeping it all to myself unless someone asks, of course—but I try to keep it short in general.
JE Jeddhai Regular ·
No need to worry on your account...

Your travel journal is a real success.... ...what am I saying.... A truly beautiful exception 😉

One day here, tomorrow somewhere else, but the past is gone and the future isn’t here yet! Only the present exists... Those who leave (in my opinion) don’t leave more of a trace than a bird’s flight—they pass like the world, before everything fades... Nothing in our pockets, everything in our minds. Life itself is a journey that’s lived in the present or not at all ; )
CL Cleastre Veteran ·
Good evening,

The present, like travel, is just an isolated act in a play... Without the journeys that came before or the surprises yet to come, it’s completely devoid of story... But that’s another topic 😉...

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