Alors si pour vous aussi il n'a pas toujours ete facile de concilier vie de couple et voyage, je suis à l'écoute de vos experiences.... On ne vit qu'une seule fois et je suis convaincue qu'il faut avoir le courage de vivre ce pour quoi on pense être fait...malgré la solitude....
L'importance de partager la passion du voyage dans un couple?
by Zingarabohem
This discussion is in French, the community’s main language.
Original post
Nouvelle dans la communauté, je vous fait part de mon questionnement....
Apres 5 merveilleuses années en couple, je décide de me séparer d'un homme formidable mais trop de différences...
Etant jeune, ma passion du voyage me dévore, je l'ai déjà beaucoup assouvie (professeur des écoles l'année, j'encadre des séjours à l'étranger itinérant durant les vacances scolaires et voyages persos) mais à 25 ans mon envie de découverte est débordante et j'ai envie de la partager et non plus de la faire subir à mon copain qui souffre depuis le temps de mes absences régulières....
Alors si pour vous aussi il n'a pas toujours ete facile de concilier vie de couple et voyage, je suis à l'écoute de vos experiences.... On ne vit qu'une seule fois et je suis convaincue qu'il faut avoir le courage de vivre ce pour quoi on pense être fait...malgré la solitude....
Alors si pour vous aussi il n'a pas toujours ete facile de concilier vie de couple et voyage, je suis à l'écoute de vos experiences.... On ne vit qu'une seule fois et je suis convaincue qu'il faut avoir le courage de vivre ce pour quoi on pense être fait...malgré la solitude....
Je vais être très brève: je n'aurais jamais pu partager ma vie avec un homme qui n'aimait pas voyager 😉
Faby
J'ai eu in conjoint ainsi
c'est vraiment démoralisant !!!!
faut penser ...à soi !!!
bonjour
l'importance de partager TOUT ou presque , sinon inévitablement avec les années , il y en a un ou une ( et c'est souvent une ) qui devient aigris 🤪 ou qui pars 😏 .
ne pas se faire d'illusion , un pantouflard restera toujours 1 pantouflard et il en a le droit ...mais ça use et il n'y a rien à faire , on ne change pas les gens .
tu es encore jeune n'attends pas !
bon voyage
francia
le mérite d'un homme réside dans sa connaissance et dans ses actes et non point dans la couleur de sa peau ou de sa religion!
Khalil Gibran
Merci pour vos réponses, ça fait du bien de voir que mon avis est partagé....
On se rend compte en grandissant (ou vieillissant!) de ce qui vraiment compte pour soi et j'ai compris que maintenant j'attendrai avant de me "caser" de pouvoir partager cette passion!En espérant y arriver!
Bons voyages à vous pour 2012!
Bons voyages à vous pour 2012!
j'ai compris que maintenant j'attendrai avant de me "caser" de pouvoir partager cette passion!En espérant y arriver!
Mets une annonce sur VF ! 😏 😏 😏 PS: c'était pour rire 😉
Suerte dans tes recherches & bons voyages à toi aussi ! 🙂
Mets une annonce sur VF ! 😏 😏 😏 PS: c'était pour rire 😉
Suerte dans tes recherches & bons voyages à toi aussi ! 🙂
Faby
😉 Si un jour je désespère j'irai faire un tour du côté de la rubrique compagnons de voyage lol!
Merci!
Salut,
les voyages, c'est super, génial, magnifique .. on voit tout plein de belles choses, on apprend tout plein de truc, sur la vie, sur soi, sur les gens, sur les cultures, .. mais comparé à l'amour, je parle du vrai, les voyages ne constituent plus qu'une miette de pain .. .. l'amour, c'est tellement grand, fou, MAGIQUE, beau, doux, rigolo, mignon .. bref, je suis limité par ma pauvre plume .. mais l'amour, c'est magnifique .. c'est LA PLUS BELLE CHOSE au monde sans hésitation !!..
et puis tu sais, il y a 2 choses qui faut à tout prix éviter dans la vie : la misère , et la solitude. Etre seul, il y a rien de pire .. manger le soir seul face à sa télé, je t'assure, c'est triste .. si tu penses avoir trouver l'homme qu'il te faut, fonce ! et fonde un foyer avec cet homme la ! il est peut être un peu pantouflard, mais si vous partagez les mêmes valeurs, alors le fait que tu souhaites voyager et lui non reste un détail.. c'est comme si toi, tu aimes faire la cuisine, et pas lui .. vous trouverez une solution car votre couple repose sur des valeurs , .. le respect de l'autre, prendre sur soi, l’honnêteté ..
une dernière chose : l'homme est une moitié (tout comme la femme), pour que l'homme se réalise complètement, il faut qu'il est son autre moitié .. autrement, toute sa vie, il aura un manque ..
ha oui une toute dernière chose : les voyages, ca reste matériel, .. c'est comme du chocolat, si je t'en donne toute de suite, tu vas me dire "c'est bon merci", et si le lendemain je te dis , " alors ce chocolat?" tu vas me répondre "oui ba c'ETAIT bon .. mais mnt, je m'en fou .." alors, que si tu satisfais un besoin propre à l'homme (comme l'amour ..), tous les jours tu sera heureuse .. en gros, au retour de ton super voyage , il restera que des bon souvenirs .. mais ca sera passé .. bref .. :)
ce n'est que mon avis bien évidemment :) !
bonne route !
les voyages, c'est super, génial, magnifique .. on voit tout plein de belles choses, on apprend tout plein de truc, sur la vie, sur soi, sur les gens, sur les cultures, .. mais comparé à l'amour, je parle du vrai, les voyages ne constituent plus qu'une miette de pain .. .. l'amour, c'est tellement grand, fou, MAGIQUE, beau, doux, rigolo, mignon .. bref, je suis limité par ma pauvre plume .. mais l'amour, c'est magnifique .. c'est LA PLUS BELLE CHOSE au monde sans hésitation !!..
et puis tu sais, il y a 2 choses qui faut à tout prix éviter dans la vie : la misère , et la solitude. Etre seul, il y a rien de pire .. manger le soir seul face à sa télé, je t'assure, c'est triste .. si tu penses avoir trouver l'homme qu'il te faut, fonce ! et fonde un foyer avec cet homme la ! il est peut être un peu pantouflard, mais si vous partagez les mêmes valeurs, alors le fait que tu souhaites voyager et lui non reste un détail.. c'est comme si toi, tu aimes faire la cuisine, et pas lui .. vous trouverez une solution car votre couple repose sur des valeurs , .. le respect de l'autre, prendre sur soi, l’honnêteté ..
une dernière chose : l'homme est une moitié (tout comme la femme), pour que l'homme se réalise complètement, il faut qu'il est son autre moitié .. autrement, toute sa vie, il aura un manque ..
ha oui une toute dernière chose : les voyages, ca reste matériel, .. c'est comme du chocolat, si je t'en donne toute de suite, tu vas me dire "c'est bon merci", et si le lendemain je te dis , " alors ce chocolat?" tu vas me répondre "oui ba c'ETAIT bon .. mais mnt, je m'en fou .." alors, que si tu satisfais un besoin propre à l'homme (comme l'amour ..), tous les jours tu sera heureuse .. en gros, au retour de ton super voyage , il restera que des bon souvenirs .. mais ca sera passé .. bref .. :)
ce n'est que mon avis bien évidemment :) !
bonne route !
bonjour
oui , c'est très beau l'AMOUR , encore faut-il que ça dure , qu'on le fasse durer !
mais s'il n'y a pas un minimum d'échanges et de partages , si l'un fait des concessions et l'autre pas ...et bien tu restes quelques années , tu élèves les gamins ...et tu te bars !😉
ou tu restes et tu deviens aigrie !🏴☠️
mais tout est choix dans la vie et on ne peux choisir pour personnes !
bon choix à tous et surtout bons voyages .
francia
le mérite d'un homme réside dans sa connaissance et dans ses actes et non point dans la couleur de sa peau ou de sa religion!
Khalil Gibran
ha oui une toute dernière chose : les voyages, ca reste matériel, .. c'est comme du chocolat, si je t'en donne toute de suite, tu vas me dire "c'est bon merci", et si le lendemain je te dis , " alors ce chocolat?" tu vas me répondre "oui ba c'ETAIT bon .. mais mnt, je m'en fou .." alors, que si tu satisfais un besoin propre à l'homme (comme l'amour ..), tous les jours tu sera heureuse .. en gros, au retour de ton super voyage , il restera que des bon souvenirs .. mais ca sera passé .. bref .. :)
Pas du tout d'accord avec ça... les expériences et la richesse que t'apporte chaque voyage restent profondément encrés en toi toute ta vie 🙂 ça peut même changer ta façon d'être, de percevoir le monde lorsque tu reviens chez toi.
Certains ont vu leur vie boulversée au retour d'un long voyage.
Et d'ailleurs le chocolat aussi il reste, sur ton ventre ou sur tes cuisses ! 😏 😛 😄
Pas du tout d'accord avec ça... les expériences et la richesse que t'apporte chaque voyage restent profondément encrés en toi toute ta vie 🙂 ça peut même changer ta façon d'être, de percevoir le monde lorsque tu reviens chez toi.
Certains ont vu leur vie boulversée au retour d'un long voyage.
Et d'ailleurs le chocolat aussi il reste, sur ton ventre ou sur tes cuisses ! 😏 😛 😄
Faby
Oui, tu as raison, il est vrai quun voyage peut te faire grandir, changer de manière de voir les choses, te découvrir, te connaitre, .. tu marques 1 point voir 2 :) !
mais , si jms tu penses avoir trouver l'amour, ne le laches pas pour un voyage, car le plus beau voyage, c'est le voyage du coeur :) ..
mais , si jms tu penses avoir trouver l'amour, ne le laches pas pour un voyage, car le plus beau voyage, c'est le voyage du coeur :) ..
Allô
si tu penses avoir trouvé l'amour!!!!
