Do you ever feel jaded when you travel?
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I find myself feeling more and more jaded when I travel these days. Boredom sets in. I’m not saying I don’t like boredom, but long-term... So, I end up thinking traveling doesn’t really make much sense anymore. Do you ever feel this way?

Nat
LU Lucbertrand Globetrotter ·
First, there’s the aging of the body—we’re not all equal in that regard, but you’re only 55, which is young. Physical and mental fitness fluctuate; some people feel old at 40, while others at 80 are still crossing the globe. The mountaineer Cassin led a climb at 78 on one of the most difficult high-mountain routes he’d opened decades earlier.

Maybe it’s time to change how you travel. I took the liberty of reading what you’ve written about yourself—hitchhiking across Canada four times. Was that before? Do you travel more conventionally now—hotels, stays in places designed for Western tourists, ticking off famous sites where you run into crowds, then returning to your lodging for the night, all set up for Western comfort? Big dinners, massive breakfasts—it can all get old.

Personally, I travel partly that way with my wife because I love making her happy and being with her, but that style of travel actually "drives me up the wall" for a lot of reasons.

I also often set off with my bike or on foot through mountains or harsh, deserted landscapes for long stretches (and absolutely not because I lack the funds). That’s a whole different kind of travel—you won’t be visiting Iguazu Falls, for example. I’ve been to Argentina twice and still haven’t seen them. You’re in a different mindset: self-sufficiency, sleeping outdoors, different kinds of interactions with the people you meet—though let’s not kid ourselves, we’re still tourists. You might even end up needing help from people who live on next to nothing. Obviously, don’t take advantage, and it’s up to you how to compensate them, since they’ll often refuse money if it’s offered too bluntly.

Of course, this requires some basic gear that costs money to stay within "humanly bearable" limits for well-fed folks like us. Between the bike and everything else for real autonomy at a manageable weight—even in tough climates—roughly 3500 € will equip you to take on almost anywhere in the world while living independently. Bike travel doesn’t require incredible fitness or insane training. I travel by bike but barely cycle otherwise. Some people struggle to understand that and call me a fraud. But I know plenty of bike travelers who hardly ever ride outside of trips. In fact, I’ve found that highly trained people can sometimes hold up worse than someone who’s a bit out of shape after a month of "hard" travel (though not all trips are like that)—you end up losing weight.

When you start a trip, listen to your body, and it adapts quickly. After a few days, you’ll naturally increase your daily distance, even if you start with just 30 or 40 km a day—something anyone can do with a decent bike, especially if you get into the habit of setting off early, even at sunrise. As I mentioned, pay attention to your body, stay hydrated ("always pee clear"), and you’ll quickly realize that two big servings of rice or pasta a day are enough—and you won’t get tired of it. You’ll feel your body regenerating.

And without meaning to be rude—since we don’t talk about age, especially with women—but 55 is young. I’ll share two photos of Brigitte, but I know others like her. She’s well into her sixties and still cycling around the world, often solo, through rough places like the great deserts, including the Atacama in South America, which she’s crossed twice solo. Solo female bike travel in remote areas is a big debate, and yes, you need a sharp instinct, but it’s a touchy subject on VF, especially coming from a man—I’ve been called out before. Women like Brigitte have a sixth sense, but you don’t have to go solo right away, at least not at first.

Maybe it’s time for a shift in how you travel and your life philosophy. France is the perfect lab for sharpening your "wild" living skills—every kind of terrain invites you to try it.

This is just my take based on your question. But to be clear, I don’t have anything against any way of traveling—not even luxury cruises to Antarctica, since they’re allowed. For personal reasons, though, it’s not my thing, even if someone offered it to me for free.

In short, bike travel has let me see the world from a different angle, even in super touristy places like Laos, where I’ve gone two weeks at a time without seeing another Westerner. But I don’t have anything against my fellow travelers!

Two photos of a solo desert-crosser who once told me during a trip together, "Luc, I’m going to teach you how to travel with savages." She said it all.





Luc
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
Hi Luc,

It’s true that the trips where I felt truly "alive" were the ones I took in Canada—because it was a real adventure. I got around by hitchhiking, and I was even invited to stay by the very people who picked me up. But I was in my forties then. I don’t feel like doing that anymore. It’s true that my recent trips have been pretty predictable. Accommodation, hiring a driver... everything was so well-organized. Beyond the fact that the adventure has faded, I’ve been wondering for a while now whether to keep traveling far away or just stay in France.