Bien il attendra ton retour de voyage 😏
salut,
partir oui mais pour quoi et pour aller chercher quoi? A partir de cette amorce de questions tu peux partir seul ou pas. Cela va dépendre avant tout de ta finalité. Ceci dit certes mieux vaut partir seul que mal accompagné, mais mieux vaut partir à deux et bien accompagné que seul.En effet pendant le voyage un cerveau plus un cerveau ne fait que rarement deux mais souvent plusieurs cerveaux. Cela permet également à l'un d'être acteur d'un fait, d'une rencontre, etc etc... pendant que l'autre reste observateur de celui, ceux ci. La vigilance reste le maitre mot du voyageur, à deux l'un tient ce rôle, pendant que l'autre peut se permettre d'être un peu moins sur le qui-vive.
fred
Je partage ton sentiment, m'étant trouvée face au meme questionnement que toi... Meme si l'alchimie dans un couple peut reposer sur des choses très diverses, le partage de passions communes est important et permet l'épanouissement de chacun - sans quoi la frustration prend vite le dessus... Donc si le voyage et l'envie d'ailleurs sont prépondérants pour toi (comme pour beaucoup sur ce forum ;) fais-toi plaisir et profites-en! Le reste suivra :)
Les voyages sont par nature éphémères, comme toutes choses
L'amour n'existe pas, ou en tous cas n'est qu'une illusion, éphémère aussi, basé sur l'égoiste désir d'être avec un(e) seul(e); Quand ce désir est réciproque, beaucoup l'appellent "amour", quand il ne l'est pas, et bien... on reste seul, ou on part seul !
Personnellement, je préfère vivre mes rêves, même si je dois être seul, plutot qu'être avec quelqu'un qui ne veut pas me suivre ou m'accompagner (dans le voyage de la vie, comme en voyage)
Cela dit, si tu crois pouvoir trouver "la bonne personne" et continuer les voyages, c'est une chance qu'il faut essayer de saisir, car certains n'ont ni l'un ni l'autre
Personnellement, je préfère vivre mes rêves, même si je dois être seul, plutot qu'être avec quelqu'un qui ne veut pas me suivre ou m'accompagner (dans le voyage de la vie, comme en voyage)
Cela dit, si tu crois pouvoir trouver "la bonne personne" et continuer les voyages, c'est une chance qu'il faut essayer de saisir, car certains n'ont ni l'un ni l'autre
En fait toute la difficulté de cette question est: à quel moment cet absence de partage en arrive à tuer à petit feu ton couple...?
Cet amour effectivement est l'essence même de la vie...mais quand tu l'as et que les concessions ont ete faites mais ne fonctionnent pas car l'autre a deja beaucoup pris sur lui pour te laisser partir seule ou venir avec toi (et dans mon cas je parle de plus d'une dizaine de fois en 5 ans) et que toi tu ne te sens pas de t'arrêter car tu ne te sentirais plus toi même...tu remets tout en question... Pourquoi un tel besoin de voyage?et lui se dit si elle m'aimait vraiment elle resterait avec moi...Pourtant non, tu as juste besoin d'être toi même et de profiter de la vie d'une manière qui est essentielle pour toi...et pourtant tu sens que tu perds l'essentiel qui est l'amour...mais tu te dis tu peux pas imposer un choix de vie à celui que t'aime et qui en souffre... Alors tu essaie de faire un choix...le mien est fait mon compagnon accepte cette separation en se disant qu'il ne pourra alheureusement pas me changer....et moi je vais essayer de me reconstruire en vivant des experiences à travers cette planète. A 25 ans, tu oses peut être plus être toi même...même si tu souffres de perdre celui que tu aimes profondément pour ce qu'il est et non plus pour ce qu'il peut t'offrir....
J'ai déjà 4 beaux voyages qui m'attendent pour 2012 grace à mon métier je ne dis pas que je serai pleinement heureuse, sans l'amour, mais au moins j'essaie de me donner les moyens de m'épanouir....
Merci à tous...
Cet amour effectivement est l'essence même de la vie...mais quand tu l'as et que les concessions ont ete faites mais ne fonctionnent pas car l'autre a deja beaucoup pris sur lui pour te laisser partir seule ou venir avec toi (et dans mon cas je parle de plus d'une dizaine de fois en 5 ans) et que toi tu ne te sens pas de t'arrêter car tu ne te sentirais plus toi même...tu remets tout en question... Pourquoi un tel besoin de voyage?et lui se dit si elle m'aimait vraiment elle resterait avec moi...Pourtant non, tu as juste besoin d'être toi même et de profiter de la vie d'une manière qui est essentielle pour toi...et pourtant tu sens que tu perds l'essentiel qui est l'amour...mais tu te dis tu peux pas imposer un choix de vie à celui que t'aime et qui en souffre... Alors tu essaie de faire un choix...le mien est fait mon compagnon accepte cette separation en se disant qu'il ne pourra alheureusement pas me changer....et moi je vais essayer de me reconstruire en vivant des experiences à travers cette planète. A 25 ans, tu oses peut être plus être toi même...même si tu souffres de perdre celui que tu aimes profondément pour ce qu'il est et non plus pour ce qu'il peut t'offrir....
J'ai déjà 4 beaux voyages qui m'attendent pour 2012 grace à mon métier je ne dis pas que je serai pleinement heureuse, sans l'amour, mais au moins j'essaie de me donner les moyens de m'épanouir....
Merci à tous...
et puis tu sais, il y a 2 choses qui faut à tout prix éviter dans la vie : la misère , et la solitude. Etre seul, il y a rien de pire .. manger le soir seul face à sa télé, je t'assure, c'est triste .. si tu penses avoir trouver l'homme qu'il te faut, fonce ! et fonde un foyer avec cet homme la !
L'un n'exclut pas l'autre!! On peut ne pas vivre en couple sans pour cela passer toutes ses soirées seul devant la télé!... Heureusement.. Pour le reste ton discours ressemble à un prêchi prêcha de pasteur du 19 ieme siècle! Vivre sa PROPRE vie , ce qui nous correspond vraiment c'est ça vraiment vivre! cela peut passer par la vie de couple ( très souvent) mais aussi en dehors..
L'un n'exclut pas l'autre!! On peut ne pas vivre en couple sans pour cela passer toutes ses soirées seul devant la télé!... Heureusement.. Pour le reste ton discours ressemble à un prêchi prêcha de pasteur du 19 ieme siècle! Vivre sa PROPRE vie , ce qui nous correspond vraiment c'est ça vraiment vivre! cela peut passer par la vie de couple ( très souvent) mais aussi en dehors..
bonjour
jacko 91 , n'a que 23 ans , laissons le rêver ...comme nous rêvions certainement au même age !
il vaut mieux manger seule devant sa télé en regardant une émission qui nous plait , que faire bobonne pour 1 mec qui hurle devant son match de foot 😉
bon voyage
francia
le mérite d'un homme réside dans sa connaissance et dans ses actes et non point dans la couleur de sa peau ou de sa religion!
Khalil Gibran
MMMoué , .. toujours est il que je suis convaincu que l'homme est "fait" pour vivre en couple, et fonder un foyer ! Vivre sa propre vie, bien évidemment, mais passer a coté de l'amour, c'est passé a coté de sa vie..
Aujourd'hui, il est vrai que c'est devenu (trop?) compliqué.. plus personne veut faire des sacrifices, plus personne veut faire d'effort, .. tout est porté sur le matériel .. .. c'est clair qu'au 21ème siècle, il est difficile de parler du VRAI amour ..
Alors, on s'auto convainc qu'on est "comme ca, comme ci" et qu'en fait, que l'homme peut très bien vivre sans amour .. et avoir des passions comme tout le monde et vivre ... c'est un peu, selon moi, une dérive de notre société .. "je voyage, je mange bien, je travaille, j'ai une belle voiture, une grosse montre, j'ai des amis => je kiff ma vie" .. c'est faux, archi faux!
On a TOUS besoin de BEAUCOUP d'AMOUR , car on a tous un gros coeur, .. après plusieurs échecs, c'est clair qu'on commence a penser que tout ca c'est des conneries, des "rêves de gosses " .. pas du tout ..
mon message est drôle lol quand je me relis, bref, .. chacun son point de vue .. mais quand mon coeur bat pour quelqu'un , moi, je me sens exister, vivre .. pas quand je regarde une montagne de 10 000 mètres .. :) !
Aujourd'hui, il est vrai que c'est devenu (trop?) compliqué.. plus personne veut faire des sacrifices, plus personne veut faire d'effort, .. tout est porté sur le matériel .. .. c'est clair qu'au 21ème siècle, il est difficile de parler du VRAI amour ..
Alors, on s'auto convainc qu'on est "comme ca, comme ci" et qu'en fait, que l'homme peut très bien vivre sans amour .. et avoir des passions comme tout le monde et vivre ... c'est un peu, selon moi, une dérive de notre société .. "je voyage, je mange bien, je travaille, j'ai une belle voiture, une grosse montre, j'ai des amis => je kiff ma vie" .. c'est faux, archi faux!
On a TOUS besoin de BEAUCOUP d'AMOUR , car on a tous un gros coeur, .. après plusieurs échecs, c'est clair qu'on commence a penser que tout ca c'est des conneries, des "rêves de gosses " .. pas du tout ..
mon message est drôle lol quand je me relis, bref, .. chacun son point de vue .. mais quand mon coeur bat pour quelqu'un , moi, je me sens exister, vivre .. pas quand je regarde une montagne de 10 000 mètres .. :) !
Tout n'est pas si simple..lorsqu'on vit sa vie pleinement on passe rarement à côté de l'amour.. Mais lorsqu'on cherche "l'amour" on peut passer à côté de la vie..
En tous cas je suis entièrement d'accord avec la dernière phrase de Zingarabohem
"Et la mer et l'amour ont l'amer pour partage,
Et la mer est amère, et l'amour est amer,
L'on s'abîme en l'amour aussi bien qu'en la mer,
Car la mer et l'amour ne sont point sans orage.
Celui qui craint les eaux qu'il demeure au rivage, Celui qui craint les maux qu'on souffre pour aimer, Qu'il ne se laisse pas à l'amour enflammer, Et tous deux ils seront sans hasard de naufrage.
La mère de l'amour eut la mer pour berceau, Le feu sort de l'amour, sa mère sort de l'eau, Mais l'eau contre ce feu ne peut fournir des armes.
Si l'eau pouvait éteindre un brasier amoureux, Ton amour qui me brûle est si fort douloureux, Que j'eusse éteint son feu de la mer de mes larmes."
Pierre de marbeuf (1596-1645)
Celui qui craint les eaux qu'il demeure au rivage, Celui qui craint les maux qu'on souffre pour aimer, Qu'il ne se laisse pas à l'amour enflammer, Et tous deux ils seront sans hasard de naufrage.
La mère de l'amour eut la mer pour berceau, Le feu sort de l'amour, sa mère sort de l'eau, Mais l'eau contre ce feu ne peut fournir des armes.
Si l'eau pouvait éteindre un brasier amoureux, Ton amour qui me brûle est si fort douloureux, Que j'eusse éteint son feu de la mer de mes larmes."
Pierre de marbeuf (1596-1645)
Alors tu essaie de faire un choix...le mien est fait mon compagnon accepte cette separation en se disant qu'il ne pourra alheureusement pas me changer....et moi je vais essayer de me reconstruire en vivant des experiences à travers cette planète.
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Vous voudriez au ciel bleu croire Je le connais ce sentiment J’y crois aussi moi par moments Comme l’alouette au miroir
J’y crois parfois je vous l’avoue A n’en pas croire mes oreilles Ah je suis bien votre pareil Ah je suis bien pareil à vous
….
C’est un rêve modeste et fou Il aurait mieux valu le taire Vous me mettrez avec en terre Comme une étoile au fond d’un trou
Louis Aragon, J’entends, j’entends.
DeCléricy
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Vous voudriez au ciel bleu croire Je le connais ce sentiment J’y crois aussi moi par moments Comme l’alouette au miroir
J’y crois parfois je vous l’avoue A n’en pas croire mes oreilles Ah je suis bien votre pareil Ah je suis bien pareil à vous
….
C’est un rêve modeste et fou Il aurait mieux valu le taire Vous me mettrez avec en terre Comme une étoile au fond d’un trou
Louis Aragon, J’entends, j’entends.
DeCléricy
J’en appelle à vous ô Muses
Où tant ma vie passe et s’use
Qu’encore et toujours j’aime
Mes soeurs Galère et Bohème
En voyage comme en amour, tout est question de "sensation" mon cher Arthur !
"Par les soirs bleus d'été, j'irai dans les sentiers, Picoté par les blés, fouler l'herbe menue : Rêveur, j'en sentirai la fraîcheur à mes pieds. Je laisserai le vent baigner ma tête nue.
Je ne parlerai pas, je ne penserai rien : Mais l'amour infini me montera dans l'âme, Et j'irai loin, bien loin, comme un bohémien, Par la Nature, - heureux comme avec une femme."
"Par les soirs bleus d'été, j'irai dans les sentiers, Picoté par les blés, fouler l'herbe menue : Rêveur, j'en sentirai la fraîcheur à mes pieds. Je laisserai le vent baigner ma tête nue.
Je ne parlerai pas, je ne penserai rien : Mais l'amour infini me montera dans l'âme, Et j'irai loin, bien loin, comme un bohémien, Par la Nature, - heureux comme avec une femme."
les expériences et la richesse que t'apporte chaque voyage restent profondément encrés en toi toute ta vie 🙂
Les voyages, ça tache, tout autant que le chocolat 🙂
Les voyages, ça tache, tout autant que le chocolat 🙂
Qui veut chasser une migraine n'a qu'à boire toujours du bon
Ah le pouvoir de la poésie...!
De beaux arguments pour défendre les deux causes....
bonsoir
la poésie réuni les 2 causes , l'Amour et l'Amour des voyages ne sont pas incompatibles !
j'ai rencontré mon 2 eme mari en voyage ...😉
donc , bons voyages à toi et belles rencontres en 2012 😏
francia
le mérite d'un homme réside dans sa connaissance et dans ses actes et non point dans la couleur de sa peau ou de sa religion!
Khalil Gibran
Exactement Francia, réunir les deux causes!
Merci et tres bonne continuation à toi....
C'est bien beau l'amour, je te le concède je dirais même indispensable. La vie de couple ne devrait cependant pas être un empêchement à l'épanouissement personnel.
La vie de couple ne devrait pas être un empêchement à des activités individuelles. Je croix qu'il est même souhaitable que chacun ait quelques activités en dehors du couple. Comme nous sommes tous différents les uns des autres, les couples qui sont aussi tous différents, aussi devons nous avoir un certain respect pour toutes ces différences et en tenir compte lorsque nous faisons nos choix.
Zingarabohem
Je me suis retrouvée dans la description que tu as faite de toi, j'ai été en couple la plupart du temps avec des hommes qui ne partageaient pas ma passion du voyage et ca a rejaillit de façon direct ou pas sur mon couple.
Je ne peux que t'encourager a etre ambitieuse a vouloir a la fois l'amour et le voyage....
En ce qui me concerne j'ai aussi choisi de rompre avec l'homme avec qui j'etais depuis 3 ans j'ai voyagé durant 3 années dans divers pays ca a été magique, même s'il est vrai que souvent je me suis dis c'est une aventure que j'aimerai vivre a deux... Mais je n'ai jamais regretté le choix de la rupture encore moins maintenant puisque j'ai trouvé l'amour, au bout de 6 mois de relation nous avons pris la décision de faire un tour du monde ensemble, alors que pour ma part je n'etais jamais parti en vacance en couple de ma vie.... Bref j'ai toujours eu ce vieux reve de tour du monde en me disant que celui que j'embarquerai dans ma valise serait "le bon", ca a l'air bien parti ca fait 2 ans que nous sommes ensemble et partageons notre passion du voyage...
Bonjour,
J'ai 55 ans et vis en couple depuis bientôt 22 ans avec un homme que j'aime et admire.
Je pense que nous n'avons pas besoin de partager tout pour vivre ensemble.
Bien sûr, il faut une "base" commune , un projet de vie commun , pour nous c'est : vivre à la campagne, l'amour de la nature, et la photo.
Mais même cette "base", nous la vivons différemment, chacun avec notre personnalité, nos sensibilités.
Mon compagnon a une approche scientifique de la nature, il l'étudie , cherche à apprendre, bref, c'est un naturaliste averti !
Moi, je recherche plus les sensations, mon approche est plus intuitive.
Il fait de la photo macro ou au télé; moi les paysages et des reportages.
Chaque année, il part pendant une dizaine de jours en voyage avec d'autres ornithologues, et je le laisse partir sans moi car ces voyages sont axés uniquement sur l'ornithologie.
Tous les deux ans, nous partons ensemble en montagne, avec un groupe de botanistes. là, j'y vais aussi car je peux y trouver mon compte ! Pendant qu'ils s'extasient , à 4 pattes, devant une petite plante, je pars à la découverte d'un glacier ou d'un torrent...
Nous partons aussi régulièrement rien que nous deux, nous dormons dans notre petite berlingo, mangeons "sur le pouce", nous lavons dans les ruisseaux...
Nous passons nos journées en pleine nature, mais souvent chacun de notre côté car nous n'avons pas le même rythme, lui faisant du "300 mètres à l'heure", observant tout sur son passage, moi me grisant de paysages.
Nous nous retrouvons le soir, chacun heureux de ses découvertes !
Je crois que vouloir à tout prix vivre en symbiose totale est un leurre !
Il est primordial que chacun puisse vivre ses propres passions...
Se retrouver dans des moments partagés ensemble mais savoir aussi se donner (et donner à l'autre) la liberté de se réaliser ...
Cordulie
Bonjour
on peut concilier vie de couple et "voyage" je suis marié , avec son premier mari ma femme a vécu et travaillé en Australie et en Nelle Calédonie .......Maintenant elle n'aime plus bouger, elle aspire à la tranquillité et physiquement est très diminuée, on fait des petits sauts de puce avec la caravane avec tout le confort et à son rythme.....
De mon côté J'ai la bougeotte et je pars de temps en temps tout seul en moto avec la tente ou autre , d'ici 2 ans je retourne en Nlle Calédonie seul cette fois pour une durée de 2 mois sans que ça pose problème ....je ne pense pas qu'il ait de règles établies en la matière
Vivre à 2 ne signifie pas vivre enchaînés !
On ne tient pas son compagnon en laisse...
Je ne comprends pas pourquoi il faut nécessairement choisir entre l'amour OU le voyage.
La jeune femme qui avait créé ce post, il y a presque 1 an, disait "devoir" se séparer d'un homme fantastique, qu'elle aimait depuis 5 ans, parce qu'il n'aimait pas voyager.
J'avoue ne pas avoir compris...
Il semble que c'est elle qui voulait prendre la décision de cette séparation.
Et lui ? Qu'en pensait-il ?
Cela lui posait-il un problème que sa compagne voyage sans lui ?
Bien sûr, s'il s'agissait d'un choix imposé, "les voyages OU moi", là c'est clair !
Un homme aurait voulu m'imposer de choisir entre une chose qui me tient à coeur et lui, ça aurait été "bye bye"...
Par contre, tant que je suis libre, de le faire, avec ou sans lui, je ne trouve pas que c'est un problème insurmontable.
Dès qu'il y a relation entre deux personnes, il y a négociations, concessions, discussions, recherche d'un terrain d'entente !
Ou alors on vit tout seul !
Ce qui entraine d'autres problèmes, d'autres sources de frustrations...
J'ai déjà vécu seule, je peux donc comparer.
Je me sens beaucoup, beaucoup plus libre maintenant, en vivant avec mon compagnon, que lorsque je vivais seule !
Libre car libérée du poids du manque d'amour...
L'amour n'est pas "un tout" dans une vie !
Je l'ai, je peux enfin "passer à autre chose" .
C'est-à-dire tâcher de me réaliser...