Thanks for adding the photos. I can see you’re a real cycling enthusiast.
JU Junolu Regular ·
Hi Nathalie, No, I’m not jaded yet! I feel like there’s still so much to see and, most importantly, so many people to meet before I even think about... the last trip. 😉 I read the message Luc sent you. Personally, I couldn’t follow his advice—my age and current health wouldn’t allow it. But I believe you can still travel enjoyably and have a great time with a different approach. There’s no age limit for showing curiosity (you can learn your whole life) and kindness somewhere other than home. I’d love to go with a friend to explore medicinal plants in Latin America. And take the opportunity to share some of the knowledge I have.

Sorry, I have to cut this conversation short—my battery’s dead. We’ll pick it up later when I’m back.
LO Louisane Regular ·
Maybe it’s just a sign that your priorities have changed. There was a time in my life when I didn’t feel like traveling anymore—no destination interested me. And the few that did motivate me, I couldn’t or no longer could go to because they were in red zones. During that period, I only did trips on foot, alone in France, with nothing planned in advance. I started with the Camino de Santiago all the way to the end in Spain for two months, and then other trails followed. And just like that, my love for travel came back the same way it had left...
TI Ticapi Globetrotter ·
Hi Nathalie,

More and more often, I feel jaded when I travel. Boredom sets in. I’m not saying I don’t like boredom, but in the long run... So, I end up thinking that traveling doesn’t really make much sense anymore.

Maybe try changing the way you travel...

Take public transport instead of a car. Go camping (wild camping) instead of staying in a hotel. Try an active vacation. Visit places that are off the beaten path and/or give you a real adrenaline rush (wild, remote spots).

Do you ever feel this way?

Luckily, not so far. But I’m hyperactive during vacations, and if my days weren’t packed, I’d probably get bored.

Carmen
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
Hi Christiane.

I hope you get to take this trip through Latin America, combining travel with your passion for medicinal plants.
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
Yes, Louisiana. I think for some time now, my attraction to far-off travels has made me question myself. I don’t feel that same urge to go away anymore. So now I’m picturing myself exploring France instead, but it feels a bit like giving up—like only trips abroad are really worth it. I’m still not totally sure about this. But I see you live in the Hautes-Alpes. That’s exactly where I’m hoping to go next year.
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
hi Carmen

I don’t think changing how I travel will solve the problem. It’s more about a lack of motivation. I feel like it doesn’t inspire me anymore
LO Louisane Regular ·
Actually, the Oisans is in Isère, on the border of the Hautes-Alpes. 😉
EN Envallis Globetrotter ·
It’s interesting to read that quite a few responses attribute this to age... Maybe...

I can’t get jaded as long as I see the wonder in my kids’ eyes when they look at lush rice fields, coral lagoons, Buddhist temples, herds of dromedaries, towering skyscrapers, or even just a street stall 🙂

But maybe that’ll change when they’re no longer traveling with us and we’ve all checked off our dreams of faraway places (I’ve still got 10 or 15 years ahead of me 😉). Will I still feel like exploring the world, or will I just want to settle down in a cozy Breton hideaway? No sé...😕 (though I think there’s already part of the answer if I’m asking myself this question today...)
MI MirandaMouse Globetrotter ·
Hi there!

For now, I’m not "jaded"—though I’ll admit that after traveling so much in Europe (aside from Morocco and Istanbul, I haven’t left the continent yet), I’m less "amazed" because some countries do feel a bit samey. But that doesn’t stop me from enjoying it!

I just imagine an Asian traveler who’s never set foot in Europe would be blown away by their first trip—first churches and all. It’s that "newness" effect.

But it doesn’t really bother me. In fact, I even go back to the same places regularly—go figure! !
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
hi Michael

Maybe an age thing? I also wonder if there’s a connection between leaving the city for the countryside. I’m more in tune with nature now and maybe don’t feel the same need to go far away, preferring France instead.
LE Lecoeurestun Veteran ·
Hi Miranda.