Cordulie
Bonjour Cordulie
je suis bien d'accord avec votre façon de voir les choses !
j'ai 14 ans de moins que mon épouse et si des concessions ne sont pas faites des 2 côtés le couple n'est plus viable.......
sur l'année nous faisons des projets de sorties communs , par exemple l'an prochain nous retournons en Galice tous les 2 tranquilles et ensuite je m'octroie 1 ou 2 petites sorties souvent pour aller voir des festivals de musique ou visiter des sites historiques et je marche pas mal ce que ma femme ne peut plus faire hélas
et dans la vie de tous les jours c'est pareil il n'y a rien de pire que d'être collés 24/24 surtout quand les 2 sont en retraite, c'est mon point de vue , il faut que chacun ait son espace de liberté
Je ne pense que se soit possible de vivre ensemble sans avoir un minimum un goût du voyage partagé.
Les deux personnes souffrent. Celui qui part, part seul, celui qui reste, reste seul... ils ne partagent rien ! comment peuvent-ils vivre comme ça ?
Je n'ai pas dit qu'il ne fallait pas un minimum de goûts communs, qu'ils soient voyages ou autres.
Bien sûr que si on ne partage rien, ce n'est pas tenable, à quoi sert alors de vivre ensemble ?
J'ai juste dit qu'il n'était ni nécessaire, ni réaliste de vouloir tout partager...
Donc, avoir des activités communes, mais se ménager aussi des plages de liberté...
Cordulie
Tu as bien raison. J habite à auron tu connais? Je suis allé de Grenoble au Cameroun puis en Égypte a vélo. 3 ans au Tibet 10 fois au Népal.tombuctu Katmandou Manaus. Rio etc etc le Nevada. Continue de voyager.surtout à ton âge....
Je rejoins complètement votre point de vue... L'essentiel à partager avec son compagnon/sa compagne, c'est l'amour... Lorsque l'amour est là, on trouve toujours des concessions, et des manières de s'arrnager pour que les deux soient heureux.
Je suis bien plus voyageuse que mon compagnon, et après un TDM de un an, écourté de son côté, nous avons failli nous séparer. Et puis, nous avons pensé à tout ce que nous aurions perdu... Si le voyage parfois nous sépare, beaucoup de choses aussi nous rapprochent, et font que nous séparer aurait sans doute été une erreur. Le fait de limiter ses voyages parce que l'on est en couple n'est qu'une vision de l'esprit, une contrainte qu'on se met nous-même à cause d'un certain regard de la société... mais comme le disait l'un des intervenants un peu plus haut, il y a autant de points de vue et de possibilités que de couples... Alors pourquoi ne pas tout concilier, l'amour ensemble et les voyages, parfois ensemble, parfois séparément ? Je parle là bien sûr du cas où les deux aiment bien voyager, mais pas au même degré... Si mon ami avait juste détesté quitter son canapé, là ça n'aurait pas été possible... mais je ne serais sans doute pas tombée amoureuse non plus ;-)
Bon voyages à tous en tout cas :-)
Bon voyages à tous en tout cas :-)
"La liberté existe toujours, il suffit d'en payer le prix" - H. de Montherland
Mon blog tour du monde 2011-2012, devenu blog voyages, puis de nouveau blog tour du monde en 2016, puis blog de mon installation à la Réunion : www.smilingaroundtheworld.com
Mon blog tour du monde 2011-2012, devenu blog voyages, puis de nouveau blog tour du monde en 2016, puis blog de mon installation à la Réunion : www.smilingaroundtheworld.com
Personnellement je suis toujours sortie avec des hommes qui partagent ma passion pour le voyage, et la seule fois où cela n'a pas été le cas la relation n'a pas trop marché...
Est ce uniquement à cause de cela ? Je ne pense pas, je pense que notre relation n'a pas marché parce qu'il ne manifestait tout simplement aucun signe d'intérêt envers ma passion. Pour moi, c'était normal qu'il s'intéresse à ce que j'aime sans forcément avoir envie de me suivre : qu'il me demande de me raconter ou me soutienne dans mes projets. Parce que c'était quelque chose que je faisais pour lui.
Ma femme adore voyager également mais j'ai une collègue de boulot qui m'envie. Je lui parle de voyage, elle a les yeux qui pétille, elle répète "quelle chance!" et elle ne peut pas bouger. Pas de souci financier mais de conjoint qui ne veut pas plus de 3h de route ou de voyage... Elle rêve du Mont-Saint-Michel! Impossible! Ses vacances sont toutes à la maison car elle ne peut bouger. Même pas de vacances à la mer. Les enfants sont ravis... Elle en parle comme d'un dégoût. Ce couple tient mais l'évocation des vacances est toujours un moment assez dur pour elle. Finalement, elle ne voyage plus et le regrette!
Mais le couple tient!
Mais le couple tient!
Hakuna Matata!
Ils ont sans doute d'autres partages ?
Elle pourrait aussi, de temps en temps, partir seule; si elle ne le fait pas, il me semble que l'alibi du mari qui ne veut pas voyager est faux.
A moins qu'il ne l'empêche carrément de partir seule, ou avec une amie ?
Moi, je rêve de découvrir Rome , mon compagnon n'aime pas les villes, même en hiver.
Il viendrait bien, "pour me faire plaisir"; mais je préfère y aller ou seule ou avec une amie qui appréciera plus que lui.
Je suis en train d'économiser pour y aller, car Rome c'est très cher !
Vivre avec des regrets, je trouve ça triste et dommage...
Cordulie
Elle rêve du Mont-Saint-Michel et elle peut pas y aller ?
Encore un voyage aux States ou en Australie je peux comprendre mais là, c'est hard !
Elle doit vraiment en souffrir et vivre avec des regrets c'est la pire chose.
J'ai pris le Mont Saint-Michel exprès car c'est "proche"! Certains rêvent d'Australie mais ne le peuvent pour d'autres raisons €€€€€😕
Hakuna Matata!
Wahouuuu! Intense cette discussion!
Et bien... Je me suis moi même posé la question. Et je peux vous dire que rien ne me rend plus heureuse que le fait que mon copain toujours pleins d'idées de voyages dans la tete! Cela fait a peine 1 an que nous sommes ensemble et nous sommes deja parti: en Serbie, en Italie, en Angleterre... Et pas mal de vadrouilles dans toute la France (et c'est loin d'etre fini! Prochain objectifs: la Pologne et la Slovénie ^^)
Bien sur qu'il ne faut pas etre colé! MAIS, voyager avec son amoureux permet de tout apprendre de lui! Savoir quels reactions il peut avoir, si il est plutot motiver pour la decouverte ou plutot motivé que pour les sorties du soir...
Certe nous partageons la meme passion: la nature! Mais je prend mes photos de mon coté et il observe du sien. J'ai l'impression aue l'on se complete! Voyager avec son copain permet de vivre pleinement un moment avec lui dans l'inconnu ce qui diffère du quotidien ou les amis, la cohabitation, le travail et tralala rentre en compte! Bien sur le must c'est que tout marche bien: et en voyage et au quotidien (ce qui est mon cas pour l'instand! héhé)
Bref tout ca pour dire que je suis dac que le voyage est une passion qu'il faut partager! Non aux mecs pantouflards! Au bout d'un moment on pète un cable!
Bonne soirée a tous ;)
Et bien... Je me suis moi même posé la question. Et je peux vous dire que rien ne me rend plus heureuse que le fait que mon copain toujours pleins d'idées de voyages dans la tete! Cela fait a peine 1 an que nous sommes ensemble et nous sommes deja parti: en Serbie, en Italie, en Angleterre... Et pas mal de vadrouilles dans toute la France (et c'est loin d'etre fini! Prochain objectifs: la Pologne et la Slovénie ^^)
Bien sur qu'il ne faut pas etre colé! MAIS, voyager avec son amoureux permet de tout apprendre de lui! Savoir quels reactions il peut avoir, si il est plutot motiver pour la decouverte ou plutot motivé que pour les sorties du soir...
Certe nous partageons la meme passion: la nature! Mais je prend mes photos de mon coté et il observe du sien. J'ai l'impression aue l'on se complete! Voyager avec son copain permet de vivre pleinement un moment avec lui dans l'inconnu ce qui diffère du quotidien ou les amis, la cohabitation, le travail et tralala rentre en compte! Bien sur le must c'est que tout marche bien: et en voyage et au quotidien (ce qui est mon cas pour l'instand! héhé)
Bref tout ca pour dire que je suis dac que le voyage est une passion qu'il faut partager! Non aux mecs pantouflards! Au bout d'un moment on pète un cable!
Bonne soirée a tous ;)
l amour est un tres belle chose mais vivre ses passions ne laisse pas beaucoup de place a l amour du couple dans les normes et la banalite de tous ceux qui nous entoure rare sont les couples qui vivent les memes envie que ce soit dans le sport la culture les voyages preuve en est le nombre de divorce il est bon d avoir quelqu un dans sa vie mais pas dans sa maison dans un couple l un s adapte a l autre le mene et le menant nous ne sommes plus fait pour vivre ensemble
apprenons a ne plus vivre ensemble et faisons de bon voyage pour rencontrer ceux qui aiment le voyage
bonjour,
quelques reflexions
- d'abord est ce que l on est obligé de tout partager? - dans un couple on reste aussi un individu a moins que l on ne conçoive le couple que sur un mode fusionnel - on peut aussi faire quelques concessions - voyager c'est partir mais on ne part pas de soi, on ne se fuit pas. On promene a travers le monde sa problématique meme si les echanges et les decouvertes ainsi que les experiences vous font évoluer.
bon courage pour votre couple si vous avez envie de continuer.
cordialement huacha
quelques reflexions
- d'abord est ce que l on est obligé de tout partager? - dans un couple on reste aussi un individu a moins que l on ne conçoive le couple que sur un mode fusionnel - on peut aussi faire quelques concessions - voyager c'est partir mais on ne part pas de soi, on ne se fuit pas. On promene a travers le monde sa problématique meme si les echanges et les decouvertes ainsi que les experiences vous font évoluer.
bon courage pour votre couple si vous avez envie de continuer.
cordialement huacha
huacha
Un voyage, c'est quand même quelques semaines par an, alors que le reste du temps, chacun travaille de son côté. Je ne m'imagine donc pas partir sans mon conjoint, bien que certains le fassent. Je suis plutôt l'initiateur. Mon épouse a toujours des réticences, des craintes sur les destinations, mais je réussis presque toujours à la convaincre (le plus dur a été pour l'Inde). Elle participe pleinement (surtout logistique). Et au retour, elle est plutôt satisfaite. Dire que le voyage consolide un couple face aux difficultés sur place : pas toujours, nous avons aussi connu de graves crises. Heureusement, on se retrouve après, on fait des concessions mutuellement, et on continue de voyager chaque année depuis maintenant plus de 20 ans !
La vie est un défi quotidien
nous sommes partis avec ma compagne il y a deux an en voiture depuis pau jusqu en afrique du sud en passant par la corne de l afrique cinq mois dans le couple je suis l instigateur ce voyage sans problemes a pese sur son moral elle n a pas voulu repartir en mai vers les balkans ou j etais seul deux mois pas vraiment seul on vient facilement vers quelqu un de seul et moi seul je parlais facilement avec les gens
nous partons dans une semaine vers l ouest de l afrique avec pour destination madagascar avec ma compagne qui na pas voulu me laisser partir seul peu etre une solution pour faire bouger celui des deux qui n en n a pas envie
bon voyage
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Hello everyone on this forum!
I know in advance that what I'm about to say here won't please everyone, but honesty is a virtue, isn't it?
Here's the thing: for many years now, I've noticed a habit in French-speaking posts of using abbreviations left and right, as if to show that we're "in the know." Let me explain with a few examples:
- - In discussions about Peru, I see "Aguas" for "Aguas Calientes." And if it's Mexico, well, it'll be "Aguas" for "Aguascalientes"!
- - For Guatemala, "travelers" will say "Guaté." Come on, saying "Guatemalas" would maybe be the undeniable sign that you know nothing about the country???
- - Back from Indonesia, many will talk about how familiar they've become with the country's language: "bahasa." Of course, everyone will know what you're talking about, but it still gets on my nerves because the language (one of the many languages) of Indonesia is "bahasa Indonesia." "Bahasa" actually means "language," and you'll find this word of Indian origin ‘Bhāṣā’ (it's Sanskrit originally) outside Indonesia too: in Thailand, for example, any language will be "phasa" as in "phasa thai" (official Thai), "phasa isan" (what's spoken in northeastern Thailand), "phasa angkrit" = English, etc.
Am I an incorrigible nitpicker? Maybe. But I'd also find it ridiculous if a foreigner came and told me they visited "Monte" during their trip to France, when it was actually Monte Carlo.
I read a lot in English and don't think I've encountered such a habit among English speakers.
Hi everyone,
Who’d like to share their best and worst travel memories in a few lines? For me, it’s watching the TAJ MAHAL at sunrise and getting chased by dogs at the top of a mountain pass in GREECE on the way back from ISTANBUL. THANKS GUYS
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Good evening everyone,
This is my 15,000th post, and it's a message I would have preferred never to write.
Patrick—Yangguizi—won’t be returning from his trek in Uganda. His health betrayed him in the mountains.
Like many of you, I laughed until I couldn’t anymore at his travel stories. I met him in Shanghai, then in Istanbul... We scoured restaurants—he was an incredible expert on world cuisines. We relived Korea, China. Always brilliant, so sharp, so funny, so down-to-earth. Being even a little bit his friend was something to be proud of. I think I envied him.
Patrick is still out there, of course... He found his happiness running across the world. He’s on his path. He never doubted that "the traveler doesn’t even know if he’ll return one day."
Not sure this would’ve suited him, but his departure devastates me.
Alright, Farewell, you foreign devil. Safe travels.
Michel
This is my 15,000th post, and it's a message I would have preferred never to write.
Patrick—Yangguizi—won’t be returning from his trek in Uganda. His health betrayed him in the mountains.
Like many of you, I laughed until I couldn’t anymore at his travel stories. I met him in Shanghai, then in Istanbul... We scoured restaurants—he was an incredible expert on world cuisines. We relived Korea, China. Always brilliant, so sharp, so funny, so down-to-earth. Being even a little bit his friend was something to be proud of. I think I envied him.
Patrick is still out there, of course... He found his happiness running across the world. He’s on his path. He never doubted that "the traveler doesn’t even know if he’ll return one day."
Not sure this would’ve suited him, but his departure devastates me.
Alright, Farewell, you foreign devil. Safe travels.
Michel
hello to all travelers with their eyes wide open to the desert...
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
I’ve always wondered what I was "doing" on this earth. And why my father, who died a few months after I was born—a former youngest French resistance fighter—joined the First Saharan Motorized Company in Atar and spent the rest of his life repairing army engines in Algeria, Mauritania, Senegal, Mali (which didn’t exist under that name back then), Morocco, and finally Algeria, where my mother was born and raised. (Believe me, it’s not "cool" being the child of a soldier in a country occupied by France, and even less so the child of a "pied-noir.") Of course, I never got an answer: the dead don’t talk, and the army doesn’t either. But here’s the thing—I had photos... So naturally, one day I hit the road. I wanted to see, to understand. It’s thanks to VF that I was able to do a little research on crossing the Morocco-Mauritania border, and I’m grateful to its members, just as I’m grateful to all those who welcomed me on the road for 14 years. For the past few weeks, I’ve been wondering if I should talk about this or not... It turns out the Mauritanians changed my life by asking for my help... And that started as early as February 2012... (Did I owe them something? No answer to that question.) Ah, the irony—they saw me coming. But when you’re handed sick children and begged to do something, what would you have done? I’d worked in a hospital, so I knew a bit about the rules to follow. I didn’t hesitate. And well, over all these years, I met doctors, surgeons, and together we organized care, evacuations of children, training for surgeons—even trying to stop children from having to travel outside their country. It was never easy. I’d like to thank those who supported us, as well as *La Chaîne de l’Espoir*, *La Fondation Face au Monde*, and everyone who built bridges between our two countries. Unfortunately, despite the constant efforts of Mauritanian doctors and surgeons, some children couldn’t be helped in time. Today, I want to talk about four siblings—orphans of their mother—suffering from congenital glaucoma causing irreversible blindness. Their case was entrusted to me in 2020, just weeks before the big lockdown. We couldn’t do anything for them then, but when their father asked me for a gift, I rushed to my computer and wrote a story. Through a tale, the children take a great journey, explore their country, and fulfill a dream. I never thought this book would be published—it was, in 2023. This book pays tribute to Mauritania. It’s a message for those who know nothing about the hardships of life there, carrying both the harshness and beauty of an immense desert where you can travel by 4x4, bike, on foot, or by camel in complete safety. It bears witness to the kindness of Mauritanians toward travelers. As a woman traveling alone in my vehicle—a now-rusted old Mercedes that no longer runs—I had the most beautiful encounters of my life there (I’ve seen other parts of the world...). The blind children of Choum, Atar, Nouadhibou, and Nouakchott will forever be in my heart. Volunteer readers transcribed the book into a free audio version for the visually impaired. It’s available in sound libraries in France, the *Fondation Valentin Haüy*, and the Swiss Romande library. I made my last trip to Mauritania in my old 4x4 to distribute the book everywhere, especially to its heroes and the school for the visually impaired in Nouakchott. After that, I thought it was time to close the chapter because I no longer have the means or the strength to travel. My publishers chose this title for it: *The Blue Eyes of the Desert*. This publication helped a mission of Swiss volunteer ophthalmologists come to operate on glaucomas in Mauritania. I’m thrilled because they come back every year! This adventure is ending, yes—everything must come to an end—but ultimately, it was born here, on the VF site!! So yes, I had to say it: THANK YOU!!!!!
Hi everyone,
I’m Loulou, a French expat who’s been living in Southeast Asia for about fifteen years, currently in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. A passionate walker at heart, I’ve trekked in Nepal (Thorung La, Mardi Himal), India, Vietnam, and I’m still planning new hikes (Char Dham, Langtang, Annapurna).
I’ve just published my first travel journal, recounting three months of walking and encounters across India. A portion of the sales goes to an educational center I support in Kep, for children whose parents work in the salt marshes.
I’m also working on a second book about Nepal with a musician friend, focusing on the Mardi Himal trek—two independent perspectives on the same journey.
Happy to swap stories with you about the Himalayas, India, Southeast Asia, or just the urge to hit the road and walk far from home.
Safe travels,
Loulou
Hi! It was totally by chance that I stumbled upon VoyageForum (an ad online and a story lol), and I’ve been reading some really old posts from 2011 about Thai massage schools—discussions on how to get by, accommodation, prices, etc. It reminded me of my own experience: I kept things simple by staying with a local family during my entire trip. I only shared all the expenses with them, which, I’ll admit, was super cheap… and I often traveled with them, which naturally opened a lot of doors for me. To start, at the school in Salaya, my Thai friend immediately connected me with Teacher Phong (the school’s mentor and teacher of teachers, a former monk). I was supposed to join a group session with other foreigners, but for some reason I don’t know, I got two days of private lessons for free with this expert… incredible! And on top of that, he loved France! It was an amazing experience. I "discovered" massage by chance—the Thai family just told me: "Try it, you’ll see!" (I’d had a pretty intense massage in the capital before 😅… but the next day, I felt unbelievably great!))
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
Every morning, I’d take a taxi (chosen by the Thai family at prices that beat all the competition) to this school—I’ve forgotten the name of the little village now… right in the heart of the countryside. Then, in the evenings, I’d keep practicing massage on all the family members… and they’d teach me Thai at the same time!))
Since then, I’ve practiced a bit, with lots of positive feedback. Following Teacher Phong’s advice—he thought my pressure was deep, firm, and precise—he strongly encouraged me to take this seriously.