Yes, we can get used to anything, even the most stunning landscapes (based on our own standards). I once knew someone who lived on the wild coast of Le Croisic (Loire-Atlantique)—a dream spot for me. But for decades now, he hadn’t gone for walks anymore. "I’m tired of it," he’d say.

I also read that tourists visiting Florence would faint from the sheer overload of beauty Florence holds (its churches, in particular).
LO Louisane Regular ·
Maybe the trip just wasn’t a deep desire? Because you can be really happy where you live and still want to discover something else. I live in the mountains, I love hiking, skiing, and my region, but I really want to explore other mountains around the world, the great outdoors, and deserts. But right now, for example, I’m happy to stay in my region and I don’t miss traveling at all. That’s the advantage of living in a place you love.
TI Ticapi Globetrotter ·
That’s the upside of living in a place you love.

I agree with you, and I think we’re really lucky. Long-haul trips probably aren’t in the cards for a while. 😕
MI MirandaMouse Globetrotter ·
You can love your hometown and still want to discover something new—I don’t think those are incompatible.

Just to clarify, I mostly visit European cities for practical reasons (mostly air travel), so I was talking more about architecture than landscapes.

For example, there are strong similarities among Central European cities, so if you visit Prague—which is stunning—you might be less dazzled by the rest.

That said, there are plenty of reasons to visit cities, and I don’t expect the same things from each one.

The most beautiful cities are often *very* (too) touristy, and you might prefer the vibe elsewhere, etc.

One of my favorite cities is Madrid—it’s not the most beautiful, but I keep going back because I feel good there.

I sometimes wonder how it’ll be when I’ve seen almost everything in Europe, but I’m not there yet, and by then...
DJ Djalma Globetrotter ·
It’s interesting to read that quite a few answers link this to age... Maybe...

Age definitely plays a part in it. For my part, I’m not jaded, but I’m certainly less motivated than I was at 25.

I can’t get jaded as long as I see the wonder in my kids’ eyes when they look at lush rice fields, coral lagoons, Buddhist temples, herds of camels, towering skyscrapers, or even just a street stall.

I went through that family-travel phase, which I really enjoyed, though it wasn’t quite like the adventurous trips of my younger years. It was already a bit more touristy, but still completely free—no planning, no reservations—and I was still lucky enough to take solo trips in the "offbeat discoveries" style, far from civilization... Then came my trekking phase, which was already more "structured," with permits and sometimes mandatory guides...

Of course, with age, it gets harder to go off the beaten path. You start looking for a minimum of comfort, worrying about your health, thinking about safety... And then globalization and mass tourism arrived, bringing more or less direct consequences like pollution in the countryside, rivers, and marine environments... trash everywhere... concrete along the coast and tourist resorts, ugly corrugated iron replacing palm and wood on the roofs of houses where there used to be nothing but white sand, coral, and basic huts... Landscapes are disfigured everywhere, cities have become unbearable, and guides are omnipresent at every street corner, offering their "canned" tours from a catalog, with hordes of tourists snapping a photo every 20 seconds while checking their smartphones! All of this has really dulled my taste for traveling "far from civilization."

I almost forgot: Now there’s the virus to deal with! I might be reckless, but I’m not afraid of the virus. What I *can’t* stand is the idea of being locked up for 15 days for quarantine, having to wear a mask on the plane and everywhere else, being subject to a bunch of health rules... No thanks, not for me.

Here in my hamlet in the Vercors, I didn’t really experience lockdown, and nature is all around me. I’m happy that it gives me so much joy—climbing peaks, discovering scialets, caves, and grottos, canyons and ravines with torrents teeming with trout and crayfish, and, as a bonus, deer, ibex, and chamois that aren’t hunted.
CA Cambrousse Globetrotter ·
I think it’s completely normal not to spend your life at the same pace, with the same desires, etc... If long-term travel starts to wear you out, you’ve got to ask yourself what new desire is starting to sprout inside you. Since we’re not talking about obligations here, but leisure and freedom, you should turn toward something else that brings you joy. The taste for travel will come back—or it won’t—or it’ll come back in a different way. Travel isn’t the only thing that can fill a life with pleasure.
DJ Djalma Globetrotter ·
If long-term travel is starting to wear you down, you’ve got to ask yourself what new desire is beginning to sprout inside.

It’s so true, but it’s not always easy to question yourself or move in a new direction...

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