I love Thailand so much. It’s a whole different way of living… and it’s a real blessing, even if I couldn’t live there full-time. Anyway, that was an unforgettable memory, and sometimes the Thai family and I still say hi—from 2011, 2013… right up to today!
Take care, everyone! !
"It seems to me that poverty would be less painful in the sun" wrote Aznavour...
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Not sure...😕 Who can prove that people in hot countries are happier than others? What do you think?
Is it better to live in Montpellier than in Lille? Are the Pygmies happier than the Inuit? Are Canadians less happy than the people of Louisiana? Are there more French expats in hot countries?
And your travels? Do you choose your destinations based on the climate? Do you rejoice when a bit of sunshine appears?
Hi everyone, just this once I’m not posting for a travel story, but to share a thought for Venezuela.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
If you didn’t know—since it’s not making headlines—the country was hit by two 7.5-magnitude earthquakes last week. Over 2,200 people have died, more than 50,000 are missing, and some coastal towns have been completely destroyed. Maybe when the scale of the humanitarian crisis becomes clear, our media will cover it a bit more... especially since earthquakes with this many casualties usually make the front page, but there’s been nothing in France.
So here’s a thought for this country, which, whatever you think of its politics, is a true jewel of South America, both for its landscapes and its people.
hi there
I’d like to invite you to discover my coastal province in central Vietnam: Quang Ngai.
This year, my province has really improved its infrastructure—mountains, countryside, and sea are all authentic here.
No harassers or thieves, and no Russians either.
A local lunch costs around 1 €.
A *** hotel room is about 25 €, and you can find hotels right on My Khe Beach.
We have a specialty: *banh xeo*—10 crepes for just 1.5 €.
You can rent motorbikes to explore the province and maybe visit the many ethnic minorities.
I live here—I’m not selling anything, but I can help if needed (my father-in-law is a traditional Vietnamese doctor and he’s very skilled).
We're planning to spend a month in Vietnam. Is hiring a guide helpful?
Hi everyone! 😉
I’m Typhaine, 35 years old. Five years ago, I left France for a solo round-the-world trip—no planes, just a van, hitchhiking, cycling, and even a canoe in the Amazon! Today, I work as a naturalist guide in Argentine Patagonia.
Wherever I go, my compass stays the same: observing and photographing wildlife, which I deeply admire and respect.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
My project: I’d love to share this experience through a sustainable, authentic, and immersive nature tourism initiative. But to build something meaningful, I need to understand how other nature enthusiasts experience their own adventures.
If you:
Are over 20 years old
Have a true passion for Nature
Have already taken at least one trip lasting more than 3 nights (in your country or abroad) in your life
Then... would you have 5 to 7 minutes to help me by filling out this questionnaire? 🙂 »» https://forms.gle/y74ckkvN9TjrougLA
Promise: I’m not selling anything, this isn’t marketing. Your answers are 100% anonymous and will only help me shape this wild project. A huge thank you to everyone for your help and kindness! Looking forward to chatting in this thread 😛
(Dear admins, this is purely a collaborative effort for my project study, with no commercial purpose. Thank you so much for your support!)
Photo: Grizzly Bear (Ursus arctos horribilis), female on the left and her cub on the right. Photo taken by me in Alaska, Denali National Park.
Hello everyone,
It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

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It’s something we often notice in this forum—and many others—this behavioral shift.
A long-time member, or even a new one, asks a question. They get one or more answers, some brief, some detailed, and then... nothing???
Not even a simple thank you!!!
From what I’ve gathered, if the answers don’t align with what they wanted to hear, it seems natural for the asker to just disappear!! 😕 Unless—(and I fear this is the case)—basic politeness is no longer part of our society????
Please forgive my little rant.
Wishing everyone all the best. Cheers,
Puma2A

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I spent 3 weeks in Bali last summer (+ 3 nights on Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java). So I wanted to see what ChatGPT could suggest for comparison...
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Here’s the prompt I gave:
"You’re a local expert guide for Bali.
- Plan a 20-day itinerary for Bali with a side trip to Gili Meno and a day trip to Kawah Ijen in Java without staying overnight.
- I’m traveling with my wife, and I love visiting historical sites, hiking, relaxing at the beach, snorkeling, and exploring rice terraces...
- For the duration of the stay, I don’t want more than 8 places to sleep, and I’d like to stay at least 2 days at each stop to avoid unpacking too often. Except for the last night, where I’m okay with just one night near the airport.
- I prefer neighborhoods that are walkable and try to avoid typical tourist traps, though I don’t want to miss the must-see spots. So suggest a mix of iconic sites and hidden gems.
- Recommend hotels or guesthouses with a budget of 50 to 100 € per night, including breakfast. Make suggestions in areas popular with travelers, specifying the vibe (I prefer quiet), and consider safety and proximity to attractions.
- For lunch and dinner, suggest two to three restaurants that are well-rated by customers.
- Give me a day-by-day program with details on travel times, visiting times for each point of interest, and recommendations for transportation (taxi, train, bike, etc.). Estimate the total cost of the trip, including accommodations, food, transportation, and activities, and suggest two tips for saving money in each category.
- Don’t make anything up—be realistic about travel times, take into account the opening dates and hours of sites, and give me the entry fees for places to visit.
- Ask me all the questions until you’re 95% sure you understand what’s being asked. Don’t generate your response until you’ve understood."
The AI asked for a few clarifications:
"Great request—I can build you a really optimized and enjoyable itinerary, but to be 95% sure I hit the mark, I need a few key clarifications (this will really influence the pace, areas, and accommodations)."
In the end, it proposed a program very close to what we actually did. I’ll skip its accommodation and restaurant suggestions...
Its proposal:
"Ubud (4 nights) => we did 5 nights Sidemen (2 nights) Amed (3 nights) => we’d planned 2 nights Gili Meno (3 nights) => we did Gili between Sidemen and Amed Munduk (3 nights) => we did 2 nights before Pemuteran Pemuteran (3 nights) with Ijen => we did 4 nights Sanur (2 nights + 1 last night) => we chose Jatiluwih instead of Sanur
It suggested "activities" (and accommodations too):
IN UBUD: - Walk around central Ubud (1–2h) - Campuhan Ridge Walk - Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Tirta Empul - Gunung Kawi - Massage / market / slow café
IN SIDEMEN: - Rice terrace hike (2–3h) - Cooking class
IN AMED: - Snorkeling - Japanese Shipwreck - Beach + relaxation - Volcano sunset
ON GILI: - Snorkeling at Gili Meno Turtle Point, Nest Underwater Statues
IN MUNDUK: - Jungle & waterfall hike - Munduk Waterfall + Melanting Waterfall - Loop: 3–4h (perfect for your level) - Ulun Danu Bratan Temple - Twin Lakes
IN PEMUTERAN - Snorkeling: Menjangan Island
For Kawah Ijen, it detailed the day well: 👍 from Pemuteran = best possible option 12 PM: leave hotel (we left at 10 PM) 1 PM: ferry 3 PM: arrival in Java + transfer 11 PM: start ascent 2 AM–6 AM: volcano Return to Bali around 11 AM–12 PM (we got back at 4 PM) 👍 still very intense, but doable with an agency 💰 ~80–120 €/person all-inclusive
IN SANUR: - Relaxation - Quiet beach - Proximity to airport (30 min)"
BUDGET: "3,000 – 3,900 € for 2 people" (We paid 3,200 €)
In conclusion, it’s not (yet) enough, but it’s (already) pretty impressive!
Hello everyone,
I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’m sharing the menu posted at the entrance of a bar at the foot of the Porto Tower in Southern Corsica. . .
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.Greetings and have a great Sunday.
Puma2A . .

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I’ve kept the habit of blowing my nose in the sink and then washing my hands—a custom I picked up in India. Sometimes, non-travelers are shocked when they catch me in the act... 🤪
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
Also, when I run out of toilet paper, it doesn’t bother me—unless I’ve got company over... 🤪
Just got back from walking a friend’s dog (while they’re on vacation), wearing a djellaba and Tibetan boots... 😏😏😏 Oh, for sure, if I’d run into locals, I probably would’ve shocked them? 😏
Anyway, as long as I’m not spitting on the floor at a restaurant or squatting on the side of a highway with a water bottle in hand...
Do you bring back customs from your travels?
After taking a little trip around the world, I came back a few months ago with an idea in mind.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
I mostly do diving, and I love observing animals in their natural habitat without disturbing them.
During the trip, I realized it was quite complicated to know where and when to see certain species.
For example:
where to dive with sharks or manta rays where you might get a chance to swim with whales
I even discovered thresher sharks during my trip… I didn’t even know this species existed before, even though they’re incredible to see.
We spent a ton of time searching for info all over the place, especially on social media, without ever getting a clear picture.
So I started putting all this together on my own, in the form of a map, to make it easier to visualize where to go depending on the seasons.
I recently put a first version online (it’s called Fauneya). There are probably mistakes, inconsistencies, or things to improve, and that’s partly why I’m posting here.
I’d really love to know how you all go about planning this kind of trip.
As part of my Master’s thesis, I’m currently conducting a public survey on a topic that concerns all of us when planning a trip: artificial intelligence and the role of human contact in travel planning.
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
These days, we’re using more and more digital tools to find ideas, compare options, and book trips... but is the role of human advisors still essential? At what moments? And for what types of trips?
The survey is anonymous and takes about 7 minutes.
It’s aimed at anyone who travels (or has traveled) for leisure, whether you plan everything yourself or go through an agency.
Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdkmBzW2QOE3_ZirhmdG8e2LQyaWLJxWUeyTR0LzpC8ytlufQ/viewform
Your response will be a huge help for my work and will contribute to a broader reflection on the future of the travel experience.
Thanks in advance to everyone who takes the time to participate!!
While browsing the forum to gather info for my upcoming trip to Thailand, I often see the terms "traveler," "great traveler," and also "tourist"—so what’s the nuance for you?
I've traveled quite a bit in Vietnam over the past few years—from the southern delta to bustling cities and even some small islands—but what really sticks with me is the north, the high mountains.
Up there, there's something different—maybe slower, more raw. The morning markets with ethnic groups, women in traditional clothes, the colors...
The stilt houses, kids following you and laughing for no reason, the terraced rice fields—it almost feels unreal at times, so vast and quiet, yet so human and simple.
You often hear that Sapa has become too touristy, and that's partly true, especially in the center. But as soon as you move a little farther away, everything changes quickly. The landscapes open up, encounters feel more natural, and you rediscover something truly authentic.
I think it's that contrast that struck me—the difference between what you imagine before going and what you actually discover when you take the time.
And you—what memory do you hold onto from Vietnam? A particular place that touched you more than others?
Hello,
We’re finalizing the plans for our upcoming trip to China in May 2025. The second-to-last stop will be in Zhangjiajie, where we’ve planned to stay for 2 full days before heading to Shanghai.
We’re traveling solo using local transport and have arranged to stay in the city of Zhangjiajie.
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
We’ve seen that there’s a lot to see: Tianmen Mountain, the Grand Canyon and the glass bridge, Zhangjiajie National Park, and that the sites are quite far apart with fairly expensive entry fees. We’re thinking of dedicating one day to the national park and the Grand Canyon (glass bridge) and one day to Tianmen Mountain. But we’re not sure if this plan is realistic—any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Do you know if it’s possible to get around on our own, or is it better to go through a local agency or book a package like the one sold by TravelChinaGuide? https://www.travelchinaguide.com/package/zhangjiajie/2days-tour.htm
Thanks in advance for your advice! Alod
Hello 🙂
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
I should be serving a warming drink to the participants in the discussion about gardens and parks that provide us with beautiful photos, I could mention the delicious buttery scent wafting from bakeries in the thread about returning to France, but my heart, its powerful pulse that nourishes my entire being, is elsewhere.
Dasht-e Lut, Yazd, Esfahan, Bam, Kerman, Qeshm, Hormuz—a melody, a prayer at the heart of desire.
A dream, an unattainable fantasy? No. Not anymore. A very serious Italian travel agency is organizing this trip for 6 people this winter. I’m signed up, I’m going, I’m living. Maybe.
"But you’re completely crazy!!!!"
I know... I know that every civilization, every society has a vital need to create scapegoats to define and justify itself, pathetically. And Iran is one of them, top of the list. I laugh or sigh, and it doesn’t bother me.
But that unchanging red, deep red and garnet, so beautiful in itself, in all the Western chancelleries repeats, whispers, shouts: don’t go, don’t go, don’t go, you’re putting yourself in danger and we can’t do anything for you. You’ll be turned into mere bargaining chips, into arguments for endless negotiations. Fear must be instilled, its power absolutely preserved, no concessions made to the enemy. The information (how many French hostages, real or fake, compared to the number of travelers?) is always lacking.
Traveling becomes a merciless confrontation between desire, the vital pulse, and anxiety, its ghosts.
Catherine
Hi everyone, here’s our itinerary. Arriving on the evening of December 13th. Departing on January 7th.
Thanks in advance for your tips and valuable feedback.
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Manila – 1 night Coron – 4 nights Coron to El Nido cruise – 2 nights El Nido – 4 nights Port Barton – 5 nights Flight from Puerto Princesa to Vigan Vigan – 2 nights Sagada – 2 nights Banaue – 2 nights Bagabag – 1 night Manila – 1 night I’ve only booked the flight to Manila and the Manila/Coron flight so far. Is it possible to book boat trips, accommodations, and the Puerto Princesa flight last-minute?
Thanks in advance. Florence
Really disappointed with Costa Rica! Pura vida? The scam of the century!
(Costa Rica pure emptiness).
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
The country where animals are free and people are in cages. 3 weeks in December in this country and never again. Imagine the trailer of a movie that seems interesting, and when you go see it, you realize it’s a flop and the best moments were in the trailer. Well, that’s exactly how we felt with Costa Rica pure emptiness. My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and didn’t expect to be so wrong about a place. On the main routes, we visited: San José Alajuela Limón, Cahuita, Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo (Caribbean side) Jaco, Quepos, Manuel Antonio (Pacific side) And a few short stops in intermediate towns.
Our dissatisfaction grew gradually like this:
When we arrived at the hotel, the taxi dropped us off on a small street in front of a white metal gate with ground-floor windows barred. We looked at it skeptically, but the sign matched. He approached the gate, rang the bell, the buzzer sounded, and the door opened slightly. The hotel wasn’t bad for the price, a 10-minute walk from downtown, but with a "Fleury-Mérogis" vibe guaranteed.
So far, so good.
After showering and regaining our bearings, we headed downtown. What started to unsettle us on the way was seeing houses with bars on the ground-floor windows and even on the second floor. At first, we thought the hotel’s neighborhood wasn’t great.
Downtown San José: It’s a generic city, not very exotic, with a pedestrian street and a small mercado where you can eat local food without frills. Very few tourists—if any—which let you blend in with the locals. We had lunch and struggled to make ourselves understood because, aside from one or two shops, English wasn’t spoken. On the way back to the hotel, we took a different route, and while chatting and strolling, my wife pointed out a beautiful two-story white house completely barricaded like Fort Knox. From that moment, we started noticing the facades of houses and buildings, and wow, it was creepy—most looked like prisons, some even with barbed wire. Though put off, we told ourselves it was probably a big-city thing and the rest of the country couldn’t be like this.
So far, so good.
We relaxed at the hotel and had a drink at the bar. Night falls early, around 5:30 PM. By 7:30 PM, we headed back downtown for dinner. A bit unsettling for a capital—downtown was almost deserted, and aside from fast-food chains, very few restaurants were open, with hardly anyone on the streets. Bars with security guards out front. I won’t say we felt unsafe that night, but once it got dark, we realized the bars on the windows weren’t for nothing. First day in, and our impression was already mixed.
The next day, we explored the city and surroundings, and our feelings didn’t change.
So far, so good.
Off to Cahuita by bus—4 hours of travel. The landscapes are very green but quickly become monotonous. The road runs alongside the forest and passes through a few towns and villages, and even in the countryside, there were just as many prison-like houses. The bus dropped us off at Cahuita’s terminal station—only four of us got off. It’s a village, or rather, a small town. Cahuita is basically one straight road and a perpendicular one, and honestly, doubt started to creep in. A few restaurants that add 13% tax and 10% service charge—so 23% extra. We dropped our stuff at the hotel and went to explore. In 20 minutes, we’d seen it all. We had lunch and planned to check out the famous park. Entry is by donation—well, the "entry" is a joke. There’s a path along the forest by the sea, and that’s it.
Nothing’s going right anymore.
We thought it was a total scam, but since we hadn’t gone far, we decided to come back the next day to explore further. We returned to the hotel, relaxed, and around 8:00 PM, we went out for dinner. Only two restaurants were open, and the streets were deserted.
Creepy!
The next day, we explored the so-called park more thoroughly and really got it. A path along the forest by the sea—2 hours there and 2 hours back, where you see animals that feel like showing their faces. A total joke—"all that for this?"
The beach was full of wood debris and coconut husks. We wondered if the photos online were edited because the sea, very rough, wasn’t the azure blue we’d seen in pictures. But calling this a park is a joke—it’s like a new concept.
When we thought about the reviews online, we started to suspect that professionals with interests in the country were monitoring and countering any negative feedback that could harm their business. Too bad we didn’t check the negative reviews beforehand—we did while we were there, and it helped. We wondered if we’d become too demanding after all our travels, but no—when something’s bad, it’s bad.
Manuel Antonio’s park is even more ridiculous—there’s a short path along the sea for about 500 meters, and then nothing. You have to climb through mud and hack your way through the forest. We ended up barefoot because the mud was up to our calves. All that to see a raccoon and a few parrots flying overhead.
We didn’t expect Noah’s Ark, but we’ve seen more animals in Bali, Mexico, and Thailand while visiting temples or just walking around than in these so-called parks!
Puerto Viejo, not far from Cahuita and supposedly livelier—well, it couldn’t be worse! According to Lonely Planet, it had a Caribbean vibe and wild nights, but maybe that was a long time ago. The good reggae music playing everywhere isn’t enough.
In the evening, Puerto Viejo was a bit livelier than Cahuita, but that’s not saying much. Very few tourists—if any—no night market, just two or three shops open selling $20 T-shirts. Same vibe as San José.
No big deal—we enjoyed the beach and the sun, which was reliable. Our itinerary was supposed to include Tortuguero Park, but after talking to other travelers who’d just been, we changed our minds, knowing we’d be visiting Manuel Antonio Park on the Pacific side.
To get back to the Pacific side, you have to take the bus and go through San José again—5 hours this time—then switch bus terminals and another 4.5 hours to Quepos. A stopover town to get to Manuel Antonio’s beach and park! A town just like the others we’d seen—deserted as soon as the sun sets, and not exactly bustling during the day either. (Where are all the tourists?)
Still as many bars on the windows and that feeling of being in the wrong place.
7 km later: Manuel Antonio beach and park. The beach is very beautiful and quite large, but don’t expect turquoise blue water—the waves stir up the sand, giving the water a brownish color. Along the beach, shops and restaurants for about 300 meters, and then nothing. At night, after sunset, the town shuts down too.
Manuel Antonio Park is highly praised for its wildlife, so we were eager to see it. When you express dissatisfaction with Cahuita or Manzanillo parks, the response is always, "But you should’ve gone to Monteverde or Manuel Antonio!" No matter what you do or say, they’ll tell you, "You should’ve gone there or here."
Back to our famous park—entry was about $16, and contrary to what we’d heard, it wasn’t crowded! Guides at the entrance with spotting scopes offered their services for about $30. The park: a mix of boardwalk and dirt paths through the forest, sometimes running alongside beautiful coves and beaches. As soon as we entered, a crowd was taking photos of a deer eating leaves. A little further on, a guide with a group of five stopped. The guide raised his arm and set up his spotting scope! He showed them, about 100 meters away, a hummingbird perched on a branch. Some, looking through the scope, exclaimed, "Oh my God! Amazing! Incredible!" For a moment, we thought they’d discovered a unicorn or were in Jurassic Park and had just crossed paths with a T-Rex! The concept is comical—looking at a bird or another animal through a spotting scope because it’s too far away. Isn’t that what TV is for? For our part, we saw monkeys, ants, an armadillo, an iguana, and the backside of a sloth climbing a tree. Amazing, incredible!
We stayed a few days in Manuel Antonio to enjoy the beach, changing hotels often because prices varied wildly from one day to the next for shameful services. On top of that, they’d quote a price in dollars and convert it at their discretion—thieves!
Alajuela, a city near the airport, has a two-story mall and a local market downtown! No interest except its proximity to the airport.
What we liked:
The climate and, in hindsight, San José—the most authentic city we visited.
What we didn’t like, in addition to what we’ve already mentioned:
Costa Ricans aren’t very friendly or communicative. English is barely spoken, not even by doctors at Quepos Hospital, where my wife ended up with food poisoning (thanks, Google Translate). The widespread obesity among Costa Ricans, who eat like Americans. The insecurity. The eco-hipsters who leave their $150 lodges in minivans with guides to visit parks and other sites, then return to barricade themselves in their fortresses at nightfall (oh my God, amazing, incredible). The blue signs at the entrance of towns that accept this payment method: "We accept American Express." Parking lots that become paid just because a guy is watching your car. Prices displayed in dollars. The cost of living (hotels, restaurants, taxes). Landscapes that are too green and not flowery enough. Beaches—nothing exceptional. Pollution in cities where big American trucks rule. Sewage dumped directly into the sea. Aside from the jungle, there’s nothing to visit—no ruins, monuments, or anything worth seeing.
In short, my wife and I think the hype about this supposedly eco-friendly country is overrated. It’s just the trendy destination of the moment. There are much better, cheaper, and more authentic places. In hindsight, we keep the good memories and our beautiful photos, but if we had to do it over...
Before signing off, a little message to those who don’t like hearing opinions different from theirs: Well, some things aren’t up for debate. And to those who’d have us believe that in 3 weeks, we don’t have the right to criticize a country or express our feelings—how can you praise it in so little time? What a scam. Costa Rica is a money pit. Pura vida? Pure cosmic emptiness.
If you like spending your evenings barricaded in your cozy hotel after dark, this country is for you. For everyone else: run!
Hello,
Since the war between Russia and Ukraine, nothing is simple anymore for traveling to Belarus due to sanctions.
No more direct flights from the EU to Minsk.
Driving is a huge hassle, especially crossing through Poland at the only open border in Brest—you can wait 2, 3, or even 4 days just to get through by car.
The least painful driving option is to come via Lithuania and cross at the only open border, with a minimum wait time of 8 hours, sometimes up to 20 hours or more!!
Controls are very strict and annoying on both the Lithuanian and Belarusian sides. Avoid bringing alcohol, food, or cigarettes—everything will end up in the trash, especially when leaving Belarus for Vilnius, where the Lithuanians are tough, even with EU citizens.
The joy I once knew when visiting my wife in Minsk is sadly over—it’s now a real ordeal.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
The fastest solution is to fly. My wife travels to France by taking a bus to Kaunas in Lithuania, where you can catch a flight (though not daily) to Paris Beauvais or Charleroi in Belgium with Ryanair, for example. For the return trip, it’s the same: a flight to Kaunas and then a direct bus from the airport to Minsk. The bus crossing is quicker than driving—the 250 km journey, including border checks, takes about 6 to 8 hours for buses leaving Lithuania around midnight, but controls are still strict at the border. The biggest challenge is finding flight schedules that align with the bus routes between the two countries, given the unpredictable border crossing times. Now, my wife travels via Charleroi in Belgium (near Brussels), and you can take a train to Paris. Alternatively, you can fly into Beauvais and take a bus to Paris (Porte Maillot). For those driving, note that EU insurance and assistance policies no longer work in Belarus or Russia. You’ll need to get local insurance, usually limited to third-party liability (I don’t think full coverage exists?), as well as mandatory medical insurance. This is available at the border. You now have to pay highway tolls—no more BELTOLL boxes. Instead, you pay a flat fee for the duration of your stay. Stop at the first gas station after crossing from Lithuania to fill up on fuel and cigarettes. From what I know, Lithuania bans carrying more than 60 € in cash, but there’s no limit for USD (though it’s capped at $10,000??). With a Visa card, you can now withdraw 1,000 rubles per week (about 270 €)—two months ago, it was only 500 rubles!! For now, you can still pay by card in shops and gas stations. However, major retailers like KORONA (which may be Russian-owned??) no longer accept foreign Visa cards. Unfortunately, the additional sanctions announced by the U.S. on August 5, 2025, against Russia—and possibly Belarus—aren’t promising for the future. After 20 years of visiting Belarus, I’m truly saddened to see the joy of living in this country with my wonderful wife turn into such a bleak situation, all because of human folly.
Hi everyone!
I’m putting together our travel itinerary for Veneto at the end of April. And the more I look and research potential sites to visit, the more I find!
We’ll only be there for a week—my family and I—including 3 days in Venice. So we have to make some choices...
I plan to rent a car when we arrive in Venice and head straight to Bergamo, which would be our first stop. We’d leave the car at the airport when we return to Venice so we can explore the city at our leisure.
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
What do you think: 1 night in Bergamo (a 2h15 drive from Venice airport), 1 night in Garda, 1 night in Verona, 1 in Padua, and 3 in Venice—would that be doable?
Thanks in advance for your tips and experiences! :)
Now that the curtain has fallen on the past year, it’s time to see what’s happening around here.
It seems pretty quiet, but I’ll read more in detail later.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
First, I need to tell you all an anecdote.
My eldest little girl, in her third year of law school, was really scared she wouldn’t pass the year. I told her: “Trust yourself, you’ve worked so hard, and worst case, if you fail, you’ll just redo the year.” “But I don’t think I’ll make it—they changed the rules, and if I mess up even one unit, I have to start all over.” I knew her grades weren’t exactly stellar, and with what I was about to say, I wasn’t taking much of a risk. “Here’s the deal, sweetheart: if you pass, I promise I’ll take you to India, just the two of us.” I have to admit, India is a country I’ve talked about so much to all my grandchildren that in their minds, it’s become a magical, mythical place (hmm).
July had barely begun when my phone rang, her name flashing on the screen. “Mamido, I did it!” My promise came rushing back—oh no, oh no, oh no! “Congratulations, sweetheart!” A little shyly, she said: “Is the India trip still on?”
And me, replying: “Of course it is!”
And that’s that—a promise is a promise, or you risk losing that precious trust that keeps hearts warm and at peace.
We’re leaving in February. Only 8 days—yikes, the carbon footprint! But we can’t miss her tutorials, or she’ll be kicked out. Personally, that works just fine for me.
Going to India has become a challenge for me. It’s far, it’s exhausting, I sweat, I hate mosquitoes, the spices bother my mouth when I used to love them. There’s noise all the time—at night, the dogs bark nonstop, and we almost get run over. I’ll get lost in the streets because my sense of direction has vanished. I don’t like rice anymore. All that chaos and those cultural differences that once enchanted me now just overwhelm me. But I promised.
The upside—and it’s a big one—Raman, the same driver I’ve had forever, will be at the airport with a sign with our names. We’ll stop at the same little shop for chai (or tea, plain and simple) with that aroma that intoxicates me, halfway through the trip.
It’ll be a tiny trip—staying with friends, I’ll show her a few places I love: Chidambaram, Mamallapuram, and the clinic where I worked. Then we’ll head back. My little girl will go home to her parents.
As for me, I’ll leave right away for our Scottish island with Homme for our chilly winter.
How can you love a country so much you want to live there, then suddenly reject it, no longer able to appreciate what once made it special? That’s the mystery of love, I guess.
I’ve visited the U.S. four times myself, including two long road trips. The last one was just this past August...
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
I won’t be going back. I already felt guilty last August, but recent policies have finally convinced me: the humiliation of Zelensky, authoritarian excesses, Gestapo-like methods for detaining people of foreign origin, the murder of innocent people (a mother shot dead), corruption, insane "tariffs," skyrocketing healthcare costs for Americans, the abduction of foreign figures to secure oil, the requirement to disclose social media accounts, and now... threats and blackmail to forcibly take Greenland—a region that belongs to Denmark and thus the European Union!
The reality is that simply posting this could get me denied entry to the U.S.!
In this context, I just can’t keep spending money there. I loved my trips, but there are so many other countries with stunning landscapes to explore.
So I get why you’d want to travel there. I did, and I loved it. But once a country no longer respects any of the values that made us love it, why go?
How can we even consider traveling to a country that threatens to take one of our territories by force?
Hi there,
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
While reading some travel journals, I notice that we always reflect on the people of the countries we visit.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on which people charmed you the most during your travels?
I’m not looking for controversy, just reflections and personal feelings. Looking forward to reading your replies...
Hello everyone,
Controversial topic? Not necessarily—maybe just a reflection on a world to come.
I spent the last 15 days of August on a cruise in Greenland, from Kangerlussuaq to Tasiilaq.
I was utterly amazed by this unique world of rock and ice, the little houses in every color, a simple life that’s also complicated by isolation and climate, among other things...
I carry in my heart the kindness of the people I met, the raw and gentle majesty of the icebergs, the colors of the sky...
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,
So, I can’t even imagine a massive presence of raw material prospectors, heavy machinery requiring roads to be built—if that’s even possible—changing their way of life... putting sled dogs out to pasture!
Do fast food and Greenland’s northern lights really mix?
I wouldn’t trade my memories for an ESTA!
All opinions are respectable, which is why this isn’t a controversy—but I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for *my* Greenland.
Best regards,

Hello to all East Africa lovers and nature enthusiasts in general,
While I prepare to share a recap of our latest trip/safari in Kenya soon, I’d like to wish you all a peaceful transition between 2025 and 2026.
Warm regards,
Puma2A.





